Shower gift thank you notes

charcoalandblush

So I'm having a shower in my hometown on Saturday. I'm planning on checking a large suitcase and bringing three extra duffel bags for anything I might need to bring back, but Monday and yesterday I actually got four of my shower gifts in the mail. I'm guessing people wanted to send them directly to me so that I wouldn't have to bring them back.

So now I have a thank you card conundrum. Do I send the givers a thank you note now, or after the shower? If I should wait until after the shower to send the note, should I send them a text or give them a call to know that I received them give a verbal thank you now? I opened the shipping boxes (I didn't know what they were and am expecting some packages that I ordered myself) so I know what they are.

Maggie0829

I would just send them now.  Depending on when you get the notes out in the mail (today or tomorrow) they may not even get them until after the shower anyways.  Then at your shower you can just say "I sent you a note in the mail but I wanted to thank you again for the mixer."

MyNameIsNot

Since it's only a week, I would just send them with the rest of the shower thank yous next week. 

I would mention that the gifts had been received and give a verbal thank you when I saw them at the shower this weekend. 

lovegood90

I'd send them now.

photokitty

Another vote for send them now. 

I would also mention the gifts at the shower while opening the other gifts - assuming the givers are in attendance at the shower. That way they won't get a side eye for not carrying in a gift from any of the busybodies. 

Dreamergirl8812

Thank you notes should be sent when gifts are received. No reason to wait.

Plus, it's easier on the wrist to space them out a bit.

blabla89

Always send a note right away. Of course, if the gift givers are at the shower, you can give them another verbal thank you then.

ETA: I also think that it's appropriate to open the shipping box as soon as it arrives to send a thank you note and make sure it isn't damaged. But I'm not totally sure if that's correct - what do you ladies think?

charcoalandblush

blabla89 said:

Always send a note right away. Of course, if the gift givers are at the shower, you can give them another verbal thank you then.

ETA: I also think that it's appropriate to open the shipping box as soon as it arrives to send a thank you note and make sure it isn't damaged. But I'm not totally sure if that's correct - what do you ladies think?

That's definitely one of the reasons I'm doing it too, a lot of the stuff I'm getting for this shower so far is fragile (two sets of dishes, crock pot with a ceramic insert, etc.).

Maggie0829

blabla89 said:

Always send a note right away. Of course, if the gift givers are at the shower, you can give them another verbal thank you then.

ETA: I also think that it's appropriate to open the shipping box as soon as it arrives to send a thank you note and make sure it isn't damaged. But I'm not totally sure if that's correct - what do you ladies think?

If I get something delivered to my house I am going to open.  Mainly because how am I supposed to know what is in it without opening it?  They shipped it to my house so I am assuming they want me to open it.  If they didn't want me to open it until I got to my shower then they wouldn't have shipped it.

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Send the TY cards now.  Maybe they're not even planning on attending your shower, so there's no reason to wait until AFTER it to thank them.  I don't attend showers.  I don't like them.  But I use the invitation to the shower as a reminder to ship the gift.

And the PP is right about saving your wrist by spacing out the writing of the TY notes.

huskypuppy14

Honestly, send them now if you can, but it's not the end of the world if you wait until after your shower. It's only 4 days away. 

In general, the rule is to send a thank you note as you receive the gifts, not wait until the event that it was sent for. 

Any gifts I received before the wedding or shower, I sent TYs immediately. However, I received a gift in the mail the day before my wedding, and I just waited until after the wedding to send the thank you note (the gift giver went to the wedding), because I didn't have time to do it that day.