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Re: NWR: Gender Reveal "Surprise"

  • luckya23 said:

    My sister and BIL knew the sex of their baby and teased us for about a week before the official "gender reveal party" with cupcakes.

    I smashed that sucker so fast because I wanted to be the third to know at least!

    I think she just wanted the whole family to find out together was the thought process.

     

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    It sounds like the actual "thought process" was "how can i get people to make me the center of attention for a full week and make a huge deal out of my baby's genitalia?"  If my sister pulled this nonsense with me, and actually TEASED my family in an "i know something you don't know" manner, i would just not show up at the reveal party, and not ask her anything about it, to prove a point.

     

    You know how else you can tell your whole family at once?  Just tell them at a regular dinner one night.  "hey everyone, the baby is a girl."  Or send a group email or text.  The above story is so AW i can hardly stand it.

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    luckya23 said:

    My sister and BIL knew the sex of their baby and teased us for about a week before the official "gender reveal party" with cupcakes.

    I smashed that sucker so fast because I wanted to be the third to know at least!

    I think she just wanted the whole family to find out together was the thought process.

    We could be the same person. My sister and BIL hid the information from all of us and then got the families together (sibings, parents, step-parents) and "revealed" the sex with cupcakes filled with pink filling. For them, I think they wanted the families to all know at the same time so nobody felt like one set of parents was favored over the other or anything like that. I did enjoy getting to talk to my BIL's mom and step-dad though. I hadn't seen them since my sister's wedding.



  • I think these types of things are very AW.  Who really cares?  And why is doing whatever with balloons or confetti or a stuffed animal in a bag more exciting than just telling people.

    H and I do not plan to find out when we have kids specifically to avoid all the insanity over what we're having and then getting all blue or pink clothes.  In my family, it's actually pretty normal to not find out.  Neither of our parents did and most of my immediate relatives have chosen not to.
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  • I think they are AWing, but I don't care what you want to AW if I'm properly hosted and you aren't expecting me to open my wallet or bring a gift. I'm game for a free meal and cake :yum:

    Now if you have a potluck and make it all about your reveal I'll be annoyed. But honestly if you bring a cake and require me to listen to a 10 second announcement, then I'm cool. I like cake. And at some point I'd probably hear the ten second spiel - "We're having a boy/girl!" - I might as well get cake to go along with it.
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  • banana468 said:
    Yeah, that's completely ridiculous. It's a baby, not an academy award. 
    But finding out via a cake is so much more exciting then the US tech telling you it is a boy or girl.
    I feel like the people who do this don't get it.   You're there in the room watching this wiggly creature move around.   And then the US tech (or Dr.) says, "That's a boy".   I swear one of the top 5 moments of my life was just watching DH's expression and thinking about it still makes me well up. 
    I think that sounds so nice! I think I would want the tech to tell me and my husband and let us have OUR moment of excitement. Finding out with everyone else does not sound appealing at all.

    OP- I find it weird that the parents knew, and this i show they told their friends and family. 
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  • I love cake. I hate gender reveal parties.

    I don't think it's cool if the hosts used the BBQ as a gender reveal guise but from your post it just seems like they turned dessert into a hey everyone knows that we are having a baby, the color of the cake will indicate the child's sexual parts! I get how it can seem AW-ish but it's not an egregious offense.
  • labro said:
    luckya23 said:

    My sister and BIL knew the sex of their baby and teased us for about a week before the official "gender reveal party" with cupcakes.

    I smashed that sucker so fast because I wanted to be the third to know at least!

    I think she just wanted the whole family to find out together was the thought process.

    We could be the same person. My sister and BIL hid the information from all of us and then got the families together (sibings, parents, step-parents) and "revealed" the sex with cupcakes filled with pink filling. For them, I think they wanted the families to all know at the same time so nobody felt like one set of parents was favored over the other or anything like that. I did enjoy getting to talk to my BIL's mom and step-dad though. I hadn't seen them since my sister's wedding.
    Our cupcakes were blue :-)  And nephew is almost 2 now!

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  • delujm0 said:
    luckya23 said:

    My sister and BIL knew the sex of their baby and teased us for about a week before the official "gender reveal party" with cupcakes.

    I smashed that sucker so fast because I wanted to be the third to know at least!

    I think she just wanted the whole family to find out together was the thought process.

     

    **********quote box fail*********

     

    It sounds like the actual "thought process" was "how can i get people to make me the center of attention for a full week and make a huge deal out of my baby's genitalia?"  If my sister pulled this nonsense with me, and actually TEASED my family in an "i know something you don't know" manner, i would just not show up at the reveal party, and not ask her anything about it, to prove a point.

     

    You know how else you can tell your whole family at once?  Just tell them at a regular dinner one night.  "hey everyone, the baby is a girl."  Or send a group email or text.  The above story is so AW i can hardly stand it.

    Oh yeah, definitely that too!  This is the same sister who is desperately trying to get KU before my wedding so the focus is back on her.

    They live in another state though, so there are no "regular family dinners."  And my grandparents don't do technology.

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