No Show Rate

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Hi everyone, my date is quickly approaching. I am curious about the number of no shows (even after a yes response) that you had from your guests.

RoMy215

I think we had about 4 who said yes and then didn't come. Although all were able to let me know the week of. It was too late to do anything, although I was able to alter the seating accordingly. 

Good luck and congrats!! 

Cinderella30

We had three people not show up after they rsvp'd. 

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Wow! Those numbers aren't as bad as I imagined. I had a friend recently tie the knot and she had 40 out of 150 yes no show! I can understand 3-4 emergencies, but not 40!

Queen Jane

We had some who RSVPed yes but then couldn't make it, but they told us ahead of time. We did not have any actual no-shows.

allisonkbye

Had 8 out of 160 not show. 6 were beacuse it snowed 5" and roads got bad

Chelpants

i had 0 people no show. Everyone who said they were coming, came. Some people RSVP'D yes for them and a guest when a guest wasn't invited!

mattycam

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[QUOTE]Wow! Those numbers aren't as bad as I imagined. I had a friend recently tie the knot and she had 40 out of 150 yes no show! I can understand 3-4 emergencies, but not 40!
Posted by ivy_michigan[/QUOTE]

Yes, I have heard of a lot of no shows as well, it's disgusting!

We had 7 no shows out of 216.

Most of the married couples that I know have experienced no shows. I don't know if this is the "thing" or not but if I was invited to a wedding and my meal and drinks were going to be paid for, the least I can do is call in advance if I am not going to make it (putting aside extraordinary circumstances).

rlavach

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[QUOTE]Wow! Those numbers aren't as bad as I imagined. I had a friend recently tie the knot and she had 40 out of 150 yes no show! I can understand 3-4 emergencies, but not 40!
Posted by ivy_michigan[/QUOTE]
There's something missing in that story. I've never heard of that. Was the weather bad during those days?

kmmssg

My nephew got married Friday of last Memorial Day weekend.  They had just graduated college 3 weeks earlier.

I sat very close to the table with the escort cards and there had to be 25-30 of them that were never taken.  I didn't ask what happened but my theory was maybe all those college buddies didn't realize that when you say you are coming to a wedding someone buys your dinner.

We never had no show issues with our girls' weddings but when DH and I got married 15 years ago we had probably a dozen no shows and it was because there was a horrible flu bug around.  I'm glad they stayed home!

Cony&Ben

We had one family (seven people) who RSVPed yes but didn't show. They didn't contact us before the wedding to let us know and haven't contacted us since the wedding either.

JaxInBlue

We had three no shows of 129 who had replied yes.  One we expected as there was a health condition involved but the other two were not anticipated.

2010Bride2be

My godbrother called 2 days before the wedding and said he and his family wouldn't be able to make it due to a work issue. I was really hurt by it at the time, but I didnt let anyone know it. I haven't heard from him since that day...not even a hey, congratulations. So, that relationship is OVER as far as I'm concerned.

But...we knew they weren't coming, so we just revised the table settings with the venu.

jellbelle

Out of 70, we only had one unexpected guest show up - my cousin brought his date. We didn't have any unexpected no-shows; two people called about a week in advance to say they were not going to make it.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No Show Rate : There's something missing in that story. I've never heard of that. Was the weather bad during those days?
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

No, it was mid summer - no rain. The wedding was out of state (about a 4 hr drive), but people said yes and then decided not to come and only about 10 (per the groom) called in advance and said they were not going to make it.

GiGiSeattle

We had an icestorm which resulted in about 20 no-shows. And I have to say, I was annoyed with all the people facebooking me on my wedding day to bail, so I think if you don't know at least 3 days before, just don't say anything, not like you are going to be changing the seating assignments or total count at that point anyway.

The best was that my sis recruited some of her girl friends to come fill some of the empty seats and those girls were on the dance floor all night long. Such a good time!

MrsKathyC

We had 11 no shows out of about 60 yes's.

vexie

Only 1 person who RSVP's didn't attend the wedding.  But we knew about it a few days earlier. It was my boss who got a line drive in the face while playing baseball a few days before the wedding.  She was fine... just so bruised and swollen she was embarrassed about being in public.

angielove1

We had two people that did not attend. One being my father who was sick so we knew he would not be able to make it and one being my bridesmaid's boyfriend.

thealphabride

We had 2 no shows out of 95 guests, it was a couple. it was due to the death of of her father the night before. Totally understandable!!!

JenL23

We had a TON of no shows. I don't remember an exact number, but probably between 20-30. Only one "yes" person contacted me ahead of time, and only one other person contacted me a few days after the wedding to apologize. I realize extraordinary circumstances happen, but I was really frustrated. If we hadn't spent money for food/seatng/extra programs/etc. for these people who said they would come and didn't we could have had some other things. Very rude in my book.

Giaspo

We had 10 people respond yes who didn't attend our wedding. All but 4 told us in enough time to tell the venue. 4 told us the day of.

jemmini6

We only had 2 no shows, but then we had 2 extra guests, so it actually worked out perfectly.  For the no-shows, they both had a good reason for it, so even if we didn't have extras to take their plates, I would have totally understood.

blairblair

I no-showed at a wedding last summer, and felt really terrible about it - I had been excited to go but got horribly sick two days before (throwing up, 102 fever, all kinds of crap I didn't want to bring to the wedding).  I emailed the bride (since I didn't have her number) to tell her I might not make it, and told mutual friends to tell her I was so sorry to mess up her count; as it turned out, she had made a new friend at work in the months leading up to her wedding that she hadn't been able to include, and got that person in at the last minute since I couldn't go.  If you have people who no-show, don't automatically assume they don't care about you - odds are they're home feeling bad for missing your wedding, and feel that it might be awkward to bring it up later.  Something as simple as "we really missed you, hope everything is okay!" will open the door to communication - they can apologize for missing the event, and you can gauge whether or not to tell them how annoyed you are (or aren't).  Remember that you invited these people because they mean something to you - don't alienate them for something that's probably out of their control!

mandms08

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[QUOTE]Remember that you invited these people because they mean something to you - don't alienate them for something that's probably out of their control!
Posted by blairblair[/QUOTE]

Exactly!! I'm always floored by people who cut someone out of their life because of this.

Beverly8

we actually had zero no shows and it snowed!

Beverly8

we actually had zero no shows and it snowed!

melleiatc

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No Show Rate : There's something missing in that story. I've never heard of that. Was the weather bad during those days?
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

lets see....  we invited 200.  156 rsvp and like 127 showed.  15 minures after the cake was cut 30ish remained.  We figured out that everyone +1 that RSVP didnt not bring a +1.  3 families of 6+ did not show with no call...  at $50 a head I was not happy once the wedding dust cleared.  The only thing I can explain is that in my region of the south weddings tend to be more ceremony centered with some kind of dinner put together at the end.  I can only believe that these people did not expect dinner and dancing and the whole 9 yards....  they are nice friends of ours so I am sure they didnt intend harm.  =)   even though I say that it was a lot of money wasted  =(

TaraW1979

We had 6 no-shows. We heard that 3 were due to snow but they have yet to call or text us and the wedding was over 2 weeks ago. I did get a card with a note and a check from a couple that no-showed. (She claims she was sick). And then I have another so- called friend who no-showed and I'm still waiting to hear from her. We had been friends for 10 years. 

We were able to package up the meals and bring them home.

FutureMrsMiller25

There are so many factors... the age of your guests (if you're the first in your group and have lots of young people they don't understand the cost and work, etc), the weather, how many are from out of town, etc. A girl from Junior League told me she had 20 no show... and afterwards her reception site told her if she had gone up to 10 OVER they wouldn't have said anything. it was a waste of several thousand dollars for her. Her rec was asking the site if you go over by a handful what they would do...

teejay2039

I totally agree with the above post.  I really think a *lot* of ppl just don't understand the planning and expense that goes into a wedding, and they don't understand that it's important for the bride/caterer, etc. to know if they are coming or not!  I don't think this is explained/stressed enough to just people in general, and people who've never been involved in planning a wedding simply don't have a *clue*.....  I think wedding party/guest etiquette should be included in sex education classes in school.  LOL!!!