I am having a little crisis, we are trying to finalize the guest list in order to send out invitations. We decided early that persons under 21 would not be invited, for several reasons, but the main reason is because it cut about sixty people off the list without having to hurt feelings.
Except there is a problem. A few of my family members have children that are older than 21 and children that are under.
Do I invite the one that is old enough and not the younger one, do I invite neither, or do I invite both? And then what sort of cascading invitation addition or subtraction do to the feelings I was trying so hard not to hurt?
My family is very very large (read over 150 people) and we are paying for our own wedding, so we can't afford more that 200 guests. I am not trying to be one of those crazy brides, but I also know how big my bank account is, I could really use the advice.