We have a ways to go and FMIL has agreed to plan the rehearsal dinner. When would it be appropriate to ask her how things are going and try to get some information? She is mentally flaky and FI and I both are concerned about how well thought out she is going to be. (She's the kind of person who invites people to her house weeks in advance and tells her family the morning of and expects them to drop everything to clean and prepare while she is at work....and when asked how many people, she will recall 4 but 20 show up because she didn't remember who she invited.)
I don't want to be rude and I like the idea of not having to plan these pre-wedding parties but am a detailed person and fairly concerned. Rehearsal is Thursday before the Saturday wedding.
On a side note, she is also throwing us a couples shower and told me one date, I got a half day at work for it and then she reserved the venue for the day before at a completely different time....so I have to go back and correct it with my boss....she isn't one to think about everyone or everything involved.