Wedding/reunion conflict Facebook slap-in-the-face

theartistformerlyknownas

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

climbingsingle

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

littlepep

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

theartistformerlyknownas

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

There are quite a few people from my teenage years that I've tried to reconnect with lately and can't find on Facebook. College friends are easier since FB was rolled out while we were still in school, but between friends who may have gotten married before I could find them or people who are just cutting ties with FB altogether, it's not that easy. 

But I guess if I can't find them, a reunion committee probably couldn't either. :-p

littlepep

lolo883 said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

There are quite a few people from my teenage years that I've tried to reconnect with lately and can't find on Facebook. College friends are easier since FB was rolled out while we were still in school, but between friends who may have gotten married before I could find them or people who are just cutting ties with FB altogether, it's not that easy. 

But I guess if I can't find them, a reunion committee probably couldn't either. :-p

Ha yeah when they were planning our HS reunion there was one guy that no one could find. It was a huge group effort to track him down, but no one knew where he was. Some people like to stay hidden I guess. 

photokitty

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

littlepep

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

I guess I get that. I just always associate reunions with HS. I've never heard of a college reunion. 

photokitty

littlepep said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

I guess I get that. I just always associate reunions with HS. I've never heard of a college reunion. 

OP said it was a college reunion. Otherwise I agree, personally I wouldn't skip any wedding for my HS reunion. Don't really miss HS

novella1186

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

I guess I get that. I just always associate reunions with HS. I've never heard of a college reunion. 

OP said it was a college reunion. Otherwise I agree, personally I wouldn't skip any wedding for my HS reunion. Don't really miss HS

I just now got a facebook invite to my 10 yr HS reunion. I kind of want to puke. All I remember about HS is my psycho ex and being bullied so... Can't wait to skip that lol. 

littlepep

novella1186 said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

I guess I get that. I just always associate reunions with HS. I've never heard of a college reunion. 

OP said it was a college reunion. Otherwise I agree, personally I wouldn't skip any wedding for my HS reunion. Don't really miss HS

I just now got a facebook invite to my 10 yr HS reunion. I kind of want to puke. All I remember about HS is my psycho ex and being bullied so... Can't wait to skip that lol. 

I honestly could not even fathom wanting to go to my HS reunion. The are a handful of people that went to HS with me that I'm still friends with. Everyone else I just stalk on FB, but I have no desire to communicate with them in real life haha. 

novella1186

littlepep said:

novella1186 said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

I guess I get that. I just always associate reunions with HS. I've never heard of a college reunion. 

OP said it was a college reunion. Otherwise I agree, personally I wouldn't skip any wedding for my HS reunion. Don't really miss HS

I just now got a facebook invite to my 10 yr HS reunion. I kind of want to puke. All I remember about HS is my psycho ex and being bullied so... Can't wait to skip that lol. 

I honestly could not even fathom wanting to go to my HS reunion. The are a handful of people that went to HS with me that I'm still friends with. Everyone else I just stalk on FB, but I have no desire to communicate with them in real life haha. 

I think the best part is, the girl who sent the invite is basically Regina George. I don't think there was a single person in our graduating class who wasn't somehow hurt by her. 

And she gave a dress code, followed by, "I just want you all to look nice, this is a big occasion." Lol. 

littlepep

novella1186 said:

littlepep said:

novella1186 said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

photokitty said:

littlepep said:

climbingwife said:

lolo883 said:

climbingwife said:

FiancB said:

If someone was considering going to a reunion instead of my wedding, I'd figure they weren't  close enough to where I really needed to invite them in the first place. Maybe I'm just not that into reunions. IDK. 

But I agree with PPs. For all you know they could have every intention of going to your wedding but are just curious to see who's going to the reunion. 

I do agree with you on the bolded. I wouldn't choose a reunion over my friend's wedding. Or, I'd figure out some way to do both. 

IDK... I didn't go to high school, but I could potentially see some conflict if you weren't superbestfriends, but there are potentially a dozen or so long lost friends going to the reunion who you might not get a chance to see for another 10 years otherwise... but maybe I'm glorifying reunions in my head since I don't get one. :-p

I feel that now that Facebook exists, I don't really need a reunion with people :-P 

This. And TBH I already keep in touch with the people I care to keep in touch with. Everyone else I'm good just stalking their FB page occasionally.  

I would consider missing a wedding for a college reunion. Most of my college friends have move away and I don't see them very often - except the occasional wedding, ironic I know. If I could see 25 of my friends that I hadn't seen in 5 years I would consider skipping a wedding for a friend. FWIW, people aren't always as close as the other party assumes. I know for a fact that my friend considers me her BFF, she is my friend and I love her - but if I started ranking my friends (tacky I know) she wouldn't be in the top 5.

So just bc someone would pick a reunion over your wedding, it doesn't mean the relationship didn't warrant an invite. Just that they had to make a tough call. Reading about people's lives on FB isn't the same as seeing them IRL.

It hurts, but if she chooses to see her other fiends at the reunion doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

I guess I get that. I just always associate reunions with HS. I've never heard of a college reunion. 

OP said it was a college reunion. Otherwise I agree, personally I wouldn't skip any wedding for my HS reunion. Don't really miss HS

I just now got a facebook invite to my 10 yr HS reunion. I kind of want to puke. All I remember about HS is my psycho ex and being bullied so... Can't wait to skip that lol. 

I honestly could not even fathom wanting to go to my HS reunion. The are a handful of people that went to HS with me that I'm still friends with. Everyone else I just stalk on FB, but I have no desire to communicate with them in real life haha. 

I think the best part is, the girl who sent the invite is basically Regina George. I don't think there was a single person in our graduating class who wasn't somehow hurt by her. 

And she gave a dress code, followed by, "I just want you all to look nice, this is a big occasion." Lol. 

FiancB

Mine's coming up. I sort of want to go, but only because it's around the time I like to go home anyway and it also coincides with other stuff going on in town. As a whole my class was all right. Still, I don't really know anyone outside my immediate circle of friends, so it could be super awkward too. 

I'm surprised how many people I already forgot. My class only had 130 people in it and I don't recognize a lot of people in the reunion facebook group or people that friend me on there. You'd think I'd remember more. And I'm kind of shocked anyone remembered me at all. 

Cookie Pusher

I had a blast at my high school reunion. It was local (within walking distance of my apartment), over Thanksgiving weekend, and I got to see how many of the jocks who were "so cool" had gotten fat and bald. I didn't care to make a ton of friends while I was in school, but most people are much cooler now than they were as teenagers.

arrippa

Because I am old, my 20 year h.s. reunion is this year. I am torn on going. I missed my 10 year but I see everyone on Facebook anyway.

hellosweetie1015

I don't think I'll get any hs reunions. Our class president is in charge of them, I think, and he is not a ... reuniony person. Also I only had 20 people in my graduating class and I didn't care for 1/2 of them. Soooooooo.

If FI wants to go to his, I'll happily go. I wanna see the folks he ran with in high school. I'm sure they were much more interesting than my classmates.

I'm not skipping a wedding to go to any damn reunion, but that would be because the only weddings I'm likely to be invited to are people whose wedding I would never ever miss unless I or an immediate family member were in the hospital / dying / getting married the same day. I only like a small handful of people on this planet outside of my family. Maybe two of them would be at a reunion, so missing a big day in another one of my handful's life for it? Not worth it to me.

lovesclimbing

I was home schooled so this is what any reunion would look like for me.