My mother's husband is not a decent person. I'd prefer to limit what I say for some privacy, plus so he can't track it down as easily. However, when he and my mom got married, the court said my dad got sole custody of my siblings and I - no visitation, no contact until of legal age.
However, my mom and I have an ok enough relationship. It's certainly not great, we aren't close. But she's still my mom.
I'd like my mom at my wedding, but I don't see how I can avoid inviting her husband. Etiquette says they're an established couple, we invite both. Flat out, if I never see his face or hear of him again, it'll be too soon.
I'm stuck between obliterating any relationship with my mom by inviting neither and having to deal with a sub human thing I'd avoid at any other time by inviting both. But my evil side is saying flambe that bridge, she picked him over her children knowing his history. Which is an old, old issue I'm still holding a grudge about.
Is my evil side that evil? Or do I need to suck it up for a weekend (rehearsal dinner, wedding, possibly morning after brunch)?