Sorry guys, please bear with me because I just need to vent. I'm seething on my poor FI's behalf right now. Our wedding is only 10 days away and now suddenly half of his immediate family is backing out on attending the wedding. When we first met he told he he wasn't close with his family, and I'm really beginning to understand why. They are not local, and I've only met them once (despite the fact that we've been together for 4 years), but it is becoming abundantly clear to me that they are NOT the type of people who will be there for each other when it's important.
First, his mother broke her foot a couple weeks ago. Fine. Not her fault. We sent her a message saying that we would make sure accommodations were made at the venue so she could get around however she needed to (wheelchair, crutches, walker, etc). She's been sending my FI vague emails about how she probably will not be able to come because she cannot bear weight on her foot. She's an otherwise relatively healthy and fit woman who is perfectly capable of getting around with the assistance of her husband, a wheelchair, crutches, etc. It's your son's wedding, lady! Make the extra effort! But I'm pretty sure she is going to cancel, and so is FI.
Second, his sister scheduled oral surgery the week before the wedding and now will apparently not be able to come because of that. Who schedules an ELECTIVE surgery the week of her brother's wedding?!? I have a sneaky suspicion it is actually FI's mother who is behind this though, as we are sure she is paying for the procedure.
Third, he learned yesterday that his favorite aunt won't be able to come because of "health issues". This one I can forgive, because she is traveling a long distance and I know she means well. But I know that this is just adding to FI's disappointment.
So now FI only has 3 family members coming to the wedding: his brother, sister-in-law, and one uncle (we invited 10). I, on the other hand, have about 30 family coming (100% of my family accepted). I feel really, really bad.