I was hoping all you nice people could help me understand why electronic invitations are not OK. I have read several threads on them and still don't see the issue.
The arguments against seem to go like this:
1. Evites are too casual. Sending something through the post is more respectful of the level of seriousness that a wedding invitation indicates.
Roughly 99.99% of the stuff that comes in the mail is garbage. Ads for plastic surgery, coupons for the new bagel place down the road, etc. Everything important for the last ten years has come to me electronically.
2. Some your guests don't check email frequently or don't have accounts.
Not true for 100% of our potential guests. We communicate frequently with all of them by email and receive prompt replies.
3. Evites can get stuck in a spam filter.
True, but the mail isn't the most reliable thing either. I have had terrible problems in my current place and haven't received important stuff from my home owner's association because it got lost in the mail. They won't do electronic communication. I feel like the RSVP process would catch any these, if they even happen.
4. A physical invitation is "respectful" of your wedding.
I don't pretend to understand this one. I'm sure the delivery format has changed many times over human history, with much clutching of pearls every time. This is the new mode of communication. It gives the guest the exact same info, in a permanent form they can reference later if they need it, unlike a phone call or something. Our guests don't risk losing it or leaving it behind by accident on the day, because they can just call it up on their phones.
What am I not understanding? Isn't this just another evolution in delivery, akin to moving from handwritten invitations (the only acceptable method for a long time) to printed invitations? Why isn't it etiquette correct to save some trees, a bunch of postage, and provide the info and ability to RSVP in the most convenient format for our guests?