Are Family Members "Entitled" to be Invited?

Knottie78608632

My sister and I have never been close, and things have escalated to the point that she is accusing me of things I never did and telling my father how low her opinion is of me. Recently I overheard her telling my nephew that I'm a "filthy f***g whore piece of s**t" Why? I have no idea...

She found out I overheard when I sent her a message, explaining that I was removing myself from her life, and even then she thought she was invited to the wedding. It was only after discussing it with my nephew that she realized, and she's mad at HIM, presumably because it was his fault I know how she feels.

She believes she is entitled to an invitation because she is a blood relative, especially since there will be people at the wedding whom she also hates. 

Thoughts?

ashley8918

No. No one is entitled to an invitation.

theartistformerlyknownas

Hell to the fuck no.

lovegood90

Absolutely no one is entitled to an invitation. The only people entitled to an invite are the 2 people getting married and the officiant. If you're having guests, then also any significant others of those guests. That's it!

mikenberger

Knottie78608632 said:

My sister and I have never been close, and things have escalated to the point that she is accusing me of things I never did and telling my father how low her opinion is of me. Recently I overheard her telling my nephew that I'm a "filthy f***g whore piece of s**t" Why? I have no idea...

She found out I overheard when I sent her a message, explaining that I was removing myself from her life, and even then she thought she was invited to the wedding. It was only after discussing it with my nephew that she realized, and she's mad at HIM, presumably because it was his fault I know how she feels.

She believes she is entitled to an invitation because she is a blood relative, especially since there will be people at the wedding whom she also hates. 

Thoughts?

Nobody is entitled to an invite to your wedding. If you don't want her there, don't invite her.

And stop discussing the situation with your nephew/letting him tell you things that she's saying. That's drama you don't need to stir around. Or get further involved in.

bethsmiles

Nope. No one is entitled to an invitation. You act like an ass, treat people poorly and piss them off you don't get invited to things, doesn't matter if you share some DNA.

blabla89

No, she's not entitled to an invitation and you don't need to invite her if you don't want her there.

julieanne912

Absolutely not, especially in that situation.  

I've got a few cousins I'd rather not invite, but they've never really done anything terrible to me so they're still getting an invite, but you bet your ass if they did/said something to me like that?  No way.

Knottie78608632

I agree with all of your comments. I have had no contact with her since January. It feels very liberating to be out of the drama. I have no idea if she is still ranting, and I don't care. As long as I don't hear it, it doesn't exist.

KatieinBkln

PPs have this covered, but I'm a little surprised you even care what she thinks she may be "entitled" to. You've removed her from your life; you officially don't have to give a single fuck what her opinions are about your choices. Fly free, little bird! Fly away from the mean sister, fly away from discussing her with your nephew!

Jells2dot0

I didn't invite anyone to my wedding and that was primarily because of my family!!!!

Knottie78608632

You made an interesting point - why do I even care...

I suppose we're conditioned to preserve the closeness of family relationships, but I have the satisfaction of having tried. 

 The day before she said what she did, I asked her to say the blessing at the reception and she said she was honoured. You're right, DNA is all we share.

The freedom feels nice! My nephew and I are very close and we have an agreement that she is a topic that is off-bounds. 

levioosa

Being blood does not give anyone the right to be an asshole or treat others like shit.  It also doesn't garner an automatic invite.  If you've removed her from your life, continue to pretend like she doesn't exist.  That includes excluding her from your wedding. 

novella1186

Nope. Blood doesn't make you family and it most definitely doesn't make you entitled to anything. 

No no no no no. 

Anyone who treats you like garbage is NOT family and should not be at your wedding, or in your life for that matter. 

minttobemrsb

Repeating this, but NO one is entitled to an invitation. Blood or not. The only people that FFIL invited were his siblings. No one else. Why? He isn't close to them and we definitely aren't close to them. I see no reason inviting someone to your wedding that you wouldn't invite over to your house for dinner. 

Good for you for standing your grounds!

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mikenberger

pinkrevenge said:

Hahahaha, no she is not entitled to dick.

You could send her a bag of gummy dicks, though. She's not entitled to them, but she has earned them.

OMG. I saw these on Facebook the other day. Kinda want to buy them. Not gonna lie. I'd like a bag of gummy dicks.

Knottie78608632

I'm actually thankful that I was nearby and heard it. The only thing worse than knowing someone hates you is NOT knowing. I can't imagine what would have happened if I had continued to trust her, and we want only the people at our wedding who are happy along with us.

KatieinBkln

Knottie78608632 said:

I'm actually thankful that I was nearby and heard it. The only thing worse than knowing someone hates you is NOT knowing. I can't imagine what would have happened if I had continued to trust her, and we want only the people at our wedding who are happy along with us.

It must have really hurt to hear that. I can't imagine what it would be like to hear that kind of garbage coming out of my mother's mouth either (poor nephew!).

novella1186

Knottie78608632 said:

I'm actually thankful that I was nearby and heard it. The only thing worse than knowing someone hates you is NOT knowing. I can't imagine what would have happened if I had continued to trust her, and we want only the people at our wedding who are happy along with us.

I have some experience with people like your sister, so I'm gonna say that she doesn't hate you, she hates herself. Don't take her nastiness personally. I doubt you did anything to deserve it. She just doesn't know any other way to be, and that's very sad for her. 

Just continue to keep her out of your life and enjoy not having to deal with her misery. 

Knottie78608632

It did hurt, because I've never done anything bad to her. My nephew was shocked, although she's been verbally abusive for years. He was even more shocked to discover she still assumed she was getting an invitation, lol!

mrsdee15

What a horrible thing for her to say, I'm sorry you're going through this.  Nope, no one is entitled to an invite, even blood relatives.  My aunt isn't invited because she tried to tear the family apart by suing for all of my late grandfather's inheritance.  Screw her.