Etiquette for escort cards?

whovianstark

I was just wondering what the proper etiquette is for escort cards. I thought of this from the "my first etiquette blunder" post. I have a couple of MDs invited and many other people invited that have various other terminal degrees that also gives them the title of "Dr.". I also have a non-MD terminal degree. I'm definitely over thinking this but if I were at a social gathering I would prefer the "Dr." be dropped from my escort card as I wouldn't want people I don't know calling me "Dr.". I'm probably more sensitive to this because I am the first person in my family to go to college so I'm not used to calling people "Dr." in social settings, only professional.


Thanks in advance!

labro

Luckily I didn't have too many special titles so I just asked. My best friend who had just received his phd wanted to have his addressed as Dr. Firstname Lastname but my H's uncle who was a retired military officer preferred Mr. instead of his military rank. My dad, another retired officer, preferred to be addressed with his rank in his escort card. You could also skip titles all together and just do first name last name on each card.

whovianstark

labro said:

Luckily I didn't have too many special titles so I just asked. My best friend who had just received his phd wanted to have his addressed as Dr. Firstname Lastname but my H's uncle who was a retired military officer preferred Mr. instead of his military rank. My dad, another retired officer, preferred to be addressed with his rank in his escort card. You could also skip titles all together and just do first name last name on each card.

To the bolded: yes I was wondering if that would be okay? I went to a wedding once like that and I thought it was fine.

LadyMillil

I didn't put titles on my escort cards. I think it can get tricky with professional titles unless you know what every guest prefers. I would be upset if someone put Mrs instead of Dr on my escort card. Maybe it's just my circle, but no one uses titles when speaking to a person, so even if the escort card said Dr, Mary Smith when talking to her I'd call her Mary not Dr. Smith, unless instructed otherwise.

charcoalandblush

I've never seen titles on escort cards before. Just do first and last name. We're even doing nicknames ("Tom Smith" instead of "Thomas Smith").

whovianstark

charcoalandblush said:

I've never seen titles on escort cards before. Just do first and last name. We're even doing nicknames ("Tom Smith" instead of "Thomas Smith").

Perfect! I will do that. I just saw on another post where someone said to make sure the person was addressed as "Dr." on the escort card but that was probably just that case.

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whovianstark said:

charcoalandblush said:

I've never seen titles on escort cards before. Just do first and last name. We're even doing nicknames ("Tom Smith" instead of "Thomas Smith").

Perfect! I will do that. I just saw on another post where someone said to make sure the person was addressed as "Dr." on the escort card but that was probably just that case.

Yes, I think people were saying that to make up for the "etiquette blunder".  They wanted to put Dr. on as many things as they possibly could since it wasn't on the invitation.  

SP29

We did Firstname Lastname.

If you do put titles (on whatever), I would just personally ask these people. People are so different in how they'd like to be addressed.