I'm getting married very soon. Two of my WP members are married (we are doing mixed parties). At the time I asked them to be in my party things were good for them. Since then things have quickly turned bad and now they are going to be splitting up. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or awkward while we attend to wedding duties (photos, group outings, rehearsal dinner, the reception, etc).
My one friend (we will call them A) said that they would never ask me to kick B out or ask B to bow out of the WP. I've known both A and B for about the same length of time and they are both good friends of mine. A and I have been getting closer during all the issues that they have been having and really has opened up to us. B slipped into some bad habits, has made some questionable decisions, briefly got closer to us then quickly withdrew from everyone, and has (possibly) done some things that I can't agree with (and would make other people in my WP uncomfortable).
While I don't want to loose B as a friend I feel that they haven't made decisions or done things that remind me of the person and friend they were. I don't want to loose B as a friend, but I am feeling that they shouldn't be part of my wedding party. I made a concerted effort to be a friend to both of them, but like I said I feel that my friendship is stronger with A.
Sorry I can't get into more details, but i don't feel it is my place to air their laundry. My only hope is that someone out there can help me figure out the right thing to do. I know it is my day, and I know what my gut is saying, but I need that push to help me figure it out.