Hey!
I've recently come across these boards and their extremely strong feelings toward a tip jar being placed at an open bar. I work in the wedding industry and at just about every open bar (wedding or not), I've seen a tip jar. It has never crossed my mind that this might be rude. I totally understand it though. Maybe it's a regional thing? I live in the southeast.
Do you consider it to be rude? Have you ever seen one at a wedding you attended and what were your thoughts?
I appreciate the fact that people pointed out the fact that this is against etiquette--this helps me immensely when planning my wedding because I wouldn't have thought twice about it.