I wrote about my issues with my MOH before. I thought I'd relieve some frustrations by telling my story of my selfish MOH.
Might be long so here I go...
My MOH, a friend for 15 years. Back when I was engaged a year ago, I asked her to be my MOH. Biggest mistake of my life! She literally tried her best to make my wedding HERS! I don't think she consciously did it but I wished so much that by the time I discovered she was NOT my friend, it was too close to the wedding to ditch her.
She changed her date 4 times since I gave her the wedding invitation which was 3 months before the wedding. And the final time (3 days before my wedding), I had to tell her no. My venue requires our guest list 2 weeks ahead of time to do background checks on our guests. Its a safety requirement at our venue as it is a military facility. She CRIED and DEMANDED that i invite her latest change to her date and to add this new person to the guest list. She threatened, screamed and yelled at me and my fiance that she'd "cry" at my wedding if I didn't do what she said!
Unfortunately, she didn't seem to want to understand that there was NOTHING I could do. And even if I could, at 3 days before my wedding, surely any reasonable person would understand that I had enough things on my plate and to change her date for the 4th or 5th (I even lost count) was unfair to me. She didn't get it.
Another thing is that my parents gave her money to stay at a hotel near our home so we could get ready, do our hair and make up, and she didn't have to drive around. It was literally 3 minute walk. She decided to take the money and book a hotel 45 minutes away and arrive late! Not to mention, forgetting her hair clips at the hotel and making her "date" drive back for it. Her bra strap supposedly broke, she made scene with many of my family members present, crying and not helping herself in fixing it. She sat there just crying and expecting people to console her. The bra was fixed and nothing was wrong in the end. She was overreacting.
I could go on....
I tried my best to ignore her stupid antics all day including her sitting at the head table not talking to anyone, looking down at her phone texting people. LITERALLY THE WHOLE TIME. I wish I were exaggerating.
Its been a month since my wedding. I haven't spoken to my friend since. Nor do I intend to. Every single person who I care about in my life looked me in the eye to tell me that she is NO friend.
Has anyone else experienced this? Selected the WRONG person to be in their wedding party? For some reason, it feels better that I'm not alone out there.