should i send early save the dates for family that live across the country

Hez1993

 So my FI and I are not getting married until August 27, 2016 but we live in southern California and alot of my family lives on long island in New York I was wondering if we should send out our save the dates early for them. Most of them have young kids and I feel like if they want to attend I should give them some extra time to plan.

redwoodoriginal

well, that's kind of the point of save the dates. just send them all at the same time? you could send them to all your VIPs like a year in advance.

AddieCake

No. As PP stated, that's the whole point of STDs anyway. Send them at the same time as any others you send.

southernbelle0915

Send them all 10-12 months in advance. People can't usually book plane tickets before then anyway.

novella1186

We have a lot of people coming in from other parts of the country (and several people are flying in from overseas). We spread the word to those people as soon as possible about the date (and a few people asked for the date just to make sure they had plenty of time to arrange travel). Then we sent our STDs out all at the same time, which still gave people plenty of time to book travel.

My cousin, for example, who's flying in from Spain bought her plane ticket about 2 months ago (wedding is in 2 weeks) so between word of mouth and then the STD, she had a lot of time. No big deal. Not one person had to decline our wedding based on not having enough time to plan travel.

As PP said, just send all your STDs at the same time and you'll be fine.

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FiancB

I agree, just send them all around a year out. Even then, you have a fairly high risk of it getting shoved into a drawer and forgotten about, so  still say around 8 months is probably idea for most OOTers. If you think someone needs more time for that, here's what you do:

1. Pick up phone

2. Call person

3. Tell them when your wedding is

Done!

flutteringinfl

We live in FL and are getting married here (though in a different part of the state). Our wedding is about 7 months away and most of our guests are coming from out of state. We have guests in NY, PA, CA, all over the country. We even have a few international guests. I just sent out our STD's. I think August of 2016 is too early now, but the 7-8 month mark should be fine. As PP's said, most airlines haven't even opened their schedules for that time yet. But also, most of our invitees already knew they were invited and when our wedding is before we sent it out.