Hi,
I am not new to the knot, but new in this type of role (MOH). Just wondering how you step down from being involved in a wedding, after you accepted the MOH over a year ago? Everything I read online says to pretty much suck it up and do it. I'm not worried about ruining the friendship but every time I try and talk to her to completely avoids me and ignores me.
I am sure you want a little back story... I will give you the short story, with just the important details.
In jan, this couple broke up and cancelled the wedding. Instead of the groom cancelling it, he paid the the final deposit and is forcing her into it by guiltiling her and she feels obligated to do it.
We traveled with them in Jan after this happened (prebooked the trip), and they got into this huge fight and the bride gave him an ultimatum over his dog (her or the dog). While this all went down on vacation, my best friend (also another bridesmaid) was watching the grooms dog, and the bride completely twisted the situation (no issues with the dog, twisting it too the dog destroyed the other friends home and almost killed her kids). Groom found out this was a lie, which caused a huge fight in the airport when he called her out on it and them breaking up again. The bride was yelling at him in the airport, saying shit like "good, I can find someone who will take care of me and not expect me to work" shit like that.
Anyways, I told the bride she was being ridiculous and her behavior was not acceptable. We haven't talked since. The bride also never talked to the girl watching her dog, nor did they ever pick up the dog.
Oh wait, we did talk when she FB messaged me to please "pay my deposit and RSVP to the wedding since all bridal party had yet to do so".... I didn't even respond, none of us did and now I feel like I want nothing to do with this "friend".
I just don't know how to tell her with out ripping her a new ass on it. One of my friends said I was the one being ridiculous in the situation... and I should just do it, cause really their fights aren't any of my business....
Thoughts?