This is a new one to me (baby related)

kvruns

So last night FI and I were talking about July 4th - he has always hosted a big party with the neighbors, big fireworks display, etc. I joked that we better not get knocked up on the honeymoon or that might make the party no fun.  He goes "well we should use protection after pulling the goalie for a while anyway".  I'm all huh?? He's like yea if you get pregnant right after going off birth control you can have birth defects.  You need to wait a while for things to work themselves out after going off of birth control to have a health baby.

I told him I'd never heard that before and know that it can take a while for your body's cycle to work itself out but people do get pregnant right away and I've never heard of a link to birth defects. I did some googling and sent him some links to mayo clinic and planned parenthood I found and he's like well you should still ask the doctor first. SMH

Anyone else hear this before?  Any other conception myths you've heard that made you say huh?!

mikenberger

kvruns said:

So last night FI and I were talking about July 4th - he has always hosted a big party with the neighbors, big fireworks display, etc. I joked that we better not get knocked up on the honeymoon or that might make the party no fun.  He goes "well we should use protection after pulling the goalie for a while anyway".  I'm all huh?? He's like yea if you get pregnant right after going off birth control you can have birth defects.  You need to wait a while for things to work themselves out after going off of birth control to have a health baby.

I told him I'd never heard that before and know that it can take a while for your body's cycle to work itself out but people do get pregnant right away and I've never heard of a link to birth defects. I did some googling and sent him some links to mayo clinic and planned parenthood I found and he's like well you should still ask the doctor first. SMH

Anyone else hear this before?  Any other conception myths you've heard that made you say huh?!

What? So if you get pregnant while on BC... you're at risk for birth defects? Exactly what birth defects? 

My ex-bf was very concerned I may have been pregnant at one point in our relationship (I was 6 weeks late on my period - but not pregnant.) 

"Well we can't have sex. What happens if I hit the baby with my penis? It'll have a huge dent in it's head. Happened to my friend. His kid has a dent." 

Oh honey. Don't flatter yourself.

jenna8984

Mine said the exact same thing!! I planned on using protection for a few months anyways to regulate my cycle and until we find a new home. And he was like "Ok good, because the baby could have problems if you don't wait a month or two". I was the same as you....um, no, false.

kvruns

@mikenberger exactly - I have no idea where any of this is coming from! All I can guess is there was some random story like 15 years ago with a possible link and it's stuck with him all these years.  Otherwise I have no idea where he got it!

now as for denting the kid's head - hahahahahahaha

kvruns

jenna8984 said:

Mine said the exact same thing!! I planned on using protection for a few months anyways to regulate my cycle and until we find a new home. And he was like "Ok good, because the baby could have problems if you don't wait a month or two". I was the same as you....um, no, false.

ok that weirdly makes me feel better than my FI didn't just dream it up - at least others have too hehe.

novella1186

My own sister told me that the type of birth control we both take can make it so after you quit taking it, you can't get pregnant for at least 5 years. (We were both on the shot at the time. I'm still on it) 

This was in the back of my mind for years. At my last annual check-up, I actually asked the OBGYN about it. "We want to have kids but not soon. Is it ok for me to keep getting the shot? Or... when should I stop? How long might it take me to get pregnant?" I felt so dumb for asking but I needed to know actual facts. 

She said she has plenty of patients who get pregnant the same month they stop getting the shot. It just varies (of course) but it doesn't definitely take at least 5 years. The mis-information out there is astounding. 

TrixieJess

kvruns said:

So last night FI and I were talking about July 4th - he has always hosted a big party with the neighbors, big fireworks display, etc. I joked that we better not get knocked up on the honeymoon or that might make the party no fun.  He goes "well we should use protection after pulling the goalie for a while anyway".  I'm all huh?? He's like yea if you get pregnant right after going off birth control you can have birth defects.  You need to wait a while for things to work themselves out after going off of birth control to have a health baby.

I told him I'd never heard that before and know that it can take a while for your body's cycle to work itself out but people do get pregnant right away and I've never heard of a link to birth defects. I did some googling and sent him some links to mayo clinic and planned parenthood I found and he's like well you should still ask the doctor first. SMH

Anyone else hear this before?  Any other conception myths you've heard that made you say huh?!

I got pregnant on the pill. My precocious two year old begs to differ.

Everyone was absolutely certain that we were having a girl because FI's family is all girls. I was like ummm...nope, my GF whose H has all brothers, now have 1 boy and 9 girls amongst all the children in the family.

banana468

I've been told you can wait a bit for your body to regulate itself.   Keep in mind that if you're using HBC then it's tricking your body into a false sense of being pregnant so it's not really working the way it should.

But just like you can pull the convertible out of the garage that was stored for the winter and start it without issue, you can also get pregnant without issue.  

And there's also a possibility of defects if your HBC free too.

theartistformerlyknownas

My doctor told me that the only reason many advise waiting is it's easier to date your pregnancy when you have a "last period" to go by. If you get KU before you have a non-HBC period, it can be trickier and throw your due date off. It has nothing to do with past, debunked claims of birth defects. Both my OB/GYN and my GP told me there was no problem going for it as soon as coming off the pill.

loveislouder

@lolo883 I love your signature.

doeydo

As far as I know, doctors just advise to stop birth control ahead of TTC because it might take your body a little bit to adjust it's cycle and ovulate regularly.  I would say, though, if you suspect you are pregnant while on the pill, stop taking birth control pills and tell your doctor.

Blergbot

TrixieJess said:

kvruns said:

So last night FI and I were talking about July 4th - he has always hosted a big party with the neighbors, big fireworks display, etc. I joked that we better not get knocked up on the honeymoon or that might make the party no fun.  He goes "well we should use protection after pulling the goalie for a while anyway".  I'm all huh?? He's like yea if you get pregnant right after going off birth control you can have birth defects.  You need to wait a while for things to work themselves out after going off of birth control to have a health baby.

I told him I'd never heard that before and know that it can take a while for your body's cycle to work itself out but people do get pregnant right away and I've never heard of a link to birth defects. I did some googling and sent him some links to mayo clinic and planned parenthood I found and he's like well you should still ask the doctor first. SMH

Anyone else hear this before?  Any other conception myths you've heard that made you say huh?!

I got pregnant on the pill. My precocious two year old begs to differ.

Everyone was absolutely certain that we were having a girl because FI's family is all girls. I was like ummm...nope, my GF whose H has all brothers, now have 1 boy and 9 girls amongst all the children in the family.

Also got KU while on the pill. Maybe that's why he was born six week early? (I kid, I kid)

FiancB

No birth defects. Slightly increased risk for an early miscarriage since you're more likely to have a hard time building up a good uterine lining and might have short or otherwise weird cycles. A little harder time getting pregnant in the first place for those reasons, plus it can do some short term damage to your cervical crypts, resulting in less fertile cervical mucus. So while it's recommended you stop taking it a few months before TTC if you have a specific time frame in mind (I want to get KU in the fall so I stopped the pill last month and am currently using condoms instead), there's no real reason to wait. I've always had very regular cycles and they seem to be continuing to be so. 

But really, if you have trouble holding onto a pregnancy, they may put you on progesterone. A lot of forms of birth control such as the shot are mostly progesterone. It's not going to hurt anything. 

Sounds like the sort of crap that gets spewed by my family's ilk to try to convince people that birth control is bad. 

VulgarGirl

See this is why we need comprehensive sex ed. Also stop fucking kicking the boys out of the room. They need to know about periods and birth control too.

FiancB

MagicInk said:

See this is why we need comprehensive sex ed. Also stop fucking kicking the boys out of the room. They need to know about periods and birth control too.

YESSS.

I still kind of wonder wtheck they even talked to the boys about when they did this when I was in the 7th grade. Told them they'd get hairy palms if they were bad? 

VulgarGirl

FiancB said:

MagicInk said:

See this is why we need comprehensive sex ed. Also stop fucking kicking the boys out of the room. They need to know about periods and birth control too.

YESSS.

I still kind of wonder wtheck they even talked to the boys about when they did this when I was in the 7th grade. Told them they'd get hairy palms if they were bad? 

Probably told them how they'd get boners and not to stick it in a twat. But if the REALLY wanted to they could. But if the girl did agree to let them she was big slut and not the kind of girl to take home to mom. Also while no means no, if you don't hear a no or if they ever said yes, go to town cause they really want it.

Based on our current rape culture I'm pretty sure that's what they got taught.

BouxRadley

MagicInk said:

See this is why we need comprehensive sex ed. Also stop fucking kicking the boys out of the room. They need to know about periods and birth control too.

I dunno, dude. That abstinence only shit is obviously doing the trick.

sarahufl

FTR, I haven't been on HBC in 10 years and have extremely regular periods. I still had an Ectopic. My sister had 2 miscarriages and also hadn't taken HBC in years. 

Pregnancy has a lot of moving parts and sometimes they don't work. So as long as your doctor says it is ok, I would disregard old wives tales and just hope for the best. 

JennyColada

novella1186 said:

My own sister told me that the type of birth control we both take can make it so after you quit taking it, you can't get pregnant for at least 5 years. (We were both on the shot at the time. I'm still on it)

Oh man I wish! That would be great! One shot and you're covered for five years. That would be heaven!

southernbelle0915

Wut? 

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