I'm hoping you ladies could give me some insight and advice.
My FI and I decided that we did not want to invite any children to our wedding except for my nieces and nephews, both for budget reasons and for personal reasons (I'll be honest, I'm not a fan of kids). I have a lot of cousins and friends who have children and know that the kids will not be invited.
This afternoon I received a text from a good friend of mine in another state asking me which airport to fly into for our wedding. Up until today I had silently assumed she and her husband weren't coming because they will have a 20 month old and a 5 month old at the time of our wedding. I replied back with "Oh, you and husband are coming?? I'm glad to hear that! Flying into the so-and-so airport is best."
Then she replied with, "It will either be just me or me and 5 month old
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Part of me wants to just say "Okay, great!" and let her bring the 5 month old. My biggest issue with that, though, would be all of our other guests, who understood that their children weren't being invited, becoming upset that the exception was being given to someone else.
Do I just let her bring the baby and deal with people becoming upset? Or do I stick to my guns and tell her "sorry, but the invite is just for you and your husband. We are not inviting children outside of the wedding party"? Is there a better way to say it?
Thanks, all.
EDIT: Just to ad when I sent out the STDs, it was addressed to just her and her husband. The invites won't be sent out for several more weeks (wedding is in November).