Dress shopping drama

SCbride007

Im going dress shopping tomorrow and I'm already expecting it to be a cluster fuck. I invited my grandma, MOH, and one BM just so I have backup if/when my mom try's taking control. My sisters are also coming apparently and one may be bringing her bf despite me saying no.

It doesn't help that i already get totally overwhelmed going shopping. Any suggestions on how to make the appointment go smoothly?

VulgarGirl

A flask of vodka. Or whatever your favorite cocktail is.

julieanne912

Cancel it and reschedule for a day when you can go alone or with one trusted person.  There's no reason for all those people to be there, especially your sister's BF (WTF on that one, and why would a guy even want to go wedding dress shopping?).  A few of the places I visited limited the number of "entourage" anyway.  Maybe lie and tell them that you just realized this shop only allows you to bring 2 people or whatever.

banana468

I guess I wonder why you asked so many people to go with you.   If you have any strong opinions in there it could be a recipe for disaster.

But what's done is done:

1) Don't think you're walking away buying a dress that day.   All those opinions will make it very difficult to decide.

2) You may need to tell people to nicely STFU.

3) Don't bring any of them into the dressing room with you.

Then once you get that day out of your system, only shop with the person who is paying for the dress (in case that isn't you) and maybe one other person that you trust.

I bought my dress on the first day with my mom.   There's no way I would have wanted more people trying to tell me what would or wouldn't work.    It's overwhelming. 

lauraukoctober2014

leave your method of payment at home so there's no way you can be persuaded to sign on the dotted line tomorrow.

ohannabelle

Knottie60530262 said:

Im going dress shopping tomorrow and I'm already expecting it to be a cluster fuck. I invited my grandma, MOH, and one BM just so I have backup if/when my mom try's taking control. My sisters are also coming apparently and one may be bringing her bf despite me saying no.

It doesn't help that i already get totally overwhelmed going shopping. Any suggestions on how to make the appointment go smoothly?

WTF to the bolded. Say no again. Absolutely not. 

No good can come of taking this many people. Not only is it going to make it harder for you to be certain of your own opinions, it's inconsiderate of the other other shoppers and sales people. You mention sisters, plural, so I'm getting a head count of 8?

That's just overwhelming. 

I'm with the pervious poster who advised you to cancel. 

SCbride007

I assumed it would be just me plus the 4 I invited. I invited my grandma and two best friends because if it was just me and my mom I would get nowhere. They are the three I know will tell me if something looks awful, but also tell my mom when to STFU.

I'm going to call my mom and put my foot down. This is definitely more than I want to deal with.

larrygaga

Okay so when I went shopping it got out of control with the amount of people. (Not really my choice, I get it) I asked the sales lady to only bring dresses that I ask for and one respected my wishes. If
You think there's one you love ask if you can sleep on it. Take pictures and go back the next day alone and secretly to try It on and buy it.

That's what I did and it worked really well!

LabLove86

I have only been shopping once - and I asked 6 people to go with me (wrongly assuming that a couple of them wouldn't be able to . . . . ) and 5/6 were able to come with me.

I am a strong opinionated person, and it was very overwhelming for me with all of the different opinions and personalities. 

The next time I go I will bring one maybe 2 people. Or go alone. I highly suggest trying to limiting the number of people you take with you.

But let us know how it goes - good luck finding something!!

drunkenwitch

I just read this post to my BF and he was horrified at how many layers of inappropriate your sisteR is being. Plant your foot down so hard that tectonic plates get shifted, you are right, your mom and sister are wrong wrong wrong.

SCbride007

So today went better than expected. My grandma and I convinced my mom that the bf wasn't welcome. Everyone's opinions actually lined up closely with mine. Easiest way to tell which dresses were worth holding onto was just looking at my grandmas face; if said everything that needed to be said.

I think we may have found the dress! I want to go somewhere else to try it on because the bridal consultant I had was so atrocious I wasn't sure if I loved it or just wanted to GTFO. I honestly don't think she heard anything I said. I said I wear a size 10 in normal clothes, but know I'm a 16 or so in bridal. First dress she brings out is a size 10. I say I don't like strapless, don't want a ton of embellishment, and HATE poofy ridiculous skirts and long trains...she basically brought out exactly what I said I didn't want.

beachyone15

Knottie60530262 said:

So today went better than expected. My grandma and I convinced my mom that the bf wasn't welcome. Everyone's opinions actually lined up closely with mine. Easiest way to tell which dresses were worth holding onto was just looking at my grandmas face; if said everything that needed to be said.

I think we may have found the dress! I want to go somewhere else to try it on because the bridal consultant I had was so atrocious I wasn't sure if I loved it or just wanted to GTFO. I honestly don't think she heard anything I said. I said I wear a size 10 in normal clothes, but know I'm a 16 or so in bridal. First dress she brings out is a size 10. I say I don't like strapless, don't want a ton of embellishment, and HATE poofy ridiculous skirts and long trains...she basically brought out exactly what I said I didn't want.

Ugh! The same thing happened to me. I said "absolutely no dropped waist gowns" because I've tried a few before and they make me look God-awful. What does the consultant do? Brings me dropped waist-style gowns and says "well, you haven't tried OURS yet". Bitch, NO. I ultimately didn't end up buying from her. It's definitely worth it to find a good consultant! Glad your experience was better than expected though.

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LabLove86

Ahh my first consultant was horrible! 

"This is a fit and flare" No. Its not. 

"This trumpet will look great on you!" No, it won't.

I hope I don't get her again.

pinupbride6189

I feel your pain with the less-than-phenomenal consultants. I went dress shopping with two of my friends several weeks ago, just to get a feel for what style I wanted.

My requests were lace, keyhole or low back, preferably something with a dropped waist, not strapless.

Her eyes bugged out when I said not strapless and she said, "We'll see what we can do with that..."

I was glad that was only a test run. She managed to scrounge up a few that weren't strapless, but nothing with an pretty back like I wanted. 

larrygaga

My first consultant was horrible too! She CRIED when I walked in. She said it was "your face and your hair omg"

That's why she was crying. I just kind of walked away and looked through the dresses. My demand was easy, I told her no strapless. She brought me a strapless and I asked her to put it back and bring me things with sleeves. Yeah nah

Crazy old lady

Actually, I did end up trying on a strapless. I know the seamstress and there was a dress she wanted to see on someone that they just got in and nobody would try. It was ugly. lol