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  • FiancBFiancB member
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    KatWAG said:

    I don't think anyone questioned her ability as a mother.

    Well we're supposed to mother our husbands as they are just big dumb man-children, duh. 
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    scribe95 said:
    Now when the OP doesn't actually say anything wrong we just assume and make stuff up I guess? 

    I think she said plenty that was wrong.
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    Hope he is okay, CMG.

    We live in an apartment at the moment so we don't have to fix major things but he will try and DIY some minor things. More often than not his injuries around the home are food related. He has burnt himself many times though luckily he has never accidentally cut himself at home (he used to work in a kitchen years ago so he had a few accidents then).

    He also thinks he can diy his car stuff, but that just gets him all irritated when it won't go his way, not physically hurt.


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    My H is pretty handy and we rent so nothing like CMGr's story, but he will flat out refuse medical attention. Several years ago he sliced into his finger really bad at work and didn't go in. Two days later, he was still having shooting pains up his arm even with the slightest touch so he finally went to the doctor. He'd cut a tendon but it was too late to fix it. He still has issues with that finger. 

    I hope your husband is okay, CMGr. You gotta keep your kids around for those kids of things! :) 

    My dad lives alone and he's also hurt himself a few times doing things he shouldn't. Now my H stops by "just 'cause" when he knows my dad'll be doing something heavy or on ladders or whatever.
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    ShesSoCold said:
    My H is pretty handy and we rent so nothing like CMGr's story, but he will flat out refuse medical attention. Several years ago he sliced into his finger really bad at work and didn't go in. Two days later, he was still having shooting pains up his arm even with the slightest touch so he finally went to the doctor. He'd cut a tendon but it was too late to fix it. He still has issues with that finger. 

    I hope your husband is okay, CMGr. You gotta keep your kids around for those kids of things! :) 

    My dad lives alone and he's also hurt himself a few times doing things he shouldn't. Now my H stops by "just 'cause" when he knows my dad'll be doing something heavy or on ladders or whatever.
    Your story just reminded me of one!

    FI is a DIY'er as well. 

    We had just moved into our house, and I was about 1 month or so away from my due date with our son. He felt the need to do some repairs on our wooden fence, and was sawing a fence post plank thing.

    I was outside just watching and reading, and all of the sudden the hand saw got caught on the wood and skipped up and sliced his finger wide open.  Lots of blood, and then all of the sudden he passes out.  I start flipping out, trying to get him up/wake him up (while very pregnant).  I was about to run in and get my phone to call 911 when he came to, and I helped him get inside to put some pressure on his finger, assess the damage and clean it up.

    Before we can make it to the kitchen he faints AGAIN.  I wrapped up his finger and he was alert maybe 30 seconds later.  I really wanted to take him to the hospital for stitches, but he absolutely refused.  We bandaged up his finger nice and tight, and it did heal on it's own.  

    Every time he tries to use the saw now it makes me so nervous.  He is actually fairly handy, but that just was traumitizing!
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    MairePoppy said:
    She said he was 64 and overwieght. She didn't say he was old and fat.
    Is 64 old? 

    Fat is a synonym for overweight. And I believe she was implying that he is old or not young enough to be on the roof, otherwise why mention his age?
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    I always tell H's dad (who's in his late 60's) that I'm going to get him a medical alert thingy to wear, and I legitimately want to, because he worries me. 

    H's parents own a farm with a big historic house that his dad has totally restored by hand. He's the most handy person I've ever come across; he can fix, build, make, rehab, renovate, or create pretty much anything. And the results are so amazing. 

    However. He is clumsy as all hell. In the past 5 years, he fell out of a tree with a RUNNING chainsaw in his hands and landed on a pile of cinder blocks, in a separate accident he hit his leg with the chainsaw and almost sliced his knee off, he has fallen through the ground into a 2-hundred-year-old stone cistern that he didn't know was under there, severed a tendon in his hand while repairing a staircase, put a nail through his hand on the same staircase, needed stitches for a dry-walling accident, and he once lit himself on fire and burned all the skin off one arm. 

    Most of these things have happened while he's home alone, so someone comes home to find trails of blood leading out the door and sure enough he has driven himself to the hospital. Sigh. Scares the hell out of me (and H's family). But will he ever stop with these projects? Nope. 
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    novella1186 said:
    I always tell H's dad (who's in his late 60's) that I'm going to get him a medical alert thingy to wear, and I legitimately want to, because he worries me. 

    H's parents own a farm with a big historic house that his dad has totally restored by hand. He's the most handy person I've ever come across; he can fix, build, make, rehab, renovate, or create pretty much anything. And the results are so amazing. 

    However. He is clumsy as all hell. In the past 5 years, he fell out of a tree with a RUNNING chainsaw in his hands and landed on a pile of cinder blocks, in a separate accident he hit his leg with the chainsaw and almost sliced his knee off, he has fallen through the ground into a 2-hundred-year-old stone cistern that he didn't know was under there, severed a tendon in his hand while repairing a staircase, put a nail through his hand on the same staircase, needed stitches for a dry-walling accident, and he once lit himself on fire and burned all the skin off one arm. 

    Most of these things have happened while he's home alone, so someone comes home to find trails of blood leading out the door and sure enough he has driven himself to the hospital. Sigh. Scares the hell out of me (and H's family). But will he ever stop with these projects? Nope. 
    Several years ago, my dad dropped the ladder while working on the loft of the garage he was building (no stairs yet) and sat up there until he ran out of cigarettes before he called someone for help. We still make fun of him for it, but because of that, we always call someone when we're doing something dangerous now. He, my sister and our stepdad all live alone and my brother's wife works a lot and is out of town. So if someone is on a ladder or something, they'll call someone just to let them know that and then call back in 10 minutes or whatever when they're done. 

    When my grandma was told she should have a lifealert since she lived alone, she told her kids they were "for old people". They convinced her to get one by telling her that it's only because she lives alone and that my sister had one too. 
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    CMG hasn't logged in since yesterday. She could be at the doctor now for all we know. *shrug*. 


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    hellohkb said:
    CMG hasn't logged in since yesterday. She could be at the doctor now for all we know. *shrug*. 
    We all know CMG has some old school thoughts.   I imagining her husband being an old school older dude who is too proud to ask for help.   Definitely too proud to admit they might need some medical attention.

    I've seen it happen way too often in their generation.    I hope he is doing well.






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  • jacques27jacques27 member
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    hellohkb said:
    CMG hasn't logged in since yesterday. She could be at the doctor now for all we know. *shrug*. 
    Well, hopefully she is.  I mean, I'm certainly sorry that any situation necessitating that happened at all, but I have to say I was pretty horrified that someone's instinct within the first 60 minutes of finding their husband sprawled out on the ground after falling off a roof was to go log into a wedding chat forum to complain about him being cheap and saying she was planning to yell at him later.  ***Removed for TOS Violation*** nitpicking about how being cheap ends up with someone falling off a roof all you want AFTER you've verified there's no fractures, concussions, or internal injuries if that's your bag - we all have our hobbies.
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    jacques27 said:
    hellohkb said:
    CMG hasn't logged in since yesterday. She could be at the doctor now for all we know. *shrug*. 
    Well, hopefully she is.  I mean, I'm certainly sorry that any situation necessitating that happened at all, but I have to say I was pretty horrified that someone's instinct within the first 60 minutes of finding their husband sprawled out on the ground after falling off a roof was to go log into a wedding chat forum to complain about him being cheap and saying she was planning to yell at him later. ***Removed for TOS Violation***nitpicking about how being cheap ends up with someone falling off a roof all you want AFTER you've verified there's no fractures, concussions, or internal injuries if that's your bag - we all have our hobbies.
    I mean, I'd be pissed if my DH made a habit of doing dangerous shit to save a few bucks here and there. And then he falls off a ladder doing stuff that we could have had someone else do?

    Of course I'd be concerned and I'd help him get medical attention. But I'd also be pissed at him because it's kind of like "Why? We can afford this and it's risky. Finally the risk caught up with you." 

    And if my DH had long-term injuries because of it, I'd be the one taking care of him. I'm all about the "in sickness and in health" piece and I'd do a damn good job of taking care of him. But you bet I'd be thinking, "Why the hell? Over $70?!"
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    H & I are DIYers too.  But thankfully we both know our limitations.  We now live in a 2 story house.  H has already said there is no way in hell he will clean out our gutters.  So we will simply hire that task out each fall.

    I do have one thing that H always does that bothers me.  He always needs to use the power drill when it's clearly not the best thing to use.  The big one is on door knobs!  We replaced the door knobs in our last house and he practically stripped the screw trying to get it in on the one knob.  He was doing the project alone, so I didn't say anything to him.  After he did that, he constantly scratched his fingers on the jagged edges of the screws.  I'd just roll my eyes thinking, if you used the hand held screw driver like you are supposed to, this wouldn't have happened!

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    I guess I should be fair to H and say that I scare the hell out of him, too. I'm super clumsy and -- no idea why-- I burn myself all the time. I had a really bad 3rd degree burn on the back of my hand a few years ago from accidentally pressing it against the heating element in the top of the oven when I was trying to take something out. 

    I have a scar on my leg from burning myself on part of the grill a couple summers ago. I had that horrible blister on my boob from the freak cooking accident/grease burn (which left a scar too but that one seems to be going away). And those are just the bad ones. I get minor burns almost every week. H has tried to ban me from using the stove and grill cuz he's so worried that I'll keep burning myself. 

    Since I posted about him procrastinating and his dad scaring the hell out of me by hurting himself, I thought I'd be fair and call myself out too :P 

    I think we're all guilty of doing stupid things every once in a while. 
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    CMGragain said:
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    Did you bother taking him to the hospital? Even if he was taking a stupid risk a fall from the roof can cause some serious damage. I really want to give you the benefit of the doubt that you were posting after confirming he was 100% ok, but somehow I doubt that.
    I was too upset to post any more, yesterday!  You guys are making me feel batter about being married to this pig headed man!
    He absolutely refused to go to the hospital, though a neighbor and I both pleaded with him.  That made me even more angry.  Today he went out for a hike.  Honestly!  Not going to the hospital is more stupid than climbing up on the roof to save $70.  It isn't like we don't have the money!  For heaven's sake, he is 64 years old and weighs 280 lbs.!  The ladder looks like one of Sherman's neckties from the Civil War.
    Thank you, again.  It was good to have a place to vent.

    Glad to hear he is doing well. I am one to err on the side of (sometimes extreme) caution.  I will be telling DH to have something checked out and he will say he is just fine - sometimes he is right and sometimes I am right.  It is ultimately his decision what he does as I am not his mother.  I will say he has gotten better about it and I try to relax a little about things.

    But... there was the time he sliced open the top of his middle finger and it required surgery (twice) and physical therapy.  I am blessed that he can truly fix anything (getting it done is a different story) and he is quite meticulous about how he does things.  I think it was a box cutter but it might have been an exacto knife.  He slipped and truly sliced his finger to where he laid over the flap of skin about halfway down his first knuckle.  He didn't need any coaxing on that one, he drove himself to ER.

    I called home while he was gone and teenage DS just says, "yeah, Dad drove himself to ER" like he was telling me the mailman delivered the mail.  That boy needs work too!

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    MairePoppy said:
    She said he was 64 and overwieght. She didn't say he was old and fat.
    Is 64 old? 

    I read as study once that showed "old" was your age plus 3 years.  So "old" changes as you age. 
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    Three days later.  He is moaning and whining about his bruises, but nothing seems broken, other than his pride.  He is using my lift chair  (which I do not need) currently because his lower back hurts where he fell on the ladder.  When the cat jumps in his lap, he yells.  (The cat adores him!)
    I bought him ice cream.  I think it helps.  I wish he would go to the doctor and get himself checked out, but he won't.
    Funny, he goes crazy worrying about my cancer, but when it comes to his own health, he is in denial.  Oh, yes, it is MY fault that he is overweight!  I do remember when he was 15 years old, six feet tall, and 165 lbs.  He got perfect attendance awards in school, which simply meant that he came to school/work sick and spread his germs.
    Well, I only married him 39 years ago.  I didn't raise him. Good thing I love him so much.  He gave me some new grey hairs this week!

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