Postal Anxiety WWTKD

chloe97

We sent our invitations out  3 weeks ago and have heard from 3 good friends that they have not gotten their invitations. We have only gotten 2 invitations back in the mail and neither were from the friends who did not receive their invitations. One had the legitimate wrong address and one was sent back to us for no reason whatsoever. The only thing that we could surmise is that the postal machine could not read the FMIL's flowery handwriting. 

Now I am freaked out that more people aren't getting them. Right now, we have about a 50% response rate- which is really good. Do I wait until the RSVP deadline before contacting those who haven't RSVP'd yet or should I start casually asking to make sure people received their invitations. We sent out about 135 invitations and have received 65-70 RSVP cards back. I don't want to bug people because they have another 5 weeks to get their RSVPs in, but I'm just worried that people may think they are not invited.  

AprilH81

I wouldn't panic yet, but I would bring up in casual conversation with those invited if it feels natural.

"We got the invites out a few weeks ago, we are so excited to get married and I hope you guys can make it!"

If you said that point blank to me I would let you know if I hadn't received it yet, but you would have to be pretty blunt about it, otherwise I would wonder if you were just excited and I wouldn't want to ask in fear of "inviting myself".

kvruns

if you've already received 1/2 of the RSVPs back and still have 5 weeks to go I wouldn't be too concerned.  Perhaps pick another 5 people to check with, someone far away, someone close, etc and just say hey we heard that some of our invitations didn't make it, did you receive yours yet?

wandajune6

Most of our RSVPs came the week they were due, mostly a few days after the deadline. Half of our guests didn't RSVP at all but had the invitations (from what we heard).

I wouldn't worry about it.

beachyone15

Yeah, I think it'd be fine for you to check with a few people that you are really close to. If most of them tell you that they received theirs, I'd try not to worry too much.

novella1186

I agree with PP. Just check with a few people and don't worry too much about it. 

FWIW, my mom did our calligraphy and I could not for the life of me decipher her handwriting because it was so elaborate. The post office somehow figured it out though, and everyone but 1 person got their invites. 

littlemushroom

We had one person never receive their invite and we sent less than half than you did. It never came back in returned mail, and they never got it. That happens with the post office.

For perspective we mail out all of our company's W2s together in January. Just this week we got another one back in returned mail with a sticker saying no forwarding address. Why it took 5 months to come back is anyone's guess. The mail is mysterious, just trust that most of your invitations got where they are going and follow up with people after the deadline as needed.