Anyone not have prewedding parties and regret it?

mattsgirl2004

My FI and I both have told our friends and family that we do not want any prewedding parties (bridal shower, bach party, etc.).  We decided this for many reasons, but the main reason is because we are gettting married Dec 10th of this year.  Many of our guests, family members,and those in our WP are already having to travel, pay hotel fees, wedding attire, etc.  We do not feel okay with allowing prewedding parties that are going to be an extra expense to others.  Our wedding is right in the middle of the holiday season and we don't want our wedding to be a burden to anyone.  We have been together almost 7 years and have lived together over 5 years.  We do not need anything, so I don't see the point of having parties where others feel like they need to bring a gift. Also, my friends do not get along all to well and I forsee any kind of party being a huge drama-fest (which happend at my 30th birthday party).  I don't even want to deal with it.  Some of our family members are upset about us opting out on these parties and are insisting on atleast a bridal shower.   So, my question is, did any of you not have any prewedding parties and regret it?  Also, are we wrong in not going through with the prewedding parties and depriving others of the enjoyment of them? 

Kristin789

We had no pre-wedding parties and don't regret it.

I was offered a WORK shower, and though I understand that this is one of only two exceptions of people being invited to something but not the rest, I knew I wasn't going to invite ANYONE from my work, so I didn't want them to be invited to a mass.

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Nope. The only pre-wedding party I had was a bridal shower. I really wanted one. I never cared about an e-party (that is a newer thing) or a bach party. A few of my BM's just took me out for dancing and drinks. Simple and fun.

katetw

We haven't had an engagement party, and I haven't missed it. I did have a couple showers (we have divorced parents and they live all over, so it was three) and a bachelorette party, and wished I had skipped on all of those, actually. (They were lovely and the hostesses spoiled me, but it created side drama I wish I didn't have to deal with.)

Girlie1030

My b-party consisted of me and my best girl (MOH) going out for fondue and wine - it was perfect.  I opted out of a family/friend shower but was thrown a surprise work shower.  I don't regret anything. 

mattsgirl2004

Thanks everyone for you input.  I feel much better now knowing I'm not the only one who decided to not do the pre-wedding parties.  I sure appreicate it!

unplainjane

i'm not doing any pre-wedding parties. we're doing a small wedding and just have a BM and MOH, no additional wedding party. we were never one for bach parties. as well FI and i have been together 10 years and aren't registering. my MOH offered to host a shower but personally i never liked the idea of showers as i saw them as a gift getting thing and always found them a bit awkward as the group of people coming to the shower would normally never hang out together.

bellebride116

I just had a shower and that was it. 

We didn't want an engagement party. We knew off the bat we wanted to have a destination wedding and really didn't want to bother with the engagement party. Plus, we had a long engagement so we thought it would be stupid. 

I didn't want a bach party at all and kept insisting to everyone to please not throw one. No one got why I didn't want one, but I really just had zero desire. I don't regret not having one at all! 

IndigoRain

I had two showers, and that is all. I don't regret not having engagement parties, bachorlette parties. I wouldn't have minded haveing only one shower, or no shower really. I'm all partied out after the wedding as it is.