vests and boutonnieres

MrsHtobe2015

going to pick out suits this week. had an idea to have  only the groom wear a jacket  and vest and groomsmen wear only a vest. is this a fashion faux pas/ can a boutonnière be attached to a vest or only on a jacket?

CMGragain

Yes, it is a fashion faux pas.  If the groom wears a suit, then his wedding party should wear them, too.  The groomsmen should match the groom in their formality of attire.  Vests are not meant to be worn alone without a jacket - at least for the ceremony.  Satin vests are only worn with tuxedos.  Suit vest are usually the same fabric as the suit, and they can be very hot to wear in summer. The guys can take off the jackets after the ceremony to party at the reception.
Boutonnieres are only worn with jackets.
That being said, a lot of people are throwing the rules out the window and having their men wear only vests.

photokitty

It may be a fashion faux pas, but since it does not affect the comfort of your guests it is not an etiquette infraction. If it's the look you want and it fits within in their budget, then it's really up to you two.

southernbelle0915

Yes. Boutonnieres are supposed to be worn with a jacket. It's a victimless crime since it doesn't hurt any of your guests or affect their comfort at your event. But you asked if it breaks any fashion rules. And yes, it does. Kind of like the suit pants with only suspenders look. No one is going to die, but it's a fashion no-no.

And personal (maybe unpopular opinion here).. I think the vest only look is becoming super overdone. Yawn..

banana468

southernbelle0915 said:

Yes. Boutonnieres are supposed to be worn with a jacket. It's a victimless crime since it doesn't hurt any of your guests or affect their comfort at your event. But you asked if it breaks any fashion rules. And yes, it does. Kind of like the suit pants with only suspenders look. No one is going to die, but it's a fashion no-no.

And personal (maybe unpopular opinion here).. I think the vest only look is becoming super overdone. Yawn..

This.   I'm rather "light" on some of the fashion rules.    DH wore a tux to our 2 PM wedding ceremony and the tie and vest were white and not black.   I didn't wear hose with my dress and none of my BMs did either.  I rarely wear hose in general but I know that by some standards, "I'm not fully dressed without them".

This sort of fashion crime isn't like watching the cousin who wore a skin tight white dress that barely covered her rump and you could see her pink thong but I'm not really a fan of the look either.

Maggie0829

If you are going to have them just wear vests then I would nix the bouts and only have the groom wear a bout.  Or you could nix his bout as well and just have him wear a pocket square.

Is it a fashion faux pas to have them only wear vests?  Yes, but you aren't hurting anyone else by doing so, so if that is what your FI wants his GM to wear then by all means go ahead.

littlepep

Are you renting or buying and is this cheaper? That's something else to consider. 

FI was in a wedding wear they only had to buy the suit pants and then they were just not going to wear a jacket. He ended up buying the whole suit because it wasn't terribly expensive and when would you wear the pants without the jacked you know? 

I honestly think it's easier to just let guys buy the whole suit if their buying. They aren't going to wear parts of a suit you know? 

If you're renting it may be different. We didn't go that route because we found an inexpensive suit so I have no idea what's available.