An invitation snark...

Maggie0829

MyNameIsNot said:

We used labels on our envelopes. If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place. I don't think it matters at all.  The envelopes get thrown away the instant they are opened.  Who cares?

I agree that labels are a victimless crime at worst, but I hate this logic.

That's the same argument that's constantly used to justify cash bars, gaps, HM registries, and whatever else some selfish couple wants to do.

But the logic makes sense because labels actually do not affect a guest in the slightest.  A cash bar, gaps, HM fund, etc all do affect a guest because it promotes greediness, makes guests open their wallets at your wedding, or makes them wait around for X amount of hours until the party gets started.

A label does not negatively affect a guest so if someone does take offense to a freaking sticker then they have larger issues to deal with.

katiekessler123

MyNameIsNot- I don't agree, bc cash bars and gaps effect your guests in a negative way.  The labels have absolutely no bearing on the comfort of your guest.

holyguacamole79

I think @Mynameisnot is saying that the logic of "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place" is what bothers her.  Jane Bride may try to justify any faux pas by saying "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place". 

MyNameIsNot

holyguacamole79 said:

I think @Mynameisnot is saying that the logic of "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place" is what bothers her.  Jane Bride may try to justify any faux pas by saying "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place". 

That's exactly what I'm saying.

There are plenty of people that aren't offended by cash bars, gaps, whatever, despite the fact that they are rude. There are a few people that are offended by address labels.

It's not about whether it directly affects comfort, but the attitude that of the host who says, well, if you are offended by my faux pas, then screw you.

beachyone15

I'm not really bothered by address labels either. It just makes me think the wedding may be less formal than if full-on calligraphy was used.

What annoys me more is the fact that I just got an invite to a wedding that is less than 4 weeks away, and was only given 1 week to respond. I don't think it's B-list though because H is a groomsman and the bride posted something on facebook about how she was behind on getting the invites out.

theartistformerlyknownas

beachyone15 said:

I'm not really bothered by address labels either. It just makes me think the wedding may be less formal than if full-on calligraphy was used.

What annoys me more is the fact that I just got an invite to a wedding that is less than 4 weeks away, and was only given 1 week to respond. I don't think it's B-list though because H is a groomsman and the bride posted something on facebook about how she was behind on getting the invites out.

I'd much rather get an invite at 16 weeks than 4.

flutteringinfl

MyNameIsNot said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I think @Mynameisnot is saying that the logic of "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place" is what bothers her.  Jane Bride may try to justify any faux pas by saying "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place". 

That's exactly what I'm saying.

There are plenty of people that aren't offended by cash bars, gaps, whatever, despite the fact that they are rude. There are a few people that are offended by address labels.

It's not about whether it directly affects comfort, but the attitude that of the host who says, well, if you are offended by my faux pas, then screw you.

I'd still disagree with that though. It's understandable to be offended by something that's outright rude and affects your comfort as a guest. Being offended by that says more about the host than the guest.

But if I decided, "My handwriting sucks, I can't afford a calligrapher or printed envelopes, so I'm going to find some nice labels and use that," and someone's reaction was to be upset by that, well I think that says more about them than me.

VulgarGirl

Yo, if someone I know is sitting around getting upset about labels, then I know someone with too much damn free time. Get a fucking job, a hobby, go masturbate, whatever. But sitting around being upset over the existence of a mailing label is just a terrible use of free time.

katiekessler123

Exactly MagicInk!!  Personally, I think it's a ridiculous thing to be upset by, and my point is that I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who perseverates on topics like this.  With that said, there are people I've come across in life that are offended by EVERYTHING. Those are the people that are no longer in my life. 

holyguacamole79

MagicInk said:

Yo, if someone I know is sitting around getting upset about labels, then I know someone with too much damn free time. Get a fucking job, a hobby, go masturbate, whatever. But sitting around being upset over the existence of a mailing label is just a terrible use of free time.

The thing is, I don't think OP (or anyone) is upset / offended.  She's just snarking.  I seriously doubt she's going to be crying to her therapist about this. 

Cookie Pusher

I really couldn't care less if people use labels on their invitations. However, if there was a whole bunch of other etiquette breaches, I'd probably just throw the label thing into the pile while snarking.

Maggie0829

holyguacamole79 said:

MagicInk said:

Yo, if someone I know is sitting around getting upset about labels, then I know someone with too much damn free time. Get a fucking job, a hobby, go masturbate, whatever. But sitting around being upset over the existence of a mailing label is just a terrible use of free time.

The thing is, I don't think OP (or anyone) is upset / offended.  She's just snarking.  I seriously doubt she's going to be crying to her therapist about this. 

Yeah I don't think we are talking about OP anymore, rather just in general.

MyNameIsNot

flutteringinfl said:

MyNameIsNot said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I think @Mynameisnot is saying that the logic of "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place" is what bothers her.  Jane Bride may try to justify any faux pas by saying "If someone was offended by that, then that is probably the type of person that I wouldn't want at my wedding in the first place". 

That's exactly what I'm saying.

There are plenty of people that aren't offended by cash bars, gaps, whatever, despite the fact that they are rude. There are a few people that are offended by address labels.

It's not about whether it directly affects comfort, but the attitude that of the host who says, well, if you are offended by my faux pas, then screw you.

I'd still disagree with that though. It's understandable to be offended by something that's outright rude and affects your comfort as a guest. Being offended by that says more about the host than the guest.

But if I decided, "My handwriting sucks, I can't afford a calligrapher or printed envelopes, so I'm going to find some nice labels and use that," and someone's reaction was to be upset by that, well I think that says more about them than me.

But it's also understandable to be offended by something that is improper, even if it is small.

I don't care about address labels, but I do get irritated when I'm incorrectly addressed. It's the same thing. If you do it wrong and it bothers someone, a decent host doesn't say, well, screw you, your opinion is too fussy.

julieanne912

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

novella1186

Cookie Pusher said:

I really couldn't care less if people use labels on their invitations. However, if there was a whole bunch of other etiquette breaches, I'd probably just throw the label thing into the pile while snarking.

Yeah, I had the impression that the OP just threw in the thing about the labels because of how obnoxious and rude the other stuff was. Normally I could not care less about a label, but with all of the other things in the list, it would probably annoy me too. Just because, damn. 

marie2785

julieanne912 said:

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

If you had handwriting like me, you'd be in a position where you HAVE to use the computer. Even when I go slow, my handwriting looks like a 4 year old's. Me being thoughtful about my guests=me printing the addresses on envelopes or using labels. If they were by addressed by hand, they might not actually arrive!

Maggie0829

marie2785 said:

julieanne912 said:

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

If you had handwriting like me, you'd be in a position where you HAVE to use the computer. Even when I go slow, my handwriting looks like a 4 year old's. Me being thoughtful about my guests=me printing the addresses on envelopes or using labels. If they were by addressed by hand, they might not actually arrive!

Yeah just because something is addressed by hand doesn't make it feel that much more personal to me.  The fact that you invited to your wedding is personal enough.

novella1186

Maggie0829 said:

marie2785 said:

julieanne912 said:

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

If you had handwriting like me, you'd be in a position where you HAVE to use the computer. Even when I go slow, my handwriting looks like a 4 year old's. Me being thoughtful about my guests=me printing the addresses on envelopes or using labels. If they were by addressed by hand, they might not actually arrive!

Yeah just because something is addressed by hand doesn't make it feel that much more personal to me.  The fact that you invited to your wedding is personal enough.

My mom is an amazing calligrapher and offered to do our wedding invites. So she sat there and wrote out every single address. Well, it apparently looked too nice because two different people have asked us what font we used to print those addresses lol. Oh well. 

paperpusher

novella1186 said:

Maggie0829 said:

marie2785 said:

julieanne912 said:

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

If you had handwriting like me, you'd be in a position where you HAVE to use the computer. Even when I go slow, my handwriting looks like a 4 year old's. Me being thoughtful about my guests=me printing the addresses on envelopes or using labels. If they were by addressed by hand, they might not actually arrive!

Yeah just because something is addressed by hand doesn't make it feel that much more personal to me.  The fact that you invited to your wedding is personal enough.

My mom is an amazing calligrapher and offered to do our wedding invites. So she sat there and wrote out every single address. Well, it apparently looked too nice because two different people have asked us what font we used to print those addresses lol. Oh well. 

I used a Harry Potter font for my labels...

badbnagdway

novella1186 said:

Maggie0829 said:

marie2785 said:

julieanne912 said:

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

If you had handwriting like me, you'd be in a position where you HAVE to use the computer. Even when I go slow, my handwriting looks like a 4 year old's. Me being thoughtful about my guests=me printing the addresses on envelopes or using labels. If they were by addressed by hand, they might not actually arrive!

Yeah just because something is addressed by hand doesn't make it feel that much more personal to me.  The fact that you invited to your wedding is personal enough.

My mom is an amazing calligrapher and offered to do our wedding invites. So she sat there and wrote out every single address. Well, it apparently looked too nice because two different people have asked us what font we used to print those addresses lol. Oh well. 

That's actually hilarious. 

I hand wrote my wedding invitation addresses. I bought a green calligraphy type pen and just went to town in my own broken cursive. I guarantee yours looked better but no one will mistake ours for having been printed by a computer. Maybe for having been written by a small child learning cursive...

I had our return address pre-printed on our envelope flap and also had our address printed on the RSVP post card. I do not think any people or animals died because of that. 

KatieinBkln

novella1186 said:

Maggie0829 said:

marie2785 said:

julieanne912 said:

My mom is an amazing calligrapher and offered to do our wedding invites. So she sat there and wrote out every single address. Well, it apparently looked too nice because two different people have asked us what font we used to print those addresses lol. Oh well. 

MOMFONT!

Dreamergirl8812

julieanne912 said:

My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it.  I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written.  Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail.  But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.

This. I wouldn't be offended or upset by an invite addressed with a label, but it does look lazy. And it didn't even occur to me to use labels on my wedding invites. I just didn't think about it. It wasn't a mass mailing, it was a wedding invite.

novella1186

KatieinBkln said:

novella1186 said:

Maggie0829 said:

marie2785 said:

julieanne912 said:

My mom is an amazing calligrapher and offered to do our wedding invites. So she sat there and wrote out every single address. Well, it apparently looked too nice because two different people have asked us what font we used to print those addresses lol. Oh well. 

MOMFONT!

Bahahaha! I should totally tell them that when they ask. 

mrstrevor15

My handwriting is bad too. I ordered my invites from vistaprint and they offered a label that matches them. I used the labels for our address only, and the addresses of guests will be hand written by my sister. I'd rather have something that at least matches, compared to something that looks like chicken scratch....

edited for typo

julieanne912

I get it if your handwriting sucks, I wouldn't want to address mine either if I had bad handwriting.

I also just ordered a return address stamp so I don't have to write all of those on the outside envelopes.  It's not too weddingy so we'll be able to use it after the wedding too.  

KatieinBkln

I am more likely to find hand-writing easier than actually figuring out how Excel/mail merge works, so that's probably what will happen.

Whatever is the laziest option is what I will do, but I rarely find computers to be any more time-saving because I suck at them.

pinkcow13

We have a stamp label thingy to stamp our address on the invites. And I'm writing addresses in "calligraphy." I personally don't care if someone sends the envelope with a label. 

pinkcow13

Oh, and since this is a thread on an invitation snark, last week my MOH received an invitation for her friend's wedding in Florida. The wedding is in October. RSVP is requested by June. The invitation stated that it is an adult only event, and the registry information was ON the invitation. 

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kaitlynmichelle

I got a friend's wedding invite in mid September for her wedding that still hasn't happened. It's the end of April.

kaitlynmichelle

Also I'd always prefer a label over anything else if my name is written correctly. Doesn't bother me.