This article showed up in my FB newsfeed this morning, and after reading it, I had many thoughts. First one: I think this guy is a total jackass.
All he does is give reasons why HIS marriage didn't work. This is no way speaks for the rest of America. So I'm going to break down all his ridiculous reasons.
If you and your spouse are only having sex once every few weeks, THERE IS A PROBLEM. You should be connecting with your SO every day on some intimate level. Whether or not that means sex is up to you. You know who I barely had sex with? My ex-husband. Because I was miserable and not in love.
"Finances cripple us" - Yes, if you don't handle your finances properly. Do my H and I fight about money? Yes. But it's not something that tears us apart. If we realize there's a problem in this area, we fix it. We communicate constantly about money coming in, what bills have to be paid, etc. It's a discussion, not a fight.
"Completely disconnected" - my H and I have nights where we put our phones away and spend all night just talking to each other. When we're away on vacation, our phones are off. Do we text? Sure. By that's not our only way of communication! We eat dinner together every single night. We have lunch together during the week. That's how you stay connected!
"Social media/seeking attention" - if you or your spouse is seeking attention through social media by constantly posting provocative pictures of them self, there is a problem. That is not normal. I, along with married people I know, are not posting half naked pics on Facebook or Instagram. If you're so concerned with what others think of you through social media, you need to seek out therapy.
And his last point - again, put your fucking phone down. That's what my H and I do. Disconnect! Just because you (the author) can't do it, doesn't mean that others can't and won't! And if you feel that your partner is spending too much time online, looking at their phone, SAY SOMETHING. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship!
Ok, rant over. Now tell me all your thoughts too.