nwr...nervous as hell

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sarahufl

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

ashley8918 said:

Appropriate response to a terrified woman who might be accident pregnant: "Breathe. It is okay. You can do this. But if you don't want to do this, you have options."

Inappropriate response to a terrified woman who might be accident pregnant: "Well, it's your own damn fault, stupid!"

You are entitled to your thoughts as I am entitled to mine. And I never called her stupid.

No, you just implied it with your "That's what you get" tone, which OMG that's how babby is formed? Thanks, Captain Obvious. So helpful!

Wait, it isn't how babies are formed? Now I am all confused.

Well I wouldn't know since H is sterile.

Not sure if this is a jab at me or what.

VulgarGirl

I'm just gonna say, I've been having unprotected sex for 14 years now and...0 unplanned pregnancies. Just..maybe ya'll aren't have the right kind of unprotected sex.

ashley8918

sarahufl said:

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

ashley8918 said:

Appropriate response to a terrified woman who might be accident pregnant: "Breathe. It is okay. You can do this. But if you don't want to do this, you have options."

Inappropriate response to a terrified woman who might be accident pregnant: "Well, it's your own damn fault, stupid!"

You are entitled to your thoughts as I am entitled to mine. And I never called her stupid.

No, you just implied it with your "That's what you get" tone, which OMG that's how babby is formed? Thanks, Captain Obvious. So helpful!

Wait, it isn't how babies are formed? Now I am all confused.

Well I wouldn't know since H is sterile.

Not sure if this is a jab at me or what.

Uhhh... how?

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sarahufl

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

pinkrevenge said:

sarahufl said:

ashley8918 said:

Appropriate response to a terrified woman who might be accident pregnant: "Breathe. It is okay. You can do this. But if you don't want to do this, you have options."

Inappropriate response to a terrified woman who might be accident pregnant: "Well, it's your own damn fault, stupid!"

You are entitled to your thoughts as I am entitled to mine. And I never called her stupid.

No, you just implied it with your "That's what you get" tone, which OMG that's how babby is formed? Thanks, Captain Obvious. So helpful!

Wait, it isn't how babies are formed? Now I am all confused.

Well I wouldn't know since H is sterile.

Not sure if this is a jab at me or what.

Unless my husband's dick is literally jabbing you (you homewrecker!! *faints*), I don't see how it could be?

Wasn't sure how to read your response, is all. Your disdain for me is clear. Carry on.

ChemFanatic25

Okay, normally I wouldn't do this but can we please dial it down a bit? A person came on the boards because she is very nervous/scared about a life changing situation. This arguing is absolutely not helping her at all. I know that we can't tell others how to post but come on, she just wants our support. Leave the personal opinions at the door and offer what help you can even if it is just a few words of encouragement.

stefuhknee

Chipmunk you will be fine! Just take the test, it will ease your nerves just to know for sure. I was in this situation myself and that nervousness ultimately turned to major excitement! It's completely normal to be worried about the unknown but before you drive yourself crazy you just need to find out. Good Luck!

Chipmunk415

To clarify.... yes, I knew there was a risk of pregnancy by not using a back up contraceptive while I got my bcp mess unscrewed. I accepted that risk.

Currently, I'm just late, but ive been feeling exhausted for 2 weeks with little apparent reason. Today, when i got up, I also felt dizzy and sick to my stomach for several hours. But that could also be pms if I'm not actually pregnant (funny how the symptoms match for two very different outcomes). I'm picking up a test on my way home from work today. While I want to have children with dh, I'm just nervous about the prospect being so close at hand and "real."

sophhabobopha

Chipmunk, I'm sending good vibes your way!

KatWAG

Pee on all the sticks.

I think you might feel better once you know one way or the other.

sarawifenow

Chipmunk, things will work out! I would definitely take a test. I honestly wouldn't have waited this long, so I'm not sure how you did it! That being said, I would kill to be pregnant right now, so I am biased.

Blergbot

Chipmunk, I got KU unexpectedly...talk about timing! While I was pregnant I finished planning my wedding, got married, bought a house, moved into house and finished my last semester of grad school. I did it, and, if that's what it is, then so can you! You got this!

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chibiyui

Chipmunk415 said:

To clarify.... yes, I knew there was a risk of pregnancy by not using a back up contraceptive while I got my bcp mess unscrewed. I accepted that risk.

Currently, I'm just late, but ive been feeling exhausted for 2 weeks with little apparent reason. Today, when i got up, I also felt dizzy and sick to my stomach for several hours. But that could also be pms if I'm not actually pregnant (funny how the symptoms match for two very different outcomes). I'm picking up a test on my way home from work today. While I want to have children with dh, I'm just nervous about the prospect being so close at hand and "real."

Try not to dwell on the testing today. Worrying won't change the outcome. The good news (depending on your definition of good news?) is if you're pregnant enough for symptoms, you're pregnant enough to turn a test, which means you're probably not pregnant, since you're only 5 weeks post last cycle and having been feeling symptoms for 2 weeks. But test tonight for peace of mind. Your body is probably just adjusting to not being on birth control, hence the symptoms.

And think of all the MARGARITAS you can have once you test negative!

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FiancB

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

sarahufl

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

ashley8918

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

Yes, and the OP also knew that pregnancy was a possibility. She never said otherwise. I sincerely doubt that, in response to your miscarriage, anyone said "Well, you knew this was a possibility!". Because that would be rude as hell, and super harsh.

No one is telling you how to feel AT ALL, just noting that you seem to be lashing out at people unnecessarily, which doesn't do anyone (including you) any good. But, by all means, take it out on internet strangers, if that's how you want to cope.

jdluvr06

Chipmunk sending you hugs and positive thoughts. I hope you get the answers you're hoping for. 

@sarahufl I know what you are going through and how much it hurts to read things like this after wards. You are entitled to your feelings but (and please take this in the loving way I mean it) if you get this upset reading things like this right now then it might be best to avoid it until you can handle it better. 

FiancB

And you know that if you go on the internet there is a possibility of seeing someone worry about an unexpected pregnancy or announce that they are pregnant. If you can't handle that, best to take a break, for everyone's sake especially including yours. 

jacques27

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

But by that token, you also don't get to be the only person who gets to feel.  Your miscarriage doesn't mean that no one else in your life (whether that be your personal friends or family or people on TK boards) gets to have feelings about pregnancy, whether those feelings be happy, sad, anxious, or dread.  They are allowed to have those feelings and them having those feelings is not a personal attack on you.  If you're not able to effectively compartmentalize enough to see beyond your own situation and always see everything as a mirror to you, then this may not be the healthiest place for you right now.  And that's ok.  But it's not okay lash out at other people having perfectly valid feelings about a situation because everything related to that topic feels like a personal attack to you while you grieve and cope.  Have your feelings, but recognize that other people are allowed to have theirs, too, completely separate from anything having to do with you.

themosthappy91

Ugh, I cringe when I think about SS newbies seeing threads like this and taking it as validation that the women here are super bitchy (especially considering they rarely lurk enough to realize that, while some posters may be out of line, they DO have valid reasons to be especially sensitive about this subject).  

I was lurking on here when @sarahufl had her miscarriage, and I can't imagine the uproar it would have caused if someone posted on her thread "Well, sorry but you knew this was a possibility". The thing I've been most impressed with about this community has been the fact that the regulars here can hand someone's ass to them when they are being a brat about something, but when someone is in pain they are all support and sympathy.  

OP, I hope you get what you want, but I know that whatever happens it'll work out.  I hope you let us know the outcome soon! 

sarahufl

jacques27 said:

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

But by that token, you also don't get to be the only person who gets to feel.  Your miscarriage doesn't mean that no one else in your life (whether that be your personal friends or family or people on TK boards) gets to have feelings about pregnancy, whether those feelings be happy, sad, anxious, or dread.  They are allowed to have those feelings and them having those feelings is not a personal attack on you.  If you're not able to effectively compartmentalize enough to see beyond your own situation and always see everything as a mirror to you, then this may not be the healthiest place for you right now.  And that's ok.  But it's not okay lash out at other people having perfectly valid feelings about a situation because everything related to that topic feels like a personal attack to you while you grieve and cope.  Have your feelings, but recognize that other people are allowed to have theirs, too, completely separate from anything having to do with you.

jacques27- I agree with you. And I think you actually said it well. And I was mainly lashing out at other posters (who have recently accused me of being a privileged white girl and contributing to race riots for my thoughts on other issues) for putting words in my mouth. My points I made to OP were valid (and true)- unprotected sex can lead to babies. And you should be prepared for that. And I would say that to anyone (family, friends, etc) and I would have said it before what happened in my own personal life.

Perhaps I am feeling extra punchy about it RIGHT NOW, but by openly admitting that she wasn't using protection, I do think OP opened herself up to the question of - why not? It is the most sensible question to ask when someone says they don't want kids but weren't using protection.

She is absolutely entitled to her feelings, as is everyone. I should also point out that I wasn't the only (or the first) person to ask. I was just the one that got jumped on for it.

ETA: what I said about grown women getting pregnant by accident was (also true) but possibly not worded as eloquently as it could be. I will admit to that.

RussianCinderella

You got this, Chimp! I've read your posts, you will do great either way!! 

I started BC 1.5 weeks later than intended thanks to pharmacy screw up, and it set me back 2 weeks past I was due for period week. It worked itself out in the end, but just another story of how not sticking to the regular schedule can make you wacky and it's not for sure a pregnancy. 

Fran1985

sarahufl said:

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

But by that token, you also don't get to be the only person who gets to feel.  Your miscarriage doesn't mean that no one else in your life (whether that be your personal friends or family or people on TK boards) gets to have feelings about pregnancy, whether those feelings be happy, sad, anxious, or dread.  They are allowed to have those feelings and them having those feelings is not a personal attack on you.  If you're not able to effectively compartmentalize enough to see beyond your own situation and always see everything as a mirror to you, then this may not be the healthiest place for you right now.  And that's ok.  But it's not okay lash out at other people having perfectly valid feelings about a situation because everything related to that topic feels like a personal attack to you while you grieve and cope.  Have your feelings, but recognize that other people are allowed to have theirs, too, completely separate from anything having to do with you.

jacques27- I agree with you. And I think you actually said it well. And I was mainly lashing out at other posters (who have recently accused me of being a privileged white girl and contributing to race riots for my thoughts on other issues) for putting words in my mouth. My points I made to OP were valid (and true)- unprotected sex can lead to babies. And you should be prepared for that. And I would say that to anyone (family, friends, etc) and I would have said it before what happened in my own personal life.

Perhaps I am feeling extra punchy about it RIGHT NOW, but by openly admitting that she wasn't using protection, I do think OP opened herself up to the question of - why not? It is the most sensible question to ask when someone says they don't want kids but weren't using protection.

She is absolutely entitled to her feelings, as is everyone. I should also point out that I wasn't the only (or the first) person to ask. I was just the one that got jumped on for it.

ETA: what I said about grown women getting pregnant by accident was (also true) but possibly not worded as eloquently as it could be. I will admit to that.

As to your assertion that you made points that were valid and true, it just doesn't make any sense and is like if your friend told you that they cut themselves with a knife making dinner. Would your response be "knives are sharp. they can cut your fingers if you use them." Sure, its true, and it valid (technically) but it makes no sense in the conversation and it just comes off condescending.

As to the bolded, I honestly think you should maybe take a break from the internet for a while and make sure you are getting the support you need. I would never try to imagine what you've been through, but the bolding is just completely untrue and makes it sound like everything is very, very personal for you. And if your reaction to feeling like you got upset over a discussion on the riots (which don't affect your day to day to life) is to lash out at a poster that is going through an upsetting to her event in her life, I think you need to take a step back. You can't be using people's posts as ammo against them just because they disagreed with you on a message board. For all the snark and little fights there might be, people use this as a safe space when they are going through some real shit in order to get support and advice. "Lashing out" at them (in your own words) because of a previous disagreement isn't really fair. 

ashley8918

sarahufl said:

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

But by that token, you also don't get to be the only person who gets to feel.  Your miscarriage doesn't mean that no one else in your life (whether that be your personal friends or family or people on TK boards) gets to have feelings about pregnancy, whether those feelings be happy, sad, anxious, or dread.  They are allowed to have those feelings and them having those feelings is not a personal attack on you.  If you're not able to effectively compartmentalize enough to see beyond your own situation and always see everything as a mirror to you, then this may not be the healthiest place for you right now.  And that's ok.  But it's not okay lash out at other people having perfectly valid feelings about a situation because everything related to that topic feels like a personal attack to you while you grieve and cope.  Have your feelings, but recognize that other people are allowed to have theirs, too, completely separate from anything having to do with you.

jacques27- I agree with you. And I think you actually said it well. And I was mainly lashing out at other posters (who have recently accused me of being a privileged white girl and contributing to race riots for my thoughts on other issues) for putting words in my mouth. My points I made to OP were valid (and true)- unprotected sex can lead to babies. And you should be prepared for that. And I would say that to anyone (family, friends, etc) and I would have said it before what happened in my own personal life.

Perhaps I am feeling extra punchy about it RIGHT NOW, but by openly admitting that she wasn't using protection, I do think OP opened herself up to the question of - why not? It is the most sensible question to ask when someone says they don't want kids but weren't using protection.

She is absolutely entitled to her feelings, as is everyone. I should also point out that I wasn't the only (or the first) person to ask. I was just the one that got jumped on for it.

ETA: what I said about grown women getting pregnant by accident was (also true) but possibly not worded as eloquently as it could be. I will admit to that.

But you didn't ask this question at all. You essentially told her, in a super patronizing manner, that she just should have known better.

You're still acting like kind of a dick in your ETA. It isn't Chipmunk's (or any other woman that had an unintended pregnancy) fault that you have reproductive issues. 

esstee33

sarahufl said:

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

But by that token, you also don't get to be the only person who gets to feel.  Your miscarriage doesn't mean that no one else in your life (whether that be your personal friends or family or people on TK boards) gets to have feelings about pregnancy, whether those feelings be happy, sad, anxious, or dread.  They are allowed to have those feelings and them having those feelings is not a personal attack on you.  If you're not able to effectively compartmentalize enough to see beyond your own situation and always see everything as a mirror to you, then this may not be the healthiest place for you right now.  And that's ok.  But it's not okay lash out at other people having perfectly valid feelings about a situation because everything related to that topic feels like a personal attack to you while you grieve and cope.  Have your feelings, but recognize that other people are allowed to have theirs, too, completely separate from anything having to do with you.

jacques27- I agree with you. And I think you actually said it well. And I was mainly lashing out at other posters (who have recently accused me of being a privileged white girl and contributing to race riots for my thoughts on other issues) for putting words in my mouth. My points I made to OP were valid (and true)- unprotected sex can lead to babies. And you should be prepared for that. And I would say that to anyone (family, friends, etc) and I would have said it before what happened in my own personal life.

Perhaps I am feeling extra punchy about it RIGHT NOW, but by openly admitting that she wasn't using protection, I do think OP opened herself up to the question of - why not? It is the most sensible question to ask when someone says they don't want kids but weren't using protection.

She is absolutely entitled to her feelings, as is everyone. I should also point out that I wasn't the only (or the first) person to ask. I was just the one that got jumped on for it.

ETA: what I said about grown women getting pregnant by accident was (also true) but possibly not worded as eloquently as it could be. I will admit to that.

It's also totally fucking reasonable to think you're OK with whatever happens as a result of "not being careful" and then freak out about it when you actually find out you're pregnant. It doesn't warrant a lecture from random people on the internet at a time when you're extremely vulnerable because you should've known it was a possibility. 

And plus also, she said she DOES want kids; she's just not sure if she's ready for them. Who the fuck ever believes they're 100% ready to be a parent? Delusional people, maybe. 

And to the bolded: Oh, really? You were lashing out at me (et al) with your insensitive comment BEFORE I EVEN POSTED SOMETHING IN THIS THREAD? No, you were just being condescending and projecting your own feelings onto Chipmunk. Maybe later responses were directed towards me, but your initial comment was all you. 

Also, please, lady. I didn't say you were "contributing to race riots." You're part of the problem in that you have incredible amounts of white privilege and use it to look down on rioters rather than doing anything to understand their position or help the cause of improved race relations to move forward. Did you actually read the response I posted to your summons asking me to explain why you were part of the problem? 

sarahufl

Fran1985 said:

sarahufl said:

FiancB said:

So it sounds like you have a lot going on, which can easily contribute to a long cycle, as can things being wonky from being off birth control. But it's definitely time for a test or three. The stuff you're feeling is totally normal, even if you'd been actively trying. 

@sarahufl, I get that having gone through what you have that it's really frustrating to see other people get pregnant on accident, but this is not the time or place. Maybe if you'd dialed it back a bit and added a "sorry girl" that would be more acceptable, but your posts on this thread are about as uncouth as someone telling you to just relax and try again and I know you know better than that. 

You (or anyone else) don't get to tell me how to feel. And if someone said "relax and try again" I would ignore them. Because this is the internet and people are allowed to say what they want. If you can't deal with the repercussions of something, don't engage in the act.

I knew that losing a pregnancy was an option when I got pregnant. But I don't bitch at people for telling me that.

But by that token, you also don't get to be the only person who gets to feel.  Your miscarriage doesn't mean that no one else in your life (whether that be your personal friends or family or people on TK boards) gets to have feelings about pregnancy, whether those feelings be happy, sad, anxious, or dread.  They are allowed to have those feelings and them having those feelings is not a personal attack on you.  If you're not able to effectively compartmentalize enough to see beyond your own situation and always see everything as a mirror to you, then this may not be the healthiest place for you right now.  And that's ok.  But it's not okay lash out at other people having perfectly valid feelings about a situation because everything related to that topic feels like a personal attack to you while you grieve and cope.  Have your feelings, but recognize that other people are allowed to have theirs, too, completely separate from anything having to do with you.

jacques27- I agree with you. And I think you actually said it well. And I was mainly lashing out at other posters (who have recently accused me of being a privileged white girl and contributing to race riots for my thoughts on other issues) for putting words in my mouth. My points I made to OP were valid (and true)- unprotected sex can lead to babies. And you should be prepared for that. And I would say that to anyone (family, friends, etc) and I would have said it before what happened in my own personal life.

Perhaps I am feeling extra punchy about it RIGHT NOW, but by openly admitting that she wasn't using protection, I do think OP opened herself up to the question of - why not? It is the most sensible question to ask when someone says they don't want kids but weren't using protection.

She is absolutely entitled to her feelings, as is everyone. I should also point out that I wasn't the only (or the first) person to ask. I was just the one that got jumped on for it.

ETA: what I said about grown women getting pregnant by accident was (also true) but possibly not worded as eloquently as it could be. I will admit to that.

As to your assertion that you made points that were valid and true, it just doesn't make any sense and is like if your friend told you that they cut themselves with a knife making dinner. Would your response be "knives are sharp. they can cut your fingers if you use them." Sure, its true, and it valid (technically) but it makes no sense in the conversation and it just comes off condescending.

As to the bolded, I honestly think you should maybe take a break from the internet for a while and make sure you are getting the support you need. I would never try to imagine what you've been through, but the bolding is just completely untrue and makes it sound like everything is very, very personal for you. And if your reaction to feeling like you got upset over a discussion on the riots (which don't affect your day to day to life) is to lash out at a poster that is going through an upsetting to her event in her life, I think you need to take a step back. You can't be using people's posts as ammo against them just because they disagreed with you on a message board. For all the snark and little fights there might be, people use this as a safe space when they are going through some real shit in order to get support and advice. "Lashing out" at them (in your own words) because of a previous disagreement isn't really fair. 

esstee33, who specifically requested a shout out)

I don't need you to diagnose me and tell me to stay away from the internet. I have support and I am not looking for it from you. But if I was, I would open myself up to maybe not everyone agreeing with me.

esstee33

Feel free to call me out explicitly, @sarahufl. I promise to not be surprised or offended.