Firstly I would like to say that I'm in my 30s as are several friends getting married. But we all stumble on the same issue. We don't need toasters, plates etc. we need Cash. (if we did need a toaster we would go out and buy it).
I've been told by several parties that if no registry exists that people see this as "you have what you need and no gifts are required" However, that seems to me a "i don't have time to unnecessarily make a registry and I don't need pots and pans" but i do need cash because even a humble wedding is expensive. Cold hard green cash. This may sound awful but what I want guests to bring is money. I'm not saying they even have to cover their cost, I plan a wedding I take on the financial responsibility. But if they are bringing a gift be it for $50 or $500 instead of pots cash helps relieve the burden of the cost of the wedding.
How do you tell people this -- some know, some can share it through word of mouth but generally going to someones 3rd cousin and saying don't bring me pots bring me money is just plain rude. So how can this be done?