saving the best for last?

ThxSugar

Throwing this in Chit chat because it doesn't have to be wedding related, though my example is.

We are going venue shopping in a couple weeks and I still have to schedule my personal top pick. Would you see it first so you can compare every other venue to it or save it for last so it is fresh in your mind?

Do you do this with other things in your life? Personally, I try to see my favorite last so I can walk away with it but I like to know all my options before making a decision. FI picks the first thing he sees and never looks back.

ChemFanatic25

Knottie1430505628 said:

Throwing this in Chit chat because it doesn't have to be wedding related, though my example is. We are going venue shopping in a couple weeks and I still have to schedule my personal top pick. Would you see it first so you can compare every other venue to it or save it for last so it is fresh in your mind? Do you do this with other things in your life? Personally, I try to see my favorite last so I can walk away with it but I like to know all my options before making a decision. FI picks the first thing he sees and never looks back.

Ooh, so in general I normally save the best for last. In this case, I'd still save the best for last because what if you saw this wonderful venue before everything else and fell in love with it? In my case, I am sometimes superfluous and I will not like anything else even if I go to look at it whether it's furniture, paintings, outfits, etc. I like to get an idea of what works for my budget, what each thing offers, etc. I'd actually ignore all of this if I walked in with the mindset "I love my favorite, why am I wasting my time with these others" completely ignoring possible positives.

 

So hopefully that wasn't too confusing but I'd put off the 'best' for last. Also, if your favorite is out of your budget you may want to consider not even looking at it unless you can cut cost in other areas (without expense to your guests). I most definitely did this when car shopping. I wouldn't look at any subarus even though I so badly wanted to because they were all out of my set price range and I know, me being the rash person I am, I'd sign something when I know I shouldn't.

AddieCake

I don't save the best for last usually.

STARMOON44

I usually see what I'm most excited about first. If I love it and it works for me I don't need to waste time on other things.

Maggie0829

I would see the venue that you and your FI are most excited about first.  That way if you love it and the budget works you have just saved yourself a lot of time having to visit other locations.

kvruns

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

lyndausvi

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

Maggie0829

lyndausvi said:

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

I do the same thing with food.  I want my last bite of dinner to be of my favorite thing, not of some icky piece of broccoli.

wandajune6

Maggie0829 said:

lyndausvi said:

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

I do the same thing with food.  I want my last bite of dinner to be of my favorite thing, not of some icky piece of broccoli.

I do too. Though I love broccoli and frequently will save the broccoli for last.

simcal18

We didn't have a favorite venue going into venue shopping (at least not one that was within our budget), so I can't really tell you whether it would make sense to save your potential favorite for last.  Finding our venue was by far the most difficult vendor decision we made.  I can tell you this from my experience:

First, if you are considering different styles of venues (barn vs. country club vs. museum, all-inclusive vs. a la carte, etc. etc.) try and look at one style of each venue and see if that helps you figure out what kind of venue you're looking for before you go any further.  I dragged poor FI to 7 or 8 country clubs before we figured out that we really didn't want to get married on a golf course and started looking at other options.

Second, I don't think it particularly matters whether you see your top pick venue first or last.  But I would try to look at venues as close in time together as possible so that your impressions are still fresh and nothing feels stale when it comes time to make your choice.  We ultimately went with a non all-inclusive venue, but our top choice all-inclusive we saw on the first weekend we went venue browsing (the whole process probably took us 2-3 months).  By the time we ultimately decided on a venue, we'd seen our top choice all-inclusive so long ago that it was hard to give it serious consideration, because I think we felt like if if was "the one," we would have gone with it already.  If we had seen it at the end, we may have decided that the convenience of the all-inclusive place outweighed the uniqueness of the venue we ultimately wound up choosing.

pinkcow13

We went to the place we were most excited for first, and then went to different venues. None of the other venues matched up to it, and we were close to booking, until we visited the venue where we ultimately got married at. So we did save the best for last, but not on purpose lol.

 I would definitely go to the venue you are most excited about first, take detailed notes and pictures, that way you can compare other venues to see if they live up to it.

luckya23

I can't remember in what order we looked at venues because we were only up there for a weekend and it mostly had to do with the venue coordinator's availability.

jenna8984

I can't really advise on the venue situation since we looked at once place and booked it on the spot. (and then even when we decided to downsize it, we looked at once place and booked it)

But I'm am soooo with you @maggie0829 & @lyndausvi Always save the best food for last and I will take it to the extreme to make sure I also save the best/ most fatty/ most rare bite of steak for last, not just any piece lol. I eat all burgers and sandwiches around the outside first so that the last bite is the center with all the filling.

lyndausvi

It's funny how we can turn looking at venues to a food conversation  

emmaaa

wandajune6 said:

Maggie0829 said:

lyndausvi said:

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

I do the same thing with food.  I want my last bite of dinner to be of my favorite thing, not of some icky piece of broccoli.

I do too. Though I love broccoli and frequently will save the broccoli for last.

I'm the same way. I save my favorite food for last. Like Maggie said, that last bite better be perfect.

I eat my cheeseburgers in a circle because middle is the best part. One time DH walked up and ate my burger middle! I was so mad.

photokitty

I don't save the best for last in most cases. I'm not very patient. 

I start with my favorite food, but save half of it for last.

Venues I went with my fav first. What if I waited and someone else booked it while I was off wasting time on other places?

WinstonsGirl

Venues and stuff got looked at in the order I could get in to see them.  Food, best is last.  I still eat all of my cake and leave the icing till the end.  Or I eat the bottom of cupcakes and then the top to get more yummy icing without the cake ruining it.  

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emmaaa said:

wandajune6 said:

Maggie0829 said:

lyndausvi said:

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

I do the same thing with food.  I want my last bite of dinner to be of my favorite thing, not of some icky piece of broccoli.

I do too. Though I love broccoli and frequently will save the broccoli for last.

I'm the same way. I save my favorite food for last. Like Maggie said, that last bite better be perfect.

I eat my cheeseburgers in a circle because middle is the best part. One time DH walked up and ate my burger middle! I was so mad.

This is why we don't share food.  If I want the pepperjack jalapeno burger and he wants the pepperjack jalapeno burger, we'll each get our own pepperjack jalapeno burger.  We don't get one pepperjack jalapeno burger and one buffalo bleu burger and split them.  Because as delicious as they each might be, we both really know what we want and we want the whole damn thing.  We might, however, split the sides, i.e. he gets fries and I get onion rings.  But don't touch my burger.

lyndausvi

adk19 said:

emmaaa said:

wandajune6 said:

Maggie0829 said:

lyndausvi said:

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

I do the same thing with food.  I want my last bite of dinner to be of my favorite thing, not of some icky piece of broccoli.

I do too. Though I love broccoli and frequently will save the broccoli for last.

I'm the same way. I save my favorite food for last. Like Maggie said, that last bite better be perfect.

I eat my cheeseburgers in a circle because middle is the best part. One time DH walked up and ate my burger middle! I was so mad.

This is why we don't share food.  If I want the pepperjack jalapeno burger and he wants the pepperjack jalapeno burger, we'll each get our own pepperjack jalapeno burger.  We don't get one pepperjack jalapeno burger and one buffalo bleu burger and split them.  Because as delicious as they each might be, we both really know what we want and we want the whole damn thing.  We might, however, split the sides, i.e. he gets fries and I get onion rings.  But don't touch my burger.

DH doesn't allow us to order the same dish. Flat out not "allowed".  He will change his own dish before he will allow the same dish on our table.

  He gets irrationally irratated when he has a ticket with the entire table getting the same dish.

Such a silly boy.

ThxSugar

bostonbride2015 said:

We didn't have a favorite venue going into venue shopping (at least not one that was within our budget), so I can't really tell you whether it would make sense to save your potential favorite for last.  Finding our venue was by far the most difficult vendor decision we made.  I can tell you this from my experience:

First, if you are considering different styles of venues (barn vs. country club vs. museum, all-inclusive vs. a la carte, etc. etc.) try and look at one style of each venue and see if that helps you figure out what kind of venue you're looking for before you go any further.  I dragged poor FI to 7 or 8 country clubs before we figured out that we really didn't want to get married on a golf course and started looking at other options.

Second, I don't think it particularly matters whether you see your top pick venue first or last.  But I would try to look at venues as close in time together as possible so that your impressions are still fresh and nothing feels stale when it comes time to make your choice.  We ultimately went with a non all-inclusive venue, but our top choice all-inclusive we saw on the first weekend we went venue browsing (the whole process probably took us 2-3 months).  By the time we ultimately decided on a venue, we'd seen our top choice all-inclusive so long ago that it was hard to give it serious consideration, because I think we felt like if if was "the one," we would have gone with it already.  If we had seen it at the end, we may have decided that the convenience of the all-inclusive place outweighed the uniqueness of the venue we ultimately wound up choosing.

To the first bolded. This is exactly what we are doing. We looked at sooooo many places online and narrowed it down to what was in our price range, large enough for our guest list, and something we liked. Each one is different enough to warrent a visit to get the smaller details. There is at least one all inclusive, one venue only, majority have accomidations but not all. It will be the small things that make it or break it for us.

To the second. The majority of the venues we are looking at are 3ish hours from us so we are touring them over a weekend getaway. Out of 5 contenders we have 2 set appts., one tentative appt (it depends if we can get off work a little early on Friday and drive up there but this one isn't a favorite so neither of us are too bummed if we miss it.), waiting to hear back from one, and one I will contact next week if #4 never gets back to me. There are 2 more places we want to look at, including my current favorite, that are closer and we can visit during the week. We'll either so it a few days before we go or a few days after we get back.

Since we don't have a 'vision' of what we want it to look like we are open to more ideas, for better or worse. But I do know that by the end of that week, we will have picked a venue. Hopefully, lol.

Edited to Fix: bolding

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lyndausvi said:

adk19 said:

emmaaa said:

wandajune6 said:

Maggie0829 said:

lyndausvi said:

I loathe shopping around.  I do some research online, pick my favorite and look at that.  If it works I buy, book, whatever.  If it's not then I move on.

  

kvruns said:

if it was a venue I'd want to see the one(s) I'm most excited about first and then look at others if the favs didn't live up to my mental expectations. I don't think I'd want to go see a ton of venues anyway, I know I did most of the research online and really didn't need to go see a bunch.

now if we're talking about skittles, I leave the best for last.  yellow and orange first, then purple, red, and green, with the last 3 varying in order.

I do not like skittles (gasp), but I save the "best" food for last.  I will eat all the nuts and fruits before the random chocolate piece from my trail mix.   I eat all my veggies before the steak. Stuff like that.

I do the same thing with food.  I want my last bite of dinner to be of my favorite thing, not of some icky piece of broccoli.

I do too. Though I love broccoli and frequently will save the broccoli for last.

I'm the same way. I save my favorite food for last. Like Maggie said, that last bite better be perfect.

I eat my cheeseburgers in a circle because middle is the best part. One time DH walked up and ate my burger middle! I was so mad.

This is why we don't share food.  If I want the pepperjack jalapeno burger and he wants the pepperjack jalapeno burger, we'll each get our own pepperjack jalapeno burger.  We don't get one pepperjack jalapeno burger and one buffalo bleu burger and split them.  Because as delicious as they each might be, we both really know what we want and we want the whole damn thing.  We might, however, split the sides, i.e. he gets fries and I get onion rings.  But don't touch my burger.

DH doesn't allow us to order the same dish. Flat out not "allowed".  He will change his own dish before he will allow the same dish on our table.

  He gets irrationally irratated when he has a ticket with the entire table getting the same dish.

Such a silly boy.

Had dinner with FH, my cousin, his wife at a restaurant in Chicago none of us had ever been to.  Special was surf and turf, we got to choose which surf and which turf.  FH, cousin's wife, and I all went with baked squid and filet, even all had the filet cooked medium rare.  Only cousin got something different because he's not crazy about seafood.  But I think he may have also gotten medium rare filet with something else.  Your hubby would hate us!!!

drunkenwitch

I have the patience of a toddler on a sugar high, so I always do my favorite thing first

mrscomposer

Favourite is always last.  Always always always.  Delayed gratification and anticipation and all that... and I get made fun of a lot

When I was buying my wedding dress, it came down to two.  I was going to try them on one last time, and I told the attendant which one I wanted to wear last.  Sure enough, that was my dress.  I already subconsciously knew, and just needed to wait through the other dress to make sure.

bride2b71614

If we are talking food? Yeah, I'm known for saving the pink and yellow starbursts after eating all the red and orange ones. Or I will save my favorite part of a meal (I'll save my steak after I finish all of my veggies), but generally I don't save the best for last.

Picking out a venue is so exciting!! If your FI is the type to just pick the first thing he sees, why not see your top pick first?
I think @pinkcow13's idea of going to your favorite and taking pics/making a list to see how the others compare is awesome. Unless you want to get married on a specific date (I.e. Some couples want to get married on a late Grand parents anniversary, and some teachers/students prefer to get during the school holidays, etc.) and the venue has availability during those times, there is no reason to sign a contract right then and there. Also you can always narrow down your choices and then show him your top three. Youll select your top venues, your FI gets to put in his .02 and you get one of your top choices. It's a win-win.

Good luck!