Hi everyone! I could really use some help with my FMIL. Before I begin, I should preface this with the fact that we have a good relationship and have always had one since my fiancé and I started dating six years ago. Now that we are engaged, she is really excited (naturally, her first-born is getting married!) and has been a big help throughout my planning. (My mother was married in the Philippines and was sort of clueless when it came to wedding planning here in the US)
Now here's the part where she's driving me to drink:
A few months ago, my sister planned a wine tasting tour for my bachelorette party. The wine tasting was pretty much my idea because it was something she knew I always wanted to do. She invited my FMIL even though it was sort of odd to do so because my FMIL wouldn't stop talking about having a bachelorette party when we got engaged. Oddly enough, my FMIL declined saying that the trip was too expensive (it was $165 for the day with fees, transportation and lunch). Okay. We totally understood. She then proceeded to text me telling me that the trip was too expensive for her, that it was just a "limo ride and lunch" and then suggested that we go to Ocean City, MD for the weekend instead. I told her that I didn't want to do that and that I would see what everyone else's responses were. I was completely baffled by her response because she told me it was a bad idea and then suggested something that was way more expensive than my original plan. She basically made me feel like such crap. I also heard from my best friend that she was telling people that she felt bad that my fiancé's sister couldn't go, who by the way, is only 19 years old and would not be allowed to drink.
In the end, the wine tasting tour never happened because many of the people invited couldn't go. My sister felt bad and arranged a trip to Orlando this June instead for her, myself and my best friend. My FMIL gets word that we are going (my best friend is actually my fiancé's brother's girlfriend) and texts me to tell me that she and my fiancé's sister (the 19 year old) are crashing our trip to Orlando. I politely tell her that the trip is just a trip planned by my sister and just for the three of us. Apparently, she isn't getting the hint that she isn't invited because I am still hearing about her telling people she and my fiancé's sister are going to Orlando.
I really don't want her to go after she made me feel like such crap. How can I tell her that she is not invited without causing a world of drama? My fiancé refuses to get involved, my sister is ready to curse her out and my best friend and her boyfriend (my fiancé's brother) have already said something to her without any luck. Any help is greatly appreciated!