My fiancé and I had my second cousin take our engagement photos and we asked her if she might be interested in shooting our wedding. We live in California but the wedding will be in Missouri. We gave her months to think about it and I followed up with her a few weeks ago. I hadn't asked her price of shooting the wedding (mistake #1) until then but the price she quoted was over our budget, on top of us feeling the obligation to fly her to Missouri and pay for her lodging if she were to be our photographer. Now, we haven't signed any contracts or made definite plans but how can I politely back out of using her as the photographer? I have found many photographers in Missouri who are in our budget and we wouldn't have to pay for their flight or lodging. I just don't want to cause any hurt feelings or drama for all of this, and would still invite her to the wedding as a guest. TIA!