Dear Prudence,
My husband and I have been together for almost a decade, and last year was rough. He had an affair with my now ex–best friend; we've been going to counseling and our relationship has been the strongest it's been in a very long time. I stopped wearing my wedding ring about a month after I found out about the affair, as looking at just made me depressed. He told me for this year’s anniversary that he wants us to renew our vows, and I mentioned something about getting new rings while at it. He thought it was a great idea. I’m having second thoughts, though. This is the ring he proposed to me with years ago, I wore it on our wedding day, and we brought two children into the world while I wore it. But I also wore it while he was with another woman. I’m afraid I’ll miss the ring if I let it go, but I also don't know if I can wear it and look at it with the same love I used to.