I am in my friend's wedding next weekend (July 4th weekend) and just received an itinerary in the mail for Wednesday through Sunday (she is getting married on the 5th). She is really expecting quite a bit from her bridesmaids in both their time and money. The wedding is several hours from where I live so my family got another hotel room so that they could come up and at least spend part of the day on the 4th with me. Well according to her itinerary, all bridesmaids are expected to partake in "pre-wedding activities" the entire day of the 4th. These are not the traditional getting your nails done for the wedding type of activities but instead riding tandem bikes as a group and going to laser tag. I'll also state that this day is not supposed to be the bachelorette party, as that is planned for Wednesday. How can I tell her with as much tact as possible that I need to spend time with my family for part of the day that day? I really feel she is over planning the bridesmaids and needs to realize that she is having her wedding on a holiday weekend which is usually spent with family. I of course want her to have a wonderful wedding day and will do everything to make it special for her, but I feel I should have some say in what I am doing the day before. Please, any advice would be helpful!