MoH might be pregnant. Do I ask her?

onefootinthebayou

jenijoyk said:

As someone who just suffered through a family get together where I made the egregious mistake of drinking tea instead of wine, and where everyone made the biggest deal out of it... ("Oh! You're not drinking? How interesting!" "Grandma says you're not drinking." "Tea? Really? Hmmmm....") ... I can definitively say DO NOT ASK. Do not ask. Do not imply. Do not do so much as raise an eyebrow when she turns down a cocktail. 

Hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant, and I was just diagnosed with cervical cancer, putting babymaking on hold. (I'll be totally fine healthwise. Jury is still out on fertilitywise.) We haven't told any family members yet, and they are all assuming and hoping we're trying. Every time someone made any sort of insinuation I wanted to just burst into tears and then throw myself out the window. 

So yeah. Don't ask. Ever. 

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending good thoughts & healing vibes to you.

SP29

@jenijoyk So sorry to hear! Thinking of you.

This thread makes me wonder... How many times have we seen posts by brides all about how one of their BMs hasn't bought the dress yet and is being "flaky" and they are considering kicking them out of the WP? Wonder if in any of these cases, the friend was perhaps pregnant and didn't want to share. Of course it could have been a million other reasons- but I now wonder if many brides have ruined friendships over getting worked up about something personal that wasn't any of their business....

Anyway- don't ask. Ever.