What is etiquette here? By height on both sides?One of my bridesmaids is dating a groomsmen. She was really upset when I said they might not be paired together (she is much taller than him). Thoughts?
There are no etiquette guidelines to put your BMs/GMs in any sort of order. If I were you, I would try to pair up the dating BM/GM. I think height is a silly reason to keep these two from being able to walk together.
I had 2 MOHs, one was 6 months pregnant at our wedding. She was feeling self-conscience about her baby bump, so I paired her up with my H's large GM. She loved it! Even in group pictures after, she stuck by him to help hide her bump.
If any two or more of your attendants are in a relationship together, I'd let them walk together. Otherwise, it's up to you.
That said, doing it by height is something that seems shallow, so I wouldn't use height as the criteria for pairing off your attendants.
I've actually been questioning this for my BMs, too. I have seven BMs (I know, I know... But they're all important to me), three of them are married to groomsmen and another one is dating a groomsman. I'm definitely letting the couples walk together if they want, but I'm torn on the ordering of them. We can't do height because of the difference that exists between the MOH and Best Man, the order in which I met my girls isn't the same in which FI met his guys, which then throws off the couples. I think we've decided to let the BMs and GMs just line up in whatever order they want to, and if they can't do that then we'll just draw numbers for the girls and put them and their partner in that order.
I'd love to hear other advice as well, though!
ETF: Apparently I can't type complete sentences.
Can I just point out that the order in which people walk doesn't have to have any bearing on the order in which they stand?
We got married in a church with two aisles. The groomsmen came in with J, from the side of the stage area. The bridesmaids and I walked down one aisle, which was the side of the stage that the girls stood on, and we all recessed up the second aisle, which was the side of the stage the guys stood on.
Theoretically, if any of my bridesmaids were in a relationship with any of the groomsmen, as they walked across the stage at the end to go up the aisle, any one of the groomsmen could have paired up with them. It didn't have to be in accordance to where they were standing.
We have two couples in our bridal party. The best man and one of my bridesmaids are married and then another GM and BM are married. I want to put the couples together, but still have my MOH next to me and my FI was the BM next to him. I think the GMs will come out before the BMs before the ceremony, but they will exit together. Do you think having them pair up to leave in a different order than what they are standing in would be an issue? The wife of the best man will stand next to my MOH. I also thought about letting my MOH walk back by herself because I have one more BM? Or would that be awkward?
I also feel like ordering it based on closeness is weird. It feels like I am ranking people, which I don't like at all.
The amount of time that people put towards deciding how to line up their wedding party amazes me. This is not rocket science.
I've been to a ton of weddings and just assumed everyone was standing in regards to closeness or "couples" if that was the case, never by height. Plus what photographer makes everyone stand in height order in a straight line nowadays? How silly!!