Any New Yorkers Out There?

lyndausvi

A few months ago I was walking around Brooklyn with my diamond.  Never thought twice about it.   DH had on his Breitling watch (if you do not know, they are fairly expensive).  SILs both had their rings.  One of which is pretty damn big and expensive.

We took subways, trains and ferries. 

The week before I was walking around downtown Phildelphia too. 

I'm more aware of the jewelry, but I'm not paranoid either.

climbingsingle

Hey, Bernie Goetz still lives in Queens, I think....

VulgarGirl

Jaslorraine22 said:

VulgarGirl said:

Dude, do you have a fucking 5 carat ring that would make even JLo jealous? Cause if not ain't no one caring about your little ring.

Even in the scary not totally white lower income neighborhoods.

LOL, you couldn't be more wrong- people rob others for sneakers, I'm actually from New York and have seen it. But thank you... so much.

OMG girl you are like totes welcome. 

Girlfriend, sneakers can be worth big bucks. And much easier to steal then a ring. Also easier to pawn for cash/trade for drugs. Rings can be insured or even have serial numbers. Easier to track if it's reported stolen. Sneakers rarely have those things, or can be much harder to track. 

KatieinBkln

climbingwife said:

Hey, Bernie Goetz still lives in Queens, I think....

Problem solved! Wear your bling, bring your gun.

Jaslorraine22

Jaslorraine22

I appreciate the feedback everyone, I'm not paranoid at all- I haven't lived at home in 5 years. I left NYC as a teenager and never thought twice about anything. The neighborhood that I am from has changed significantly since I've moved and I'm not even familiar with a lot that goes on anymore. A best friend from back home is who said "girl don't wear your ring when you take the Subway" which is why I even asked.

VulgarGirl

Jaslorraine22 said:

I appreciate the feedback everyone, I'm not paranoid at all- I haven't lived at home in 5 years. I left NYC as a teenager and never thought twice about anything. The neighborhood that I am from has changed significantly since I've moved and I'm not even familiar with a lot that goes on anymore. A best friend from back home is who said "girl don't wear your ring when you take the Subway" which is why I even asked.

Dude. The subway. Subway is not a proper noun, don't capitilize it. Unless you are talking about the sandwich shop. Are you worried about your ring getting snatched when you order a turkey club? 

VulgarGirl

KatieinBkln said:

climbingwife said:

Hey, Bernie Goetz still lives in Queens, I think....

Problem solved! Wear your bling, bring your gun.

Pretty sure that's AZ's motto (I live in AZ, we like guns). 

Jaslorraine22

VulgarGirl said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

VulgarGirl said:

Dude, do you have a fucking 5 carat ring that would make even JLo jealous? Cause if not ain't no one caring about your little ring.

Even in the scary not totally white lower income neighborhoods.

LOL, you couldn't be more wrong- people rob others for sneakers, I'm actually from New York and have seen it. But thank you... so much.

OMG girl you are like totes welcome. 

Girlfriend, sneakers can be worth big bucks. And much easier to steal then a ring. Also easier to pawn for cash/trade for drugs. Rings can be insured or even have serial numbers. Easier to track if it's reported stolen. Sneakers rarely have those things, or can be much harder to track. 

I promise you I am aware of all this. Queensbridge had a lot of this going on. I know the type of environment I'm from (I had my tires stolen last time I was home which is why I'm leaving my car parked in Brooklyn), and jewelry especially diamonds, get snatched all the time. You've been very helpful, thanks again.

Jaslorraine22

VulgarGirl said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

I appreciate the feedback everyone, I'm not paranoid at all- I haven't lived at home in 5 years. I left NYC as a teenager and never thought twice about anything. The neighborhood that I am from has changed significantly since I've moved and I'm not even familiar with a lot that goes on anymore. A best friend from back home is who said "girl don't wear your ring when you take the Subway" which is why I even asked.

Dude. The subway. Subway is not a proper noun, don't capitilize it. Unless you are talking about the sandwich shop. Are you worried about your ring getting snatched when you order a turkey club? 

Holy shit. Even Subway is spelled like that on the Subway platform. I grew up there, I know. Damn.

climbingsingle

Jaslorraine22 said:

VulgarGirl said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

I appreciate the feedback everyone, I'm not paranoid at all- I haven't lived at home in 5 years. I left NYC as a teenager and never thought twice about anything. The neighborhood that I am from has changed significantly since I've moved and I'm not even familiar with a lot that goes on anymore. A best friend from back home is who said "girl don't wear your ring when you take the Subway" which is why I even asked.

Dude. The subway. Subway is not a proper noun, don't capitilize it. Unless you are talking about the sandwich shop. Are you worried about your ring getting snatched when you order a turkey club? 

Holy shit. Even Subway is spelled like that on the Subway platform. I grew up there, I know. Damn.

Uh. The signs all say "Subway". Yes. But when you're writing it, you don't capatalize the S. It's just the subway. 

VulgarGirl

climbingwife said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

VulgarGirl said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

I appreciate the feedback everyone, I'm not paranoid at all- I haven't lived at home in 5 years. I left NYC as a teenager and never thought twice about anything. The neighborhood that I am from has changed significantly since I've moved and I'm not even familiar with a lot that goes on anymore. A best friend from back home is who said "girl don't wear your ring when you take the Subway" which is why I even asked.

Dude. The subway. Subway is not a proper noun, don't capitilize it. Unless you are talking about the sandwich shop. Are you worried about your ring getting snatched when you order a turkey club? 

Holy shit. Even Subway is spelled like that on the Subway platform. I grew up there, I know. Damn.

Uh. The signs all say "Subway". Yes. But when you're writing it, you don't capatalize the S. It's just the subway. 

Climbing is from there. Just saying.

Jaslorraine22

VulgarGirl said:

climbingwife said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

VulgarGirl said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

I appreciate the feedback everyone, I'm not paranoid at all- I haven't lived at home in 5 years. I left NYC as a teenager and never thought twice about anything. The neighborhood that I am from has changed significantly since I've moved and I'm not even familiar with a lot that goes on anymore. A best friend from back home is who said "girl don't wear your ring when you take the Subway" which is why I even asked.

Dude. The subway. Subway is not a proper noun, don't capitilize it. Unless you are talking about the sandwich shop. Are you worried about your ring getting snatched when you order a turkey club? 

Holy shit. Even Subway is spelled like that on the Subway platform. I grew up there, I know. Damn.

Uh. The signs all say "Subway". Yes. But when you're writing it, you don't capatalize the S. It's just the subway. 

Climbing is from there. Just saying.

Okay.

southernbelle0915

I think you should get a gun. And ride The Subway with your hand on it, so everyone knows what's up. If someone looks at you funny, pump fake them so they know who the fuck they're dealing with.

pinkcow13

I wear my ring on the subway with no problem. Like others said though, if you feel that uncomfortable, just turn it over.

When I lived in Brooklyn, I would go home after happy hour and pass out ( I had a loooong ride). I can't tell you how many times I've woken up at the last stop, nowhere near my apartment. One night after a particularly great happy hour, I got on the train at 10 PM and got to my house at 3AM because I kept passing out on the train, and waking up at Coney Island, then Park Slope (I think). Another time I woke up in Coney Island clutching a bag of kitty litter. Mind you, I lived in Bay Ridge. On the other hand, my friend had his wallet stolen when he passed out drunk and ended up in Coney Island. Point is, if you're aware of your surroundings you should generally be fine. If you're that nervous, turn it around.

Jaslorraine22

pinkcow13 said:

I wear my ring on the subway with no problem. Like others said though, if you feel that uncomfortable, just turn it over.

When I lived in Brooklyn, I would go home after happy hour and pass out ( I had a loooong ride). I can't tell you how many times I've woken up at the last stop, nowhere near my apartment. One night after a particularly great happy hour, I got on the train at 10 PM and got to my house at 3AM because I kept passing out on the train, and waking up at Coney Island, then Park Slope (I think). Another time I woke up in Coney Island clutching a bag of kitty litter. Mind you, I lived in Bay Ridge. On the other hand, my friend had his wallet stolen when he passed out drunk and ended up in Coney Island. Point is, if you're aware of your surroundings you should generally be fine. If you're that nervous, turn it around.

There were a few times when I passed out on long rides too, the F train to Harlem used to feel like hours. Turning it around is a good idea, I feel better about that than taking it off. Thank you.

STARMOON44

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Jaslorraine22

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

VulgarGirl

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Um didn't you see? She's FROM there. She knows whats up. She saw a dude get his face cut for his watch once.

BTW baby girl, that dude knew those girls. I'd say drug deal gone bad. You are way more likely to get attacked by people you know then by strangers.

Jaslorraine22

VulgarGirl said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Um didn't you see? She's FROM there. She knows whats up. She saw a dude get his face cut for his watch once.

BTW baby girl, that dude knew those girls. I'd say drug deal gone bad. You are way more likely to get attacked by people you know then by strangers.

You're probably right. Good point. Only wore hoops while I lived there and swatch watches, never anything expensive- this is the first so that part I'm not familiar with and wasn't aware. My Mom only ever wore her wedding band so I wouldn't know to ask her. I won't worry about it.

KatieinBkln

Jaslorraine22 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

Okay now. Just so we're clear--if you live in Elmhurst then your contact with the scary, scary Queensbridge Houses entails having ONE train stop in that neighborhood. On your way to Manhattan. On a crowded train car. Acting like having to spend 30 seconds in the presence of the "thieves" at 21st street station is a horrifying danger is both ludicrous and snobby.

Honestly, this is tiresome. If your best friend told you not to wear your ring, why aren't you asking HER how she would deal with it? You're getting pushback because the statistical likelihood of having your ring ripped off your finger is close to zero. I know you saw a scary thing. But it's still one anecdote in the face of a city that successfully provides safe subway rides for millions of people every day.

Jaslorraine22

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

Okay now. Just so we're clear--if you live in Elmhurst then your contact with the scary, scary Queensbridge Houses entails having ONE train stop in that neighborhood. On your way to Manhattan. On a crowded train car. Acting like having to spend 30 seconds in the presence of the "thieves" at 21st street station is a horrifying danger is both ludicrous and snobby.

Honestly, this is tiresome. If your best friend told you not to wear your ring, why aren't you asking HER how she would deal with it? You're getting pushback because the statistical likelihood of having your ring ripped off your finger is close to zero. I know you saw a scary thing. But it's still one anecdote in the face of a city that successfully provides safe subway rides for millions of people every day.

Listen your reading way too much into this. I don't care that much. 1,000 comments ago I said I'd turn the ring around. It's not that serious for me to read this long paragraph and I didn't ask her because I didn't want to. Thanks again!

Jaslorraine22

Jaslorraine22 said:

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

Okay now. Just so we're clear--if you live in Elmhurst then your contact with the scary, scary Queensbridge Houses entails having ONE train stop in that neighborhood. On your way to Manhattan. On a crowded train car. Acting like having to spend 30 seconds in the presence of the "thieves" at 21st street station is a horrifying danger is both ludicrous and snobby.

Honestly, this is tiresome. If your best friend told you not to wear your ring, why aren't you asking HER how she would deal with it? You're getting pushback because the statistical likelihood of having your ring ripped off your finger is close to zero. I know you saw a scary thing. But it's still one anecdote in the face of a city that successfully provides safe subway rides for millions of people every day.

Listen your reading way too much into this. I don't care that much. 1,000 comments ago I said I'd turn the ring around. It's not that serious for me to read this long paragraph and I didn't ask her because I didn't want to. Thanks again!

Oh and I'm from East Elmhurst, but I have also lived in QB and I actually get off at that stop and visit my family over there. I'm not talking about a 30 second wait.

vikinganna87

pinkcow13 said:

I wear my ring on the subway with no problem. Like others said though, if you feel that uncomfortable, just turn it over.

When I lived in Brooklyn, I would go home after happy hour and pass out ( I had a loooong ride). I can't tell you how many times I've woken up at the last stop, nowhere near my apartment. One night after a particularly great happy hour, I got on the train at 10 PM and got to my house at 3AM because I kept passing out on the train, and waking up at Coney Island, then Park Slope (I think). Another time I woke up in Coney Island clutching a bag of kitty litter. Mind you, I lived in Bay Ridge. On the other hand, my friend had his wallet stolen when he passed out drunk and ended up in Coney Island. Point is, if you're aware of your surroundings you should generally be fine. If you're that nervous, turn it around.

This. 

If I find myself in a place that I probably shouldn't be, or that I'm completely unfamiliar with and it could be a bit scary, I make myself hyper-aware of the surroundings, act like I belong there and walk [or on the subway - sit] with confidence.  I think you're a lot less likely to get robbed if you're not on your phone or so distracted that someone sees you (or your stuff) as an easy target.

Another option is to always keep $60 in your wallet in case someone confronts you.  But honestly if that happened I'd much rather give away my engagement ring than risk my life.

Jaslorraine22

vikinganna87 said:

pinkcow13 said:

I wear my ring on the subway with no problem. Like others said though, if you feel that uncomfortable, just turn it over.

When I lived in Brooklyn, I would go home after happy hour and pass out ( I had a loooong ride). I can't tell you how many times I've woken up at the last stop, nowhere near my apartment. One night after a particularly great happy hour, I got on the train at 10 PM and got to my house at 3AM because I kept passing out on the train, and waking up at Coney Island, then Park Slope (I think). Another time I woke up in Coney Island clutching a bag of kitty litter. Mind you, I lived in Bay Ridge. On the other hand, my friend had his wallet stolen when he passed out drunk and ended up in Coney Island. Point is, if you're aware of your surroundings you should generally be fine. If you're that nervous, turn it around.

This. 

If I find myself in a place that I probably shouldn't be, or that I'm completely unfamiliar with and it could be a bit scary, I make myself hyper-aware of the surroundings, act like I belong there and walk [or on the subway - sit] with confidence.  I think you're a lot less likely to get robbed if you're not on your phone or so distracted that someone sees you (or your stuff) as an easy target.

Another option is to always keep $60 in your wallet in case someone confronts you.  But honestly if that happened I'd much rather give away my engagement ring than risk my life.

Very true, I think what I said originally might have been taken out of context. I'm not paranoid or anything of that matter. I'm not used to wearing a ring or taking public transportation in VA, so I didn't even know if it was a thing to not wear your ring on the train. I appreciate it. Thanks.

KatieinBkln

Jaslorraine22 said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

Okay now. Just so we're clear--if you live in Elmhurst then your contact with the scary, scary Queensbridge Houses entails having ONE train stop in that neighborhood. On your way to Manhattan. On a crowded train car. Acting like having to spend 30 seconds in the presence of the "thieves" at 21st street station is a horrifying danger is both ludicrous and snobby.

Honestly, this is tiresome. If your best friend told you not to wear your ring, why aren't you asking HER how she would deal with it? You're getting pushback because the statistical likelihood of having your ring ripped off your finger is close to zero. I know you saw a scary thing. But it's still one anecdote in the face of a city that successfully provides safe subway rides for millions of people every day.

Listen your reading way too much into this. I don't care that much. 1,000 comments ago I said I'd turn the ring around. It's not that serious for me to read this long paragraph and I didn't ask her because I didn't want to. Thanks again!

Oh and I'm from East Elmhurst, but I have also lived in QB and I actually get off at that stop and visit my family over there. I'm not talking about a 30 second wait.

One thing I've noticed about people who don't care--they always bother to read people's responses and reply to them! 

At this point I'm pretty sure you're trolling. If you lived at QB then shouldn't you have SOME idea how to handle yourself there? I mean, even a little tiny bit, despite only having ever worn hoops? 

Happy to continue discussing as long as you continue dropping nonsense in your replies. I'm having fun! 

[Deleted User]

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

Okay now. Just so we're clear--if you live in Elmhurst then your contact with the scary, scary Queensbridge Houses entails having ONE train stop in that neighborhood. On your way to Manhattan. On a crowded train car. Acting like having to spend 30 seconds in the presence of the "thieves" at 21st street station is a horrifying danger is both ludicrous and snobby.

Honestly, this is tiresome. If your best friend told you not to wear your ring, why aren't you asking HER how she would deal with it? You're getting pushback because the statistical likelihood of having your ring ripped off your finger is close to zero. I know you saw a scary thing. But it's still one anecdote in the face of a city that successfully provides safe subway rides for millions of people every day.

Listen your reading way too much into this. I don't care that much. 1,000 comments ago I said I'd turn the ring around. It's not that serious for me to read this long paragraph and I didn't ask her because I didn't want to. Thanks again!

Oh and I'm from East Elmhurst, but I have also lived in QB and I actually get off at that stop and visit my family over there. I'm not talking about a 30 second wait.

One thing I've noticed about people who don't care--they always bother to read people's responses and reply to them! 

At this point I'm pretty sure you're trolling. If you lived at QB then shouldn't you have SOME idea how to handle yourself there? I mean, even a little tiny bit, despite only having ever worn hoops? 

Happy to continue discussing as long as you continue dropping nonsense in your replies. I'm having fun! 

This is what is most confusing to me. I am not from NY and I'm not concerned at all. Legit from a farm town in southern NJ with parents who are terrified of the city (for them this mean Philadelphia, and they are even more afraid of NYC). I guess I just don't get not knowing how to conduct yourself if you grew up there, despite never having been engaged before. Just use common sense and be aware of your surroundings.

Jaslorraine22

abcdevonn said:

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

KatieinBkln said:

Jaslorraine22 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Where on earth are you going? I'm walking around the city today, using public transit and everything, and I'm wearing diamond earrings, necklace, and a ring. Zero fears. This is not a thing and is why we laugh at out of towners.

Are you in Queensbridge Housing? The city is beautiful, I love it. But when I go home, it's to Queens and I go to Bed-Stuy to visit too. I'm not fearful, I was just asking a question.

Okay now. Just so we're clear--if you live in Elmhurst then your contact with the scary, scary Queensbridge Houses entails having ONE train stop in that neighborhood. On your way to Manhattan. On a crowded train car. Acting like having to spend 30 seconds in the presence of the "thieves" at 21st street station is a horrifying danger is both ludicrous and snobby.

Honestly, this is tiresome. If your best friend told you not to wear your ring, why aren't you asking HER how she would deal with it? You're getting pushback because the statistical likelihood of having your ring ripped off your finger is close to zero. I know you saw a scary thing. But it's still one anecdote in the face of a city that successfully provides safe subway rides for millions of people every day.

Listen your reading way too much into this. I don't care that much. 1,000 comments ago I said I'd turn the ring around. It's not that serious for me to read this long paragraph and I didn't ask her because I didn't want to. Thanks again!

Oh and I'm from East Elmhurst, but I have also lived in QB and I actually get off at that stop and visit my family over there. I'm not talking about a 30 second wait.

One thing I've noticed about people who don't care--they always bother to read people's responses and reply to them! 

At this point I'm pretty sure you're trolling. If you lived at QB then shouldn't you have SOME idea how to handle yourself there? I mean, even a little tiny bit, despite only having ever worn hoops? 

Happy to continue discussing as long as you continue dropping nonsense in your replies. I'm having fun! 

This is what is most confusing to me. I am not from NY and I'm not concerned at all. Legit from a farm town in southern NJ with parents who are terrified of the city (for them this mean Philadelphia, and they are even more afraid of NYC). I guess I just don't get not knowing how to conduct yourself if you grew up there, despite never having been engaged before. Just use common sense and be aware of your surroundings.

Ok thanks