So long time lurker here, and have been saved from some big etiquette problems from these boards. I could really use some advice here.
My wedding is about 6 weeks away, my sister got engaged this winter and is planning a wedding for December. We also have two close cousins (they're sisters) getting married this summer. My best friend (MOH) also got engaged late this winter (right around the time of my sister). Sister's FI is in a wedding along with MOH's FI this fall. We have a lot of weddings going on this year, and everyone is in everyone else's wedding. MOH just announced she is now trying to plan a wedding for late August, and has been asking if I'll be around for her shower, bachelorette party, bridesmaids dress shopping, etc (I live about 900 miles away from everyone else). The weekend she chose for the wedding is the same as a big work conference for me (which I'll have to skip for the wedding, and which she asked about and I told her about before she picked a date).
I know I get one day (as does my sister), and so does my MOH, but my question is, how do I handle/tell her that I can't be around for everything that she wants me to be at. And that I unfortunately can't plan everything in the same way she did? She planned an amazing shower for me, and I'd love to do the same, but with all the other weddings already scheduled for this summer I just can't afford to travel/take time off work/ spend all the money on all these things?
Thanks!
ETA: fixed words.