I am one of those people who believes that, within reason, by all means spend the money when it really counts. FI and I are 100% paying for our wedding, with the exception of the rehearsal dinner, which his parents have graciously offered to take care of. However, FI, my FMIL, and I have been bickering about the flowers for the bouquets, boutonnieres, and centerpieces. I have 2 bridesmaids; he has 2 groomsmen; centerpieces will not require flowers at all because they are 12" mirrors with tall white lanterns and a column candle with ribbon (DIY/"not how FMIL did it"); and as far as the alter goes, the venue has a beautiful white arch that, in my opinion, doesn't need further adornment. The ceremony is outside overlooking the Chesapeake Bay and the girls are wearing knee-length dresses in a soft flowing material. They are carrying bright pink Gerber Daisies, and I would like to grow and wrap the bouquets myself. I would also like my bouquet to be somewhat simple, sturdy flowers in pinks and whites. Since there are so many videos and even DIY boutonniere stations at some weddings, I didn't think it would be a big deal to save a little on the flowers since they will all be relatively simple. FI thinks I'm being absolutely ridiculous wanting to do things myself rather than just pay someone to make them, FMIL is against the bride's bouquet having any color other than white, and she insists that it should be cascading. My dress is a semi-custom version of the dress below, with extra embellishment at the gathering of asymmetrical material.http://www.sinceritybridal.com/wedding_dress/3757 , it's a May wedding, and it's outside. My shoes are bright pink (something else FMIL disagrees with), and I thought the combo of colorful flowers between the bridal party and my bouquet would tie it all together. I know it's going to be a lot of "you're paying, you get the final say" ... I think I am looking for more reassurance that I'm not crazy for wanting to take on some aspects of our big day in a DIY sense , and mainly if anyone has any input as to if you've done this or know someone who has.
I'm sorry for the long-winded post... I just switched from "finish nursing school" mode to "our wedding is in less than 1 year" mode. Thanks in advance for any advice!