I can't even believe I'm writing this post.
Background: I'm at my friends' house last night. It's a couple that's dating, but not yet engaged.
So we're discussing a wedding that my friends were invited to. The couple wants to have a "daytime formal" wedding, which is some royal wedding attire nonsense so they included a card with the invitation instructing people what wear. It actually said "hats are recommended".
I say how I think it's rude because, duh, it is. They are both like oh no I think you have to tell people want to wear to your wedding.
I was like people will know what to wear to your wedding; they don't need instructions. And the girl is like well what if I want people to dress formally. I said weddings are a formal event. People will know what to wear based on the location, time, invites, etc, and the only time it's appropriate to include attire info is when then venue has a dress code or if you are having a true black tie event.
This leads to the guy saying you can have black tie optional, to which I said that's confusing and also not a thing. Then we got into a whole discussion about what is/is not black tie, but I digress.
Anyway, I'm all like why do you care what other people wear anyway? It won't affect your day. He responds by saying it will affect their day and people should respect them enough to dress appropriately and he would be super offended if anyone wore something he deemed inappropriate.
I'm like well you can't just tell people what to wear. They are adults, and you should be happy they are coming to your wedding and not concerned with their outfits. He said, and this is a direct quote, "It's the bride and groom's special day; people should do what they want them to."
I damn near fell out of my chair. I said your reception is to thank your guests for coming to your wedding so no, it's not really about your "vision".
He says, I disagree. I'm like well, that's not really an opinion; it's a fact.
Finally, I said you can do what you want when y'all get married, but it's rude and I will judge you for it.