Trying something new
So I'm trying something new - it's out of my comfort zone. I'm trying to text my mom daily just by sending her a text wishing her a great day and that I love her. I know this seems really weird, but if anyone remembers my posts from the past this is completely out of the norm because I'm not close with my mom and don't have that connection with her.
It feels awkward but I feel better doing it especially since I was told by one of her close friends that my mom believes I am so independent that she believes I don't need her - probably why the huge lack of communication and how we butt heads a lot. This is my way of showing her that I still need her as a mom and that I do care about her.
My other new thing is that I'm also trying to eat healthier and I've been keeping track of it on an app. Apparently I snack a lot. This is a huge improvement and I already feel healthier!
So what's your new thing?
Re: Trying something new
I do this kind of thing every time I fly. Which is every week bc of my job. I text my parents and sibs on a group text when I am taking off and when I landed and that I love them. (I also text my FI on a private chat)
I do not think my FI really understands why I do this but for me it is important. I know the probability of something happening on the flight is very low and honestly I do not think I do it bc of that. I just find that right before we push back from the gate and when we land are great times to reach out to those I love and let them know I am thinking about them.
@onefootinthebayou I have been working on this for a while as well. My goal is to own a beach house and I'd like to put down a tidy some so that I'm getting the lowest interest rate and not worrying about PMI (I think that is what it is) or extra fees. I need to reign in the extra spending and putting it in my savings account rather than saying "oh I have money!"
Paying attention to what I have been eating is also helping with my budgeting :-) Yay! Two birds with one stone! I am trying to snack less so that means a lot less money is going towards candy, chips, crackers, chocolate, etc.
@AddieCake, I love trying out new restaurants and I think this is an awesome venture! I have a close friend who is picky and she won't try new foods even if everyone else wants to go to the same place. I wasn't picky per se when I first graduated from college but I did seem to see a trend of only going to specific restaurants. Now I've had haggis, pho, hawaiin bbq, and a whole lot more all for the first time in the past year. It's been so much more exciting. Plus if someone offers something to me later and I don't like it I can say "I've tried it and I'm just not a fan."
@beachyone15 & @aliwis000, it most definitely feels weird. We're not a touchy feely family and I am most definitely the black sheep of the family - mostly by choice because my family can be very exhausting to deal with but I realized that I can't be upset at my mom for not contacting me and complaining about no contact when I don't contact her as well. Hopefully the weird feeling goes away. It honestly feels a little fake (sorry :-/ ) but there is the old saying "fake it til' you make it."
It's working ok (the new recipes) but it's slow because I still have to stick to dishes that I like. I run into problems because there are a lot of sauces or vegetables that I don't like on things. So while I might love the idea of "orange beef," I don't like what's mixed up with it, you know? The restauranting is working great!
I can understand the "fake" feeling. I think my FI probably feels the same way about my stuff. lol
His immediate family is just so different than mine. We have 6 people between parents and kids, they have 3, we are loud and crazy, they are more reserved.
I guess the way I would ultimately describe it is we are more outwardly passionate type people. We will yell, scream, and debate each other on anything under the sun but on the flip side we say "I love you" more than any family I know. Every phone call ends with it and I know I could text anyone of them right now and just say I love you and they text back. We are certainly a family of extremes.
On the other hand my FI family is much more reserved in their actions. They are older, quieter, and do not really get too hot or too cold if you get my meaning. Not to say they do not care about each other. They absolutely love each other and are there for each other, they just have a different way of expressing it.
At the end of the day my FI and I sometimes look at each other and say "your family is nuts" lol. Not in a bad way, just in a "wow it is so different" way.
So essentially what you are doing is trying to change from one way to a slightly different way of interacting with a family member. But I think that you realizing you want more of a relationship and are willing to put forth that first effort, no matter how awkward it feels, is a great start!
I should probably take the plunge and do it.
My "new" thing is working out. I was so good about it for about 3 years- lost a lot of weight, felt healthier, etc. Started a new job, bad commute and it just fell away. I've been going consistently since about March and I and other people have noticed. Glad I'm "back on" the wagon.
That's awesome, @ChemFanatic25. I should do something similar.
I've been meaning to start a blog, just to test out some ideas and see if I have the discipline and inspiration to post on a regular basis. I got a wordpress account and wrote my first post this morning. I also registered the domain in case I want to do more with it later.
This is such a minor thing but I keep meaning to do more interesting styles with my hair and it doesn't happen because I'm rushing out the door every morning. So I'm going to make a conscious effort to take a few extra minutes and make a French twist, French braid (how come all the cool hairstyles are French?) or something funky instead of just throwing my hair into a ponytail.And it is pretty true. We are polish Catholic though not Greek, but same type of idea for sure!
particuliersylphe I just googled hoop dancing...that looks like so much fun!
Hoop dancing? That's a new one. Time for google :-)
My company is now offering yoga and our first class is next week. I've never taken yoga before and I'm pretty pumped because it's something new for me and doesn't kill my wallet.