I just have to get this off my chest. Posted a couple weeks back on CC that we never received an invite to a wedding we were told several times we were invited to. Groom is someone FI works with and he assured us we were invited. FI still really wanted to go because a lot of other co-workers were going, including some big bosses.
So we go to this lovely venue that is clearly geared towards the outdoors. Only problem is it has basically rained non-stop the past 7 days, including that morning, so everything is wet and muddy. Cars were getting stuck in the "parking lot" (a field) even before the ceremony. Whatevs, we have a compact SUV and were fine.
Someone up there does love this couple because the rain held off for the 30 minute ceremony, although all the guests' shoes have gotten pretty muddy from being on the lawn. Yuck. We are told reception is immediately to follow. So we all find seats (no seating chart) and FI's co-workers manage to snag a couple of the few indoor tables that are not reserved for family and WP - the other tables are out on the patio, which is covered, but the outdoor people basically cannot see anything that is happening inside except glimpses through windows.
We go to the food and booze area and are told no food yet -- food at x time, which is in about 20 minutes. Ok, well so we get some wine and go back to our tables and wait. And wait. And wait. We knew probably 14 or so people at the wedding other than the b&g and every single one of them was famished and kept asking us if it would be like this at our upcoming wedding. 90 minutes later the bride and groom come in and they go through the buffet, followed by the WP and family. Everyone else had to wait an additional 15-30 minutes to get a chance at food. The food was pretty good, but it was all hors d'veours with a heavy emphasis on fruit, cheese, veggies and a few slightly heavier things like mini-quiches. The ceremony was at 4pm and it was 7 pm by the time all the guests actually had food.
It was all completely unacceptable. Please feed your guests and do so in a timely manner. Even during your cocktail hour your guests need something to munch on. It won't matter to your guests how your wedding looks but they will be miserable and leave early if you make them wait for food. Also, if you want an evening or other mealtime wedding, you need to provide a meal and not just a variety of appetizers. If you can't afford to host everyone properly, invite fewer people or have a non-mealtime wedding.
There were a million faux pas (bride and groom never did table visits) but the worst, by far, was keeping everyone hungry.