Racism is not ok. It is never proper etiquette to be a racist. Period. No ifs ands or buts about it. If at any point you think 'proper etiquette' requires you to segregate your guests based on ethnicity, you are doing it wrong.
The amount of disrespect everyone who isn't white, skinny and boring faces on this website is sickening. I was sent this message by a moderator today and it made me so sad for everyone here, if this is the quality of moderator you have:
Jells2dot0 4:05PM
Issuing a warning for a personal attack in the "table names vs table numbers" post on Reception Ideas. Though you disgree with some of the posters, the advice that was given was based on proper etiquette for all attending and not racism.
This was in response to a person on this forum suggesting I should seat my guests based on which ethnicity are. Let's face it she essentially said something generally done at a Chinese wedding that isn't done in a western one is 'wrong' and that I should be treating my guests 'properly'. Since treating my Chinese guests the 'proper' way would be an insult, a point I tried to convey, I can only assume that she doesn't care about their feelings as she isn't Chinese or she only cares about the comfort of my white guests. This is racist. That the moderator apparently agrees with her assessment and says a great deal about the type of forum this is.
So I would like to point out something that apparently isn't anything you've noticed:
Proper etiquette is regional
What is ok to do in one place is no ok to do somewhere else. Here's an example, in Houston, where my racist friend has told us she is from, it is not ok for a guest to be seated by a member of the bridal party for the ceremony. Here in the Chinese community in Ontario, the only region I can speak for, it's proper etiquette for this practice to be observed. Also here in Ontario, my white guests have no issue with the custom as there has been literally no one to object. Not even the bridal party who has to do the work.
So in closing,
When you are planning your wedding try not to be a racist asshat
Thank You
Sincerely
sandstorm320