My girlfriends and I were talking about the tradition that the Bride's family pays for everything except for the officient, the rehearsal dinner, and I think one more item (the bouquet?). My family and his family didn't necessarily do it this way, but because we are planning the wedding out of state, my family did end up paying more in the end (which was find, because we still stayed in the budget).
However, modern girls that we are, we agreed we don't believe a bride (or her family) should feel pressured into paying for everything as tradition has it. Honestly, we think it should be a unanimous decision of who pays what, and both sides should pitch in equally, as it is two individuals coming together to make a lifetime commitment together as equals. I also think that it is important to consider both parties financial situation. For example, I knew my future inlaws couldn't pay for much because they spent a lot on housing repairs. This was taken into consideration when creating the budget.
What do you all think about this tradition? What is appropriate and what is not?
Thank you all in advance! It will be interesting to read what you all have to say