So this is the deal: FI and I have been engaged for sixteen months now and are getting married in less than 4 weeks. We live near FI's hometown and my family and friends are scattered literally all over the country (and a good part of the globe), so it just made logical sense to have the wedding here. I knew a good chunk of my OOT guests would not be able to make it, but there were quite a few who said they would be able to come, and I was excited to see family and friends that I don't often get to spend time with.
Fast forward to a week before our RSVP due date, and we've had quite a few unexpected declines, nearly all on my side. We invited 220 people expecting around 180 to show, and it looks like we're going to get around 155. It's not any one big thing--we've just had some unlucky and unexpected things come up with our guests. I know that declines are inevitable, but to have family and friends back out who initially said they were coming hurts, and the end result is that this wedding is going to be comprised of literally twice the number of FI's family and friends than of mine.
I KNOW declines are inevitable. I KNOW that my very very closest family and friends will be there. And I really, really, really know that at the end of the day I get to marry my FI, and that is the most important thing in the world to me. I'm just feeling a little blue over the declines, and feeling like I've put all this work over the past 16 months into planning a party that nobody's going to show up at, and that I wish we'd just had an immediate family only ceremony on a beach somewhere three months ago and been done with it.
I realize on the day of I won't care about these declines, but I'm just having a bummed moment right now and need to get over it. Anybody have any advice on how to do that?