Advice on addressing

hopebarton

I've got a bit of a unique situation, and I'm not sure how to word it. My fiance's godmother is living with her sister and niece. All women who aren't married and all at the same house. My etiquette book only suggests "The Misses" and that is technically for children. I am thinking listing them firstname, firstname, and firstname lastname. 

Do you guys have any thoughts?

CMGragain

Technically, they should each receive their own invitation, assuming the niece is over age 18.

BrinkyDink16

I think what you were thinking would be fine.  It seems kind of silly to send three separate invitations to the same house!  My FH has two adult sisters who still live at home and we are sending them seperate invitations but it's because we're giving them plus ones.  It would take up the whole envelope to try to write FFIL, FMIL, FSIL1 & Guest, and FSIL & Guest, lol.  For my FH's other sisters family which includes two teenage boys we listed FBIL, FSIL, FNIL, and FNIL LastName.  Same with an extension of my family with two teenage children.

AddieCake

They should all get their own if they are all over 18.

CMGragain

BrinkyDink16 said:

I think what you were thinking would be fine.  It seems kind of silly to send three separate invitations to the same house!  My FH has two adult sisters who still live at home and we are sending them seperate invitations but it's because we're giving them plus ones.  It would take up the whole envelope to try to write FFIL, FMIL, FSIL1 & Guest, and FSIL & Guest, lol.  For my FH's other sisters family which includes two teenage boys we listed FBIL, FSIL, FNIL, and FNIL LastName.  Same with an extension of my family with two teenage children.

No, it is not silly.  It is polite.  Everyone over age 18 gets their own invitation, except for married couples, or people living together in a committed relationship.  Go read a standard etiquette book, and please stop giving your personal opinion as etiquette advice.

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hopebarton said:

I've got a bit of a unique situation, and I'm not sure how to word it. My fiance's godmother is living with her sister and niece. All women who aren't married and all at the same house. My etiquette book only suggests "The Misses" and that is technically for children. I am thinking listing them firstname, firstname, and firstname lastname. 

Do you guys have any thoughts?

It might seem silly, but you need to send three invitations to the same house.  When I was an adult living with my parents, I never saw letters or cards that were sent to us as a family until I was clearing off the stack of mail from three months ago.  "When did we get this card from Sue?  I've never seen this card.  I didn't know she was pregnant!  Why don't you guys tell me anything?"  I'd hate to be included in a wedding invitation with my parents.  Especially since the three of us would not be a social unit and may or may not be attending together.  i.e. Maybe your godmother and her niece can attend, but her sister cannot.  Three separate invitations.

Jen4948

Since they're all adults, they each need their own invitation.  It isn't silly.  It's recognizing the adult status of each of these intended guests.

notdoingitbythebook

It is silly to send individual invitations to multiple people in the same household, but I look at it as how I would want to be treated. I wouldn't want to be listed on a mass invite, I would want my own. So I do it that way for others. I have three situations where adult children live with parents, the children are each receiving their own invitation on top of the parents.