Thanks everyone for the feedback, I wanted to know if I was in the wrong or not and it is clear from your posts that it is my fault. I would just like to mention that I have not been involved in the planning of any of the extra events, so I was unaware of what was going on when she sent me the messages about the financial woes.
I am understanding of the financial problems and have only told her that I understand and it is ok. I have never told her that I am sad, and my disappointment only stems from wanting to spend time with her. Thanks for your posts, I appreciate it.