Post wedding anxiety and sadness!

livelifelarge24

I was the bride that didn't want to have a wedding, I begged all year to elope. It was mostly because I get terrible anxiety and panic attacks when I'm in a big group and saw no way that i would be able to handle all of that attention...

My wedding day was the best day of my life! And the weeks leading up to it were incredible. I got such an amazing taste of who in my life is really incredible and can be counted on. I felt like a total princess and I felt not one ounce of anxiety. I was just truly happy. 

We were able to take a short honeymoon and I REALLY didn't want to come back! We are back now though and I feel like I may be having a major crash I have been a little depressed and having absolutely terrible anxiety. I am feeling mostly disappointed in myself that I am in the happiest time of my life and I feel so anxious. I started a new job literally the day after we got back from our honeymoon and that was a terrible idea. I have already quit. I couldn't deal with that. Now I feel just anxious all the time, super tired, all I want to do is sleep and I'm having stomach aches! I don't know what to do to deal with this. 

Turtle&Star

Congratulations on your wedding! How wonderful that it went so well.

If you've dealt with anxiety before, then maybe you know what it took me years to figure out: anxiety attacks don't have anything to do with there actually being a threat or other "genuine" reason to be anxious. There's a disconnect there - like a wire loose in your brain. So I don't think it's strange at all that you're feeling anxious and depressed during "the happiest time in your life" - you've just been through an enormous emotional roller coaster (I'm worried! I'm stressing! I'm happy! I'm having fun!), and now there's a little vacuum there, just waiting for the anxiety to fill it in. Same kind of thing as how I always get sick right after the end of the semester (I'm a teacher) - it's like, once all of the actual stress dies down, THEN my body feels free to let all hell break loose. Be kind to yourself and find something new to occupy your mind - a new project or a trip to plan or a hobby.

I'm a little confused about the fact that you quit your job, though - that seems sort of...extreme? A busy work life might help to snap you out of the anxiety stuff, if you give it some time.

livelifelarge24

well, I got hired on the job before the wedding. I wasn't looking for it, they head hunted me. I absolutely did NOT want the job and I tried to turn it down and kept getting talked into it. They told me it was just wedding jitters so I gave it a shot after the wedding. It is something that I'm' actually not morally in tune with and know that I cannot be happy doing. I was taking the job for all the wrong reasons and quitting it was definitely the right choice for me. It did not help the emotional roller coaster though!

Turtle&Star

Ah, ok, that makes more sense.

Well, as I said, finding a new way to keep your brain occupied might help. Excercise often helps me, too - even a short walk or a yoga video, if you're feeling too worn out to do more.

Good luck!

livelifelarge24

I have been really considering yoga. There is a Groupon in my are for classes right now. I think staying busy with something new might really be the key. 

Turtle&Star

I'm a big fan of yoga! The Groupon sounds like a good opportunity to try it out. If it's the kind of thing where you can mix and match classes (a lot of yoga places do this), try a few different styles, too - you may find that you like some kinds more than others.

lkybpb

Studies show the two years after getting married your body is still stressed from it. Good stress and bad stress are the same when it comes to impact on your body.  It is totally normal what you are going through.  My suggestions would be to read a book and or visit nature somewhow.  Stay off the internet too, I find the internet to be incredibly streesful because of all the stimuli.  Just suggestions though, I hope they help!