Small Rant - And Some Good

FiancB

novella1186 said:

levioosa said:

KatieinBkln said:

southernbelle0915 said:

levioosa said:

SO's Mom brings over anti-vax and anti-abortion pamplets all the time and just leaves them on the coffee table.  

Um, wut? That's awful. 

You should start leaving planned parenthood and pro-vax pamphlets on her nightstand, in her bathroom drawer, taped inside the kitchen cupboard, in the pocket of her coat, buried in the dog food, under the couch cushion, her in book, under her keyboard, scrolled up in her coffee cup, taped to "April" on her calendar, in her suitcase... see how she likes it then.

I mean, I have always found that my mind can be changed completely with a properly deployed pamphlet.

Obviously.  Picketing meant to shame me is a close second. 

I went to a conservative college apparently. Every spring, a church group would set up a huge "cemetery" in our main quad for all the aborted babies, and they'd chase you down and give you pamphlets. 

We had that too, and I went to Oregon State so... not very conservative. They set up in the quad and then once a year we also had a group that was mennonite-ish stand by the library (much cheaper than the quad) and yell about how education for women is sinful. There's wackadoos everywhere.

H's parents are pretty good. They do weird shit for sure, but they don't stick their noses in our business really.  I have the crazy parents.  My mom likes to send us Catholic books and I'm a bit worried next time we go visit that they might still want us to sleep in separate rooms because we're not REALLY married since we didn't get married in a church.  If that does happen we're turning around and leaving and not coming back. 

ashley8918

Sugargirl1019 said:

But your FI was standing there when his mom said "put it here". He moved it to where she wanted. He should have said "no mom that is not where loveislouder wants it". Or even "I don't think my future wife would like it there!"

It's that he allowed his mom to make decisions for him. I get you, OP. I would be super frustrated at both parties.

Who the fuck cares if he took his mom's suggestion? If "do not ever move the bed" was never explicitly discussed, he doesn't need to ask her permission. This is ridiculous.

larrygaga

I still can't even believe how big of a deal this is. Your FI wasn't just taking orders from her over you, he probably was like "Okay sure" and didn't think much of it. Because it's not a big fuckin deal. 

I am honestly embarrassed for you that you yelled at him over it and that so many people ITT think what you did was totally justified. 

ashley8918

larrygaga said:

I still can't even believe how big of a deal this is. Your FI wasn't just taking orders from her over you, he probably was like "Okay sure" and didn't think much of it. Because it's not a big fuckin deal. 

I am honestly embarrassed for you that you yelled at him over it and that so many people ITT think what you did was totally justified. 

Same. I feel like i'm in the fucking twilight zone here.

How do you people have FRIENDS?

larrygaga

ashley8918 said:

larrygaga said:

I still can't even believe how big of a deal this is. Your FI wasn't just taking orders from her over you, he probably was like "Okay sure" and didn't think much of it. Because it's not a big fuckin deal. 

I am honestly embarrassed for you that you yelled at him over it and that so many people ITT think what you did was totally justified. 

How do you people have FRIENDS

Same. I feel like i'm in the fucking twilight zone here.

ash you quoted the really mean thing i said that I immediately deleted. 

NOW IM NOT GOING TO BE POPULAR

lyndausvi

larrygaga said:

larrygaga said:

ashley8918 said:

larrygaga said:

I still can't even believe how big of a deal this is. Your FI wasn't just taking orders from her over you, he probably was like "Okay sure" and didn't think much of it. Because it's not a big fuckin deal. 

I am honestly embarrassed for you that you yelled at him over it and that so many people ITT think what you did was totally justified. 

How do you people have FRIENDS

Same. I feel like i'm in the fucking twilight zone here.

ash you quoted the really mean thing i said that I immediately deleted. 

NOW IM NOT GOING TO BE POPULAR

Thank you.  I thought I was the only one shaking her head over the bed.  

The living room, yeah that's weird.  A bed suggestion?  Meh, it's a suggestion.  Nothing to yell at your SO over.

ashley8918

larrygaga said:

ashley8918 said:

larrygaga said:

I still can't even believe how big of a deal this is. Your FI wasn't just taking orders from her over you, he probably was like "Okay sure" and didn't think much of it. Because it's not a big fuckin deal. 

I am honestly embarrassed for you that you yelled at him over it and that so many people ITT think what you did was totally justified. 

How do you people have FRIENDS

Same. I feel like i'm in the fucking twilight zone here.

ash you quoted the really mean thing i said that I immediately deleted. 

NOW IM NOT GOING TO BE POPULAR

There, now I said it I'm already wildly unpopular around these parts.

larrygaga

ashley8918 said:

larrygaga said:

ashley8918 said:

larrygaga said:

I still can't even believe how big of a deal this is. Your FI wasn't just taking orders from her over you, he probably was like "Okay sure" and didn't think much of it. Because it's not a big fuckin deal. 

I am honestly embarrassed for you that you yelled at him over it and that so many people ITT think what you did was totally justified. 

How do you people have FRIENDS

Same. I feel like i'm in the fucking twilight zone here.

ash you quoted the really mean thing i said that I immediately deleted. 

NOW IM NOT GOING TO BE POPULAR

There, now I said it I'm already wildly unpopular around these parts.

not with me

emmaaa

I mean I would be more frustrated at my MIL overstepping her boundaries than H letting her help decide where a bed goes. OP has a reason to be upset but I think definitely overreacted by yelling at her FI. You.could have definitely stood up for yourself.

VulgarGirl

At least your FMIL didn't get stuck under the bed.

onefootinthebayou

southernbelle0915 said:

levioosa said:

SO's Mom brings over anti-vax and anti-abortion pamplets all the time and just leaves them on the coffee table.  

Um, wut? That's awful. 

You should start leaving planned parenthood and pro-vax pamphlets on her nightstand, in her bathroom drawer, taped inside the kitchen cupboard, in the pocket of her coat, buried in the dog food, under the couch cushion, her in book, under her keyboard, scrolled up in her coffee cup, taped to "April" on her calendar, in her suitcase... see how she likes it then.

Or how about just a basic introductory level Immunology text book. You know, the kind that gets written, peer-reviewed, edited and published by ACTUAL scientific professionals?

levioosa

onefootinthebayou said:

southernbelle0915 said:

levioosa said:

SO's Mom brings over anti-vax and anti-abortion pamplets all the time and just leaves them on the coffee table.  

Um, wut? That's awful. 

You should start leaving planned parenthood and pro-vax pamphlets on her nightstand, in her bathroom drawer, taped inside the kitchen cupboard, in the pocket of her coat, buried in the dog food, under the couch cushion, her in book, under her keyboard, scrolled up in her coffee cup, taped to "April" on her calendar, in her suitcase... see how she likes it then.

Or how about just a basic introductory level Immunology text book. You know, the kind that gets written, peer-reviewed, edited and published by ACTUAL scientific professionals?

Naw, that's "Big Pharma."  They're just out for the money, not trying to keep completely preventable deaths from occurring, you know?