I RSVP'D "no" for the first time!!!

ShesSoCold

MadHops21 said:

ShesSoCold said:

I've declined an invitation for football. But I have season tickets. I've also skipped most of the cocktail hour of a wedding with a gap on a gameday to finish watching the game at the bar. 

I have a DW in a few weeks and playoff hockey tickets. The playoff schedules aren't out yet (obviously) but if we weren't also spreading my mom's ashes that weekend, I'd be changing my accept to a decline to stay home and go to the game. 

Wait, you're from Chicago, right? Season tickets? To the Bears? Because I, too, have season tickets to the Bears and live in Chicago. How are we not friends? 

I don't know! I need more football friends! Most of my friends are all, "You go to ALL the games? Even the cold ones?! Isn't it....cold?".

SMH.

theartistformerlyknownas

STARMOON44 said:

lolo883 said:

amelisha said:

@littlepep, it's not the declining because of a game I think is so crazy, it's the saying you shouldn't have your wedding during "football season" (wtf that is, because I don't even know when that happens other than "I think during the fall?") because no one will come. I do think that's insane. Should people also not schedule weddings during the World Series/Stanley Cup playoffs/whatever happens at the end of basketball? Does that leave any Saturdays available, even?

So September through January is off limits for college football through pro playoffs, plus October in there for baseball playoffs, which may or may not be on a Saturday but you don't know yet. April-June for hockey and basketball playoffs, which may or may not be on a Saturday but you don't know yet. You may get married in February (except not Valentine's Day because date night), March (except St. Patricks Day because parties/drunk), July or August. So what's that, 14 weekends a year for everyone to choose from. But not Fridays because that's rude. 14 Saturdays.

Don't forget the summer Olympics.

And March Madness! So like 11 Saturdays 3 out of 4 years.

FiancB

Both times mainly because it wasn't really clear until the last minute whether I WAS invited. 

My best friend's brother from OR got married in MN a month before I did (his wife is from MN). They sent an invite to my parents, knowing they wouldn't actually go, and I didn't get my own so I assumed I wasn't invited. Whatever, it's fine, her brother and I actually don't like each other all that much but we've all been lifelong neighbors/family friends. 

So like a week before the wedding bff clarifies I actually am invited. I said no because I was so busy planning my own wedding, it was a 4+hour drive away, and I'd been needing to do those on basically weekly basis for this and that. Plus on top of not being sure if I was invited, I still wasn't sure if H was invited. Kind of wish I'd gone because I don't get many chances to hang out with my bestie, but oh well. The thought of getting in the car for 8 hours and spending another weekend away from home was too much at the time.

The other time was an old high school friend that I didn't have much contact with anymore that suddenly announced that anyone who wanted to come to her wedding could come a few days before. So that was B-listing, but not even specific B-listing. 

PrettyGirlLost

littlepep said:

amelisha said:

@littlepep, it's not the declining because of a game I think is so crazy, it's the saying you shouldn't have your wedding during "football season" (wtf that is, because I don't even know when that happens other than "I think during the fall?") because no one will come. I do think that's insane. Should people also not schedule weddings during the World Series/Stanley Cup playoffs/whatever happens at the end of basketball? Does that leave any Saturdays available, even?

I totally agree. I would never tell someone not to get married during football season. Like you said there's always something going on and in that mindset, you'd never be able to plan a wedding. 

I just wouldn't judge someone who already had plans to attend a game. 

I would if they were close family or friends. . . it's a sports game- one out of multiple home games- of which you can sell the tickets.  No one needs to see every.single.game nor attend every.single.game.

I grew up surrounded by sports- my grandfather was an equipment manager for our pro hockey and football teams, and he was an usher for our pro baseball team.  Athletes visited him at his home.  They attended his funeral and wake.  I love hockey, we have season tickets. . . but there are 41 home games and another 41 on the road, not even counting post season.  I was not about to try and schedule my wedding around hockey games when I already had to worry about scheduling my wedding around other local brides' weddings. . . since they were booking the same venues.

And I wasn't about to pick another season because Spring is typically too damn cold and unpredictable, Summer is too fucking hot and I was not about to sweat through the most expensive dress of my life- and DH HATES being too hot and gets ugly, and Winter is also typically too damn cold and unpredictable.  Plus in Spring there's still hockey and baseball and college basketball, Summer there's baseball, and Winter there's still hockey and football and college football.

PrettyGirlLost

Now I wouldn't judge people who were non season tickets holders who already had plans to attend a game or who were traveling OOT to go to a sporting event.  And I'd never expect them to cancel their trip or change their plans.  If someone had a vacation booked in advance and then learned of a wedding, we wouldn't suggest they reschedule their trip. 

I know it's hard as hell and expensive as hell to become a season ticket holder, so if you are not and able to score tickets to see your team, I get it.

ShesSoCold

amelisha said:

@littlepep, it's not the declining because of a game I think is so crazy, it's the saying you shouldn't have your wedding during "football season" (wtf that is, because I don't even know when that happens other than "I think during the fall?") because no one will come. I do think that's insane. Should people also not schedule weddings during the World Series/Stanley Cup playoffs/whatever happens at the end of basketball? Does that leave any Saturdays available, even?

I totally agree. I would never tell someone not to get married during football season. Like you said there's always something going on and in that mindset, you'd never be able to plan a wedding. 

I just wouldn't judge someone who already had plans to attend a game. 

I would if they were close family or friends. . . it's a sports game- one out of multiple home games- of which you can sell the tickets.  No one needs to see every.single.game nor attend every.single.game.

I grew up surrounded by sports- my grandfather was an equipment manager for our pro hockey and football teams, and he was an usher for our pro baseball team.  Athletes visited him at his home.  They attended his funeral and wake.  I love hockey, we have season tickets. . . but there are 41 home games and another 41 on the road, not even counting post season.  I was not about to try and schedule my wedding around hockey games when I already had to worry about scheduling my wedding around other local brides' weddings. . . since they were booking the same venues.

And I wasn't about to pick another season because Spring is typically too damn cold and unpredictable, Summer is too fucking hot and I was not about to sweat through the most expensive dress of my life- and DH HATES being too hot and gets ugly, and Winter is also typically too damn cold and unpredictable.  Plus in Spring there's still hockey and baseball and college basketball, Summer there's baseball, and Winter there's still hockey and football and college football.

I do.

In all seriousness though, H and I planned our wedding to avoid football and hockey seasons for us, not for guests who might be fans. Especially since it was supposed to be a DW. But I'm not going to get mad at anyone for not doing that. Preseason football starts at the beginning of August and Stanley Cup Finals are usually at the end of June. So people can ONLY get married in July because I like football and hockey? Shit, I'm not that important. 

littlepep

PrettyGirlLost said:

littlepep said:

amelisha said:

@littlepep, it's not the declining because of a game I think is so crazy, it's the saying you shouldn't have your wedding during "football season" (wtf that is, because I don't even know when that happens other than "I think during the fall?") because no one will come. I do think that's insane. Should people also not schedule weddings during the World Series/Stanley Cup playoffs/whatever happens at the end of basketball? Does that leave any Saturdays available, even?

I totally agree. I would never tell someone not to get married during football season. Like you said there's always something going on and in that mindset, you'd never be able to plan a wedding. 

I just wouldn't judge someone who already had plans to attend a game. 

I would if they were close family or friends. . . it's a sports game- one out of multiple home games- of which you can sell the tickets.  No one needs to see every.single.game nor attend every.single.game.

I grew up surrounded by sports- my grandfather was an equipment manager for our pro hockey and football teams, and he was an usher for our pro baseball team.  Athletes visited him at his home.  They attended his funeral and wake.  I love hockey, we have season tickets. . . but there are 41 home games and another 41 on the road, not even counting post season.  I was not about to try and schedule my wedding around hockey games when I already had to worry about scheduling my wedding around other local brides' weddings. . . since they were booking the same venues.

And I wasn't about to pick another season because Spring is typically too damn cold and unpredictable, Summer is too fucking hot and I was not about to sweat through the most expensive dress of my life- and DH HATES being too hot and gets ugly, and Winter is also typically too damn cold and unpredictable.  Plus in Spring there's still hockey and baseball and college basketball, Summer there's baseball, and Winter there's still hockey and football and college football.

You're right and I guess I misspoke. I would never decline a good friend's wedding for football. The only time I've done that is for someone I'm not close to.

littlepep

ShesSoCold said:

amelisha said:

@littlepep, it's not the declining because of a game I think is so crazy, it's the saying you shouldn't have your wedding during "football season" (wtf that is, because I don't even know when that happens other than "I think during the fall?") because no one will come. I do think that's insane. Should people also not schedule weddings during the World Series/Stanley Cup playoffs/whatever happens at the end of basketball? Does that leave any Saturdays available, even?

I totally agree. I would never tell someone not to get married during football season. Like you said there's always something going on and in that mindset, you'd never be able to plan a wedding. 

I just wouldn't judge someone who already had plans to attend a game. 

I would if they were close family or friends. . . it's a sports game- one out of multiple home games- of which you can sell the tickets.  No one needs to see every.single.game nor attend every.single.game.

I grew up surrounded by sports- my grandfather was an equipment manager for our pro hockey and football teams, and he was an usher for our pro baseball team.  Athletes visited him at his home.  They attended his funeral and wake.  I love hockey, we have season tickets. . . but there are 41 home games and another 41 on the road, not even counting post season.  I was not about to try and schedule my wedding around hockey games when I already had to worry about scheduling my wedding around other local brides' weddings. . . since they were booking the same venues.

And I wasn't about to pick another season because Spring is typically too damn cold and unpredictable, Summer is too fucking hot and I was not about to sweat through the most expensive dress of my life- and DH HATES being too hot and gets ugly, and Winter is also typically too damn cold and unpredictable.  Plus in Spring there's still hockey and baseball and college basketball, Summer there's baseball, and Winter there's still hockey and football and college football.




I do.

In all seriousness though, H and I planned our wedding to avoid football and hockey seasons for us, not for guests who might be fans. Especially since it was supposed to be a DW. But I'm not going to get mad at anyone for not doing that. Preseason football starts at the beginning of August and Stanley Cup Finals are usually at the end of June. So people can ONLY get married in July because I like football and hockey? Shit, I'm not that important. 

Same for us. We planned around football for us not other people. I would never expect someone to plan around me. There are too many factors to plan around other people.

drunkenwitch

I would totally skip a wedding if I had tickets for The Book Of Mormon that, without an ounce of guilt.

*I got to see Book of Mormon when it came to town, it was better than I ever dreamed it would be.  And would skip a wedding to do it again.

**also holds true if I had a chance to see Mandy Patinkin, Patti Lupone, Julie Andrews, Bernadette Peters, Neil Patrick Harris or Stockard Channing in ANYTHING.

***I have also seen Mandy Patinkin live, I would skip my own open heart surgery to see him again.

Blergbot

I think the only wedding I've ever declined was in Nepal. (Friend lived there at the time, so it was not a destination wedding) The plane ticket alone would have cost over $2,000. I still really wanted to go. I was verbally invited as a plus one to H's cousin's wedding in Grenada right when we first started dating, but H couldn't afford to fly me out and I was in the middle of a semester and couldn't haven taken that much time off. Really wanted to go to that one, too!

FiancB

Oh yeah, I forgot we declined to go to one in Mexico. It was in March and H would've had to take time off unpaid on top having to pay to get to Mexico- teachers have flexible schedules in the summer but outside of that, not so much. We did go to their post-wedding celebration stateside though. 

sophhabobopha

I've only been invited to one as an adult so far. Fi's cousin's wedding. It was very fun!

sarahufl

I have only declined a few weddings. Two on the exact same weekend that I was moving to NYC. I really wanted to go to both, so that was a big bummer. One was a fringe friend and it would be too expensive to go. 

I declined one of H's friends (he went solo) because it was a lot of travel and I had only met her once. This happened to be a year where we were already going to 10 (plus our own) so I went solo to another one later in the year. Had to cut something.

I have probably gone to 50 weddings as an adult. I genuinely like them and go when I can.

FWIW- I would not have scheduled my wedding on a football weekend. But only because I am from a college town and you can't get hotel blocks, traffic is AWFUL, and prices get jacked up on everything during football weekends.

jdluvr06

Ive legit turned turned down going to a wedding before because Ive had tickets to a game or show.

Jells2dot0

I've declined due to:

- had a sporting event I was particiating in as a competitor the same day as the wedding 

- having an overseas vacation planned prior to knowing about the wedding

- having just flown across the country for another more important event within the same month (all of my friends and family are back East and I am out West)

- undergoing chemo at the time of the wedding

jdluvr06

I've also turned down a wedding because it was the same day as my nephew's first birthday.

Cookie Pusher

sarahufl said:

FWIW- I would not have scheduled my wedding on a football weekend. But only because I am from a college town and you can't get hotel blocks, traffic is AWFUL, and prices get jacked up on everything during football weekends.

We got married on campus, so we already knew there was no way we were going to get married during football season. Traffic would have been a nightmare. The school changed conferences (after we had already picked our date), so even more people started going to games because the new conference has fans that travel to ALL the games so there's no way we would have been able to get hotel blocks during a game weekend. 

hellohkb

As someone who's not into sports (neither is FH), it would never occur to me to plan my wedding around a game. I'm going to start declining weddings because I'm watching the newest episode of Bob's Burgers.

lovesclimbing

I've declined a couple. I declined my cousin's wedding. It was out of state (I live in Alaska - you can't exactly drive to any out-of-state weddings unless you have at least four to five days to spare) and I didn't have enough PTO. 

We also declined another cousin's wedding a few weeks ago.  I love him but, again, didn't have enough PTO (my BIL's wedding is coming up and BIL trumps cousin) and although we could have technically afforded the flight, we really didn't want to spend the money. We're trying to save.

huskypuppy14

lolo883 said:

amelisha said:

@littlepep, it's not the declining because of a game I think is so crazy, it's the saying you shouldn't have your wedding during "football season" (wtf that is, because I don't even know when that happens other than "I think during the fall?") because no one will come. I do think that's insane. Should people also not schedule weddings during the World Series/Stanley Cup playoffs/whatever happens at the end of basketball? Does that leave any Saturdays available, even?

So September through January is off limits for college football through pro playoffs, plus October in there for baseball playoffs, which may or may not be on a Saturday but you don't know yet. April-June for hockey and basketball playoffs, which may or may not be on a Saturday but you don't know yet. You may get married in February (except not Valentine's Day because date night), March (except St. Patricks Day because parties/drunk), July or August. So what's that, 14 weekends a year for everyone to choose from. But not Fridays because that's rude. 14 Saturdays.

You forgot March madness! March and first week of April off limits. 

And baseball is April-October but you have to be crazy pants to watch every single baseball game. 

Don't forget the Olympics every 4 years, and the World Cup. Wimbledon, US Open (golf and tennis), Masters.

There is pretty much some sort of athletic event every single day. I think there are like 2 days in the whole year where there isn't something.

My husband is a huge sports fan. Our wedding was during a Red Sox game, and the world cup. The Stanley cup playoffs ended the day before. 

ETA: Ok most of what I said was said before me. 

I think littlepep's point was it's not your place to judge why someone decline's your wedding. One of my good friend's and old roommate declined my wedding because she closed on her house the same week. I didn't care, but a mutual friend thought it was a lame excuse (wedding was not out of town, she could have driven home). 

So some people value sports and some people do not. If you can't go because you can't get a babysitter, that's an ok excuse, or if you have a vacation or tickets to something. But not if you just want to wash your hair or sit at home and watch TV? I'm not saying I'd do it, but an invitation is not a summons people.

theartistformerlyknownas

We can all say "an invitation is not a summons" til we're blue in the face, but in reality, if someone ever told you "I can't come to your wedding; The Voice auditions are on" or something equally unimportant (as I personally consider most sporting events to be, ESPECIALLY regular season college football games), and you know it's not an excuse for some social anxiety or anything, you'd be a little "WTF."

MadHops21

ShesSoCold said:

MadHops21 said:

ShesSoCold said:

I've declined an invitation for football. But I have season tickets. I've also skipped most of the cocktail hour of a wedding with a gap on a gameday to finish watching the game at the bar. 

I have a DW in a few weeks and playoff hockey tickets. The playoff schedules aren't out yet (obviously) but if we weren't also spreading my mom's ashes that weekend, I'd be changing my accept to a decline to stay home and go to the game. 

Wait, you're from Chicago, right? Season tickets? To the Bears? Because I, too, have season tickets to the Bears and live in Chicago. How are we not friends? 

I don't know! I need more football friends! Most of my friends are all, "You go to ALL the games? Even the cold ones?! Isn't it....cold?".

SMH.

You need new friends that understand, obviously. My dad owns the tickets, but he leaves for work trips a lot, so I get to go often enough with my brothers. I've seen some bare ass on the field before during plays. How could you not go? We specifically have hand warmers we bring with for colder games. 

hellosweetie1015

I still wish we were getting married under a tailgate tent before an Auburn home game. Desperately. We just couldn't pull it together. As it is, we planned for the weekend of an away game likely to be in the morning / early afternoon, since bye week and our Thursday game both wound up being too early for FFIL. So... Count me as one who is planning actively around her college football team.

I've only been invited to one wedding without my parents, and I should have declined. I would have watched UGA cream us on TV if I'd declined. STILL wish I'd done that instead.

photokitty

STARMOON44 said:

abl13 said:

Ok so re: the football Saturday weddings. We have gone to weddings of close friends and family during the fall. NBD. But we not would not attend a wedding of a not close friend or family member on a football Saturday.

Everyone in our friend group knows this and shares the same attitude. Therefore no one in our close friend group has had a fall wedding.

Before we were married my H was invited to the wedding of a friend not in his close group of friends. It was a fall wedding so to compromise he and his friends went to the ceremony only. The bride was PISSED and holds a grudge to this day. If you're going to be like this and hold a grudge then yes....have your wedding in a different season.

I'd be pissed if a whole group of people made it abundantly clear they value college sports above my friendship. And I doubt I'd be inclined to socialize further with them. Frankly though I'd rather find out who doesn't need to be a part of my life than plan major life events around a game. Totally fine- you don't want to go to weddings because football. But I don't have to keep being friends with you if you make that choice.

Didn't read to the end, but want to address this. So if it was already pointed out, my bad.

It's not just about sports, but also other relationships. I go to every home football game. In the last 5 years I have missed 2, one bc I sprained my ankle and couldn't walk and another for one of my best friend's mother's funeral - both unexpected events. He knows damn well that had he planned his wedding on a football home game I would have missed his wedding. I tailgate with roughly 30 friends every home game. We are very close. We spend the entire day together. These are people I want to be with and want to spend time with. Why does my choosing to spend time with these friends at a sporting event make me a terrible friend? If I had plans for family dinner and skipped your wedding would you revaluate your friendship with me?

Parent's miss all sorts of things bc their kids have sporting events - does that make them a bad friend if they skip your wedding bc Johnny is in the district playoff game during your wedding?

If you want to sit at home and watch the game on TV by yourself, then yes I agree you should reevaluate your priorities. But people have plans and lives outside of your wedding. If you want to end a friendship with me bc I chose to spend time with other people and attend a football game than I would say it wasn't a great friendship to begin with if you are willing to end it over my prior obligations.

You will never pick a date that works for everyone, but judging people bc they have plans that they prioritize above your wedding makes for a very annoying SS.

I guarantee that everyone has some hobby, event, people, etc that they would priorities over a wedding. Would I miss a wedding for ComiCon - hell no, you'd have to pay me to go to ComiCon - but I guarantee tons of people have skipped weddings for it.

ETA - I have declined weddings on football Saturdays, but not soley bc of the game. I have also attending one wedding of a cousin on a home football Saturday. I was not pleased, but I love him, so I went. I was super pissed when he had his wife tell my sister and I a snarky comment about why he declined our weddings and how the dates we selected didn't work for him. I wasn't offend at all that he couldn't attend, until the snarky comment.

AND see how much I know - turns out it is ComiC Con...who knew, not me bc I think it is as stupid as some people find sports

antoto

I have yet to decline a wedding invite.  I think the only reason I would is if it conflicted with another large event (different wedding, scheduled vacation, etc) or it set a significant financial burden on me (like an international wedding).  

I would never not attend a wedding because of some stupid etiquette fail like putting a registry on the invite.  The only etiquette related reason I would check no would be if they didn't invite DH.

If I never attended a wedding where I noticed small etiquette mistakes along the way I don't think I would have ever attended a wedding thus far.  

Incidentally my husband's good friend will be getting married soon and we aren't sure if they will invite me, because the woman hates me and blocked me on FB.  (in case you're curious, she did this because I spelled her son's name wrong on the wedding invitation I sent them - a mistake I acknowledged and apologized for in an email she never responded to.)  So I'm extremely curious to see what will happen.   

thaboxingdiva

i specifically scheduled my wedding during a lull in sports activity. knowing my group of friends, i would never ever even think of planning an event the weekend of a significant game. But honestly, lets say i did schedule my wedding the weekend of Bama v. LSU (roll tide by the way) i would never expect certain people to attend and i would be ready to accept the shit talk that would come my way. 

but that being said, its all relative. If you truly bleed crimson (or whatever your team colors are) then more power to you. A wedding is a significant moment in someones life, but you still have to live your own with no regrets. 

would i be upset if someone couldn't attend because of a sporting event they are vehemently enthusiastic about? no. its their life, and honestly, they are doing me a favor by coming to my wedding so who am i to dictate their schedule?

Also, as a serious boxing fan, if i got a wedding invite for may 2, 2015 (biggest fight in history but i don't expect you all who don't even know when football season is to know that) i would happily decline to sit in my living room and watch at home. 

kmmssg

photokitty said:

STARMOON44 said:

abl13 said:

Ok so re: the football Saturday weddings. We have gone to weddings of close friends and family during the fall. NBD. But we not would not attend a wedding of a not close friend or family member on a football Saturday.

Everyone in our friend group knows this and shares the same attitude. Therefore no one in our close friend group has had a fall wedding.

Before we were married my H was invited to the wedding of a friend not in his close group of friends. It was a fall wedding so to compromise he and his friends went to the ceremony only. The bride was PISSED and holds a grudge to this day. If you're going to be like this and hold a grudge then yes....have your wedding in a different season.

I'd be pissed if a whole group of people made it abundantly clear they value college sports above my friendship. And I doubt I'd be inclined to socialize further with them. Frankly though I'd rather find out who doesn't need to be a part of my life than plan major life events around a game. Totally fine- you don't want to go to weddings because football. But I don't have to keep being friends with you if you make that choice.

Didn't read to the end, but want to address this. So if it was already pointed out, my bad.

It's not just about sports, but also other relationships. I go to every home football game. In the last 5 years I have missed 2, one bc I sprained my ankle and couldn't walk and another for one of my best friend's mother's funeral - both unexpected events. He knows damn well that had he planned his wedding on a football home game I would have missed his wedding. I tailgate with roughly 30 friends every home game. We are very close. We spend the entire day together. These are people I want to be with and want to spend time with. Why does my choosing to spend time with these friends at a sporting event make me a terrible friend? If I had plans for family dinner and skipped your wedding would you revaluate your friendship with me?

Parent's miss all sorts of things bc their kids have sporting events - does that make them a bad friend if they skip your wedding bc Johnny is in the district playoff game during your wedding?

If you want to sit at home and watch the game on TV by yourself, then yes I agree you should reevaluate your priorities. But people have plans and lives outside of your wedding. If you want to end a friendship with me bc I chose to spend time with other people and attend a football game than I would say it wasn't a great friendship to begin with if you are willing to end it over my prior obligations.

You will never pick a date that works for everyone, but judging people bc they have plans that they prioritize above your wedding makes for a very annoying SS.

I guarantee that everyone has some hobby, event, people, etc that they would priorities over a wedding. Would I miss a wedding for ComiCon - hell no, you'd have to pay me to go to ComiCon - but I guarantee tons of people have skipped weddings for it.

ETA - I have declined weddings on football Saturdays, but not soley bc of the game. I have also attending one wedding of a cousin on a home football Saturday. I was not pleased, but I love him, so I went. I was super pissed when he had his wife tell my sister and I a snarky comment about why he declined our weddings and how the dates we selected didn't work for him. I wasn't offend at all that he couldn't attend, until the snarky comment.

AND see how much I know - turns out it is ComiC Con...who knew, not me bc I think it is as stupid as some people find sports

Pretend I said this.

julieanne912

About 3/4 of our guest list is from Wyoming.  We have season tickets for Colorado Avalanche hockey. We planned our wedding around hunting season and hockey season.  However, when we picked our date, U of Wyoming football schedule wasn't out yet.  Turns out, there's a home game the day of our wedding.  So far, our two sets of friends who have season tickets for that have said they'll skip the game to come, so that's nice.  Probably helps they're playing some random team, so not a conference game or anything like that.  But, if anybody declines our wedding to go to that game, that's OK.  The game will probably be lame (UW isn't exactly stellar), and our wedding will be awesome  

I've only declined one, it was a DW in Italy for some really good friends of ours.  It sucks we had to miss it but FI had just started a new job about a month before receiving the invite and he couldn't ask for time off that soon after starting.  Our friends that went made a whole vacation out of it with the newly married couple, did both Italy and Spain.  I am sad we had to miss it.

WinstonsGirl

I didn't think I've actually declined a wedding, but now I think I kinda did. About 2 months into meeting DH, he invited me to his Brother's wedding in Poland (his wife is Polish). I couldn't go, cos it was during teaching, though I thought it a little weird to be invited so early on into the relationship, DH went with his entire family, so it would have been an intense introduction.

It was also a PPD, kinda, maybe?? They were married here the summer before to get the ball rolling on immigration, but she needed/wanted a Catholic Church wedding back home (no one was invited here, just his immediate family). But I'm not sure of marriage traditions in Poland, so it could be how things are done over there.

bride2b71614

I've only declined once. We received the invites two weeks in advance for a PPD in Peru. Even if we received the invites prior I don't think I would've gone.