Woman Sees Pictures of Boyfriend's Wedding and Still Not Sure He Cheated

MJKlover

http://itheedread.jezebel.com/woman-sees-pictures-of-boyfriends-wedding-still-not-su-1713704530?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

This is so sad!

wandajune6

I saw that!

I admit: my first thought was to laugh. How could someone be that gullible? But I do feel bad for her. She seems like a nice person, albeit absurdly innocent.

Also, he's scum.

AddieCake

He's a loser. I feel badly for her being so naive. 

MJKlover

wandajune6 said:

I saw that!

I admit: my first thought was to laugh. How could someone be that gullible? But I do feel bad for her. She seems like a nice person, albeit absurdly innocent.

Also, he's scum.

I had the same reaction at first. By the end I felt like an ass and really sorry for her.

thisismynickname2

I feel bad for his wife more so than little miss naive. 

southernbelle0915

Well, at least that girl is wiser now. I feel bad for the guy's new wife. If he's this much of a lying douchebag, I wonder what he tells HER.

MissKittyDanger

I feel bad for girl and new wife and anyone associated with this level of douchery he is!

novella1186

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

redheadbride15

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

@novella1186 How is it that you always win the prize for knowing the most BSC people out there? This is so creepy/sad I just don't know what to say.

pinupbride6189

It really sucks learning the world isn't fair and that some people are just awful the hard way.  I feel for this poor woman. I feel things for this douche nugget, too, but that's better not discussed in polite company.

novella1186

redheadbride15 said:

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

@novella1186 How is it that you always win the prize for knowing the most BSC people out there? This is so creepy/sad I just don't know what to say.

Lol I do not know! I had known her since we were little kids and she did NOT used to be like that. Eventually I had to distance myself from her because being friends with her just got to be way too much to deal with. 

MissKittyDanger

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

That's so heartbreaking! It's sad to hear of women {or men} who just can't be independent. Idk if I hope she finds someone or her independence.

kmmssg

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

@Novella1186 - you have just described, to a tee, my 57 yo BSC sister.  I wish I were kidding, but I could not be more dead serious.  And now, she is 57, no pension, no retirement plan, very very very little savings, single - still waiting for some dude, any dude, to come along and be her Prince Charming.  Her ex H (they married and divorced twice) and her abusive, alcoholic ex live in were scum of the earth.  The guy she "co-dated" after the live in (she knew he was sleeping with another woman, but her told her guys need more than one woman and in her desperation, she had no problem with it) is also scum. 

 

Get this - she has been divorced from exh for at least 15 years.  He is STILL the beneficiary to her life insurance because, "Well, I called and told them to change it............." and has done nothing about it.  Apparently she thinks that nonBSC sister and I will claim her body and pay her expenses out of our pockets.  Um - no, you change that life insurance or you are on your own.

 

My blood boils when she looks at my life and tells me how "lucky" I am.  No - I worked my ass off and spent a lot of time away from my family that I would have rather not done.  I chose a tough career path and I can stand on my own financially with or without a husband.  Luck my ass.

 

I see a tragic future for your friend.

novella1186

kmmssg that is awful. The irony is that if my friend would find some independence and quit attaching herself to any guy she can find, she wouldn't scare them off so fast and she could maybe have the relationship she wants. But her desperation seems to be keeping her in a perpetual state of desperation. 

mikenberger

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

You seem to have a friend or personal experience for every single crazy thing that happens on this board. And it usually tops the OP. Hmm.

KatWAG

mikenberger said:

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

You seem to have a friend or personal experience for every single crazy thing that happens on this board. And it usually tops the OP. Hmm.

Agreed! It always seems to one- up the OP.

VulgarGirl

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

So your friend was super crazy stage 5 clinger who knew that the guy she was banging wanted to be banging another girl but was totes ok with that so long as the girl stayed down in Mexico...where her boyfriend would clearly go to visit his family/friends since he was ya know from Mexico.

And that's the same as a woman who is dating a man who flat out lies about getting married saying that it was just staged for pictures? 

Those are, those are not the same things at all. One is your friend is BSC (and are we surprised? you don't have non-BSC friends) and desperate for a man. That's sad. She's bought into the rom-com bullshit that if you aren't partnered up with someone you are less then and shitty. And that sucks that that is even a thing in our society. The other is this girl who has been blanetly lied to by her boyfriend. And also is still so worried about "upsetting" him she won't call him on his bullshit. Which is another shitty thing about society. We tell women not to upset men cause if you upset the men, the men won't want you, and you will die sad and alone with a billion cats.

So while both have the same conclusion, society treats women like shit, they aren't in the same realm. Your friend knew about this girl and that this guy would be boning her if his penis reached to mexico, and behaved like a fucking weirdo. The girl in the story had no fucking clue what was going and behaved like a fucking doormat. 

novella1186

KatWAG said:

mikenberger said:

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

You seem to have a friend or personal experience for every single crazy thing that happens on this board. And it usually tops the OP. Hmm.

Agreed! It always seems to one- up the OP.

I don't think I one-upped anybody. And other posters also had stories, but-- weird-- you only called out mine. 

My point was that some women seem to put up with way more shit than they should, look the other way, whatever, because they'd rather not be alone or whatever other reasons. 

But go ahead and make a big fucking deal about it because I brought up a personal experience. That's fun. 

KatWAG

VulgarGirl said:

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

So your friend was super crazy stage 5 clinger who knew that the guy she was banging wanted to be banging another girl but was totes ok with that so long as the girl stayed down in Mexico...where her boyfriend would clearly go to visit his family/friends since he was ya know from Mexico.

And that's the same as a woman who is dating a man who flat out lies about getting married saying that it was just staged for pictures? 

Those are, those are not the same things at all. One is your friend is BSC (and are we surprised? you don't have non-BSC friends) and desperate for a man. That's sad. She's bought into the rom-com bullshit that if you aren't partnered up with someone you are less then and shitty. And that sucks that that is even a thing in our society. The other is this girl who has been blanetly lied to by her boyfriend. And also is still so worried about "upsetting" him she won't call him on his bullshit. Which is another shitty thing about society. We tell women not to upset men cause if you upset the men, the men won't want you, and you will die sad and alone with a billion cats.

So while both have the same conclusion, society treats women like shit, they aren't in the same realm. Your friend knew about this girl and that this guy would be boning her if his penis reached to mexico, and behaved like a fucking weirdo. The girl in the story had no fucking clue what was going and behaved like a fucking doormat. 

Novella does have the uncanny ability to relate almost every thread back to some BSC story in her own life.

KatWAG

novella1186 said:

KatWAG said:

mikenberger said:

novella1186 said:

I actually had a friend who was similar to this woman; she was dating a guy from Mexico (but he was currently living in the US, in the same city as her). He had photos of some other girl all over his apartment and told my friend that he was in love with this other girl, but she was back in Mexico. My friend thought this was fine; as long as this girl was far away, no big deal. (She was extremely desperate to find someone to marry so she could be taken care of; she told me this many times). 

While they were hanging out, the guy would ignore her to spend hours texting this other girl. Again, she didn't seem to mind. Then he flew back to Mexico for some family thing, and spent the entire time with this girl. He stopped all communication with my friend the whole time he was away, and even told her he'd be with the other girl while he was there and didn't want to talk to her. 

When he flew back, she insisted on picking him up from the airport even though he said he didn't want to see her. When she picked him up, she said she was hungry and wanted to go get food. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home. So she took him to his apartment where he laid down and fell asleep, and she proceeded to sit by his bed for over 3 hours watching him sleep, so that they could go get food together when he woke up. 

When he finally did wake up and realized she'd been sitting there watching him, he told her she was freaking him out and was being way too needy and clingy, had no independence, and was suffocating him. She STILL wanted to be with him and didn't understand why he thought she was needy and clingy. He finally broke up with her and she couldn't figure out what went wrong. 

So when I read that article, I almost didn't believe it, until I realized that there actually are women like this. It's an extremely baffling, sad thing to witness IRL. 

You seem to have a friend or personal experience for every single crazy thing that happens on this board. And it usually tops the OP. Hmm.

Agreed! It always seems to one- up the OP.

I don't think I one-upped anybody. And other posters also had stories, but-- weird-- you only called out mine. 

My point was that some women seem to put up with way more shit than they should, look the other way, whatever, because they'd rather not be alone or whatever other reasons. 

But go ahead and make a big fucking deal about it because I brought up a personal experience. That's fun. 

How did I miss this?

Yes, other people comment. But I called you out because every time someone starts a thread about something silly/weird/unusual/sad/ etc you almost always write a novel about something even more outrageously silly/weird/unusual/sad. 

So i am starting to question how real all of these stories are. 

Just my 2 cents. 

bride2b71614

This whole article makes me sad. This poor girl is trying to play it cool, and not question anything because she doesn't want to sound like a stage five clinger crazy.

I had something similar happen to me. I was seeing a guy for several months, he and I lived about an hr away from each other. He would Skype and text for days on end but would randomly disappear for a week or two, super busy with his career and all that jazz. I ended up Skype messaging him one night to see how work was treating him, and he offered to hop on cam with me as we did so many times before. It was his wife, who just returned from her stint with doctors without borders. When I confronted him via text he insisted that the relationship was an open one. Part of me wanted to believe that he was telling the truth, and that I should stay with him. A bigger part of me knew that this whole thing made me feel like shit, and the worst part was that I still liked him. I came to my senses but it took time to get over him. For this girls sake, I hope that she's able to get angry enough to leave and to have access to the help she needs to get over him.

esstee33

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