Bridesmaids woes

Knottie1427636642

I have one bridesmaid who refuses to wear a dress(14) and another who wants to over sexualize herself(also 14). do I inform my parents since they are both my little sisters or should I tell them straight up myself?

Heffalump

Well, since you're the bride, you do have some say in their attire.  If they wanted to show up in gorilla suits, you'd be within your rights to say no.  I always think it's nice when the bride gives the bridesmaids a say in what they wear, so is there a way that you can accommodate their requests?

For example, if Sister #1 refuses to wear a dress, is a skirt an option?  Pants?  Have you talked with her at all about what she'd like to wear?  If she says she wants to wear VS shorts with "PINK" across the butt, then that's a challenge, but hopefully there is some middle ground you can both agree on.

Same deal with Sister #2.  "Oversexualize" is so vague and subjective--is it that she wants to wear a skintight leather cut out dress, or that she wants to go strapless and you think she's too young?

Technically, all that's required is that they wear the dress and show up sober (hopefully not an issue if they're 14), but giving them input on their attire will help prevent this from being a big sister-little sister power struggle. 

VarunaTT

I don't really think you need to tell them anything.  Choose the dress you want and think is appropriate and let them decide if they want to be in the wedding, wearing it.

I do have one concern re: no dress sister.  Is this, "I hate dresses" phase or an identity issue?  B/c if it was an identity issues, I'd let her wear a tux that looks like the other men in the party and move along.

I don't think you need to involve your parents.  Just stand firm if sisters refuse to wear dress that they'll be welcomed guests and maybe give them a different party of the wedding that isn't party.

southernbelle0915

Just find a dress you like (that's in budget) and tell them that's the dress. 

If sister who hates dresses doesn't want to wear it, come up with an alternative for her, like pants and a blouse in the color of the dresses. If over-sexualized sister complains that if other sister gets to wear something else, she gets to wear daisy dukes and a halter top, tell her she can choose between those two outfits (the dress or the pant/blouse combo), but that's it for alternatives.

hmonkey

or you could say you are having a juggalo wedding. that way, whatever you want them to wear will look just fine by comparison.

juggalos ftw!